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MY 13 almost 14 month old ds has turned diaper changes into the worst experince in the world. I dread changing his diaper and soemtime I know I make him stay in a wet diaper longer then he should. The minute I pick him up and take him in his room for a change he starts kicking, screaming, bitting, hitting. He will not sit still long enough for me to even take his clothes off. One diaper change turns into a 30 minute battle of wills. First I take his pants off if I'm lucky I can unsnap the whip the diaper off also. I try to get another one on him as fast as I can but he usually wins and runs around naked screaming and crying then I pin him down again and struggle to put another diaper on him and get his pants back on. The entire time he is kicking, screaming, and crying. He gets so worked up he sobbs for 5 to 10 minutes later. I've tried giving him toys, singing songs, playing games and nothing works. I hate putting him through this. My parents who watch him occasionally refuse to put him in cloth anymore and he wears Pampers first steps pull on pants. He still fights but it is nothing like getting cloth on him. It is just a matter of catcing him and rippig the dirty diaper off and putting the clean one on. This takes less then two minutes. He is much more cooperative with the pull on disposies. No screaming and crying more like wresteling his wiggling body out of the dirty and into the clean. I need some help on making cds as easy to get on and off as disposie pullons. I'm at my witts end and feel like I am tourturing my child. I know I'm not but to see what we go through for every diaper change. I'm amazed the neighbors havn't call CPS. Oh and poopy diapers I've resorted to changing him in the bath tub because he gets poop everywhere. I have to gie him a complete bath becauuse he gets poop from one end of his body to the other. It is truly a nitemare. I also think he is not peeing and pooping as often as he should because diaper changes are so traumatic.
 

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I can totally relate! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I think changing a very hungry crocodile would be easier right now than trying to change my 11th month old. It's almost impossible to get anything on him anymore, if he would just sit still I could get his diaper changed in no time but with all of the struggling it can sometimes take 10 min. My DH will only put on VB AIO's now because they are the easiest.<br>
The only thing I can use to get him to stay remotely still is food. A piece of banana bread and I can usually complete the task. I know its awful to associate food with diaper changes but I was at the end of my rope.<br><br>
Hope it gets easier for you!
 

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I hear ya mama. I've been going through the same thing for the last few days, although she doesn't hit and bite, she kicks and screams pretty good.<br>
And then I have to wrestle with her for 15 minutes. She's 15 months BTW.<br>
I have a pair of cloth training pants that have saved me a couple of times last week, and they worked very well (potty dance pants darlingdiapers.com under AIOs) Although they're not supposed to be used as a diaper, they work VERY well and are a piece of cake to put on.<br>
I tell her that if she doesn't wanna wear a diaper, she's gonna have to learn to use the potty LOL - like that's gonna get me anywhere anyway! But we try. The one day I sat her on the potty every 15 monutes for over an hour, but she peed in the training pants anyway. :LOL
 

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Thanks for the hugs. I feel like such a bad mom because I put my son through this 6 to 10 times a day. I don't know what to do...
 

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"this too shall pass" I keep telling myself. And it will<br>
She did this at 9 or 10 months for a few days or weeks also.<br>
It sounds like things can't possibly get any worse, so it will only get better <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Yep, we used to call it "croc rolling" because Alex would twist and thrash around so much! He started when he was around 12 months old ... and it did eventually get better. My best suggestions are distraction (like giving a special toy to hold and check out or a special drink to sip on only for diaper changes)<br><br>
Now Alex is 2 and when he wets his diaper he comes to show me, then runs away and hides. It never ends. :LOL
 

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oh man there is nothing worse that a poopy diaper change on a resistant kid!<br>
I think they all do at one time or the other.<br>
I remember when my dd was so difficult to change. I think she was a little older than your son tho. My mil had to resort to pullups too.<br>
Perhaps he does not like something about his diapers? Are you using dipes and covers, or aios? wool? Maybe he is sensitive?<br><br>
I'd bet it's just that he wants to stay doing what he is and doesn't like the feeling of being laid down and out of control.<br>
You might try just changing him wherever he is, rather than taking him to his room to do it. Just lay down a pad or prefold and do it right there. I confess to using a little TV to help me deal with a poopy one <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">: but he's probably too young for that to work.<br><br>
If you can think of a clever way to give him some input it might help. Perhaps let him pick the clean diaper? (hide the inappropriate ones) or let him pick from a variety of changing "stations". My dd loves to have me "diaper" her toys. I've diapered, kissed and nursed a lot of plastic little people in the last couple of years lol. Hey at least they cooperated.<br><br>
oh and it is possible to nurse and diaper change if you are bf. Sit crosslegged on the floor, have him lay down with his head facing you almost in your lap and hang over to nurse while you do the deed. It's very hard to clean a poopy this way tho. He could also lay on a table while you do the same thing nursing. (this one really freaks out the relatives - an added bonus!) :LOL<br><br>
Even when not changing his diaper, play some games with him that involve him laying on his back in the diaper changing position. I like to do a version of wheels on the bus with my dd except it's the "legs on the Rowan" or the "shoulders on the Rowan" etc....I cannot sing btw but she seems to enjoy it.<br><br>
At one time, I kept a side snapping aio already snapped on the loosest setting handy and just let dd step into it when it was clear she would not lay down for a dipe. Once she was in I could snap it more snugly. You could do that with any side snapping fitted and give him a little time before you added a cover. Avoid loose floppy or layin soakers tho as they will be hard to position if he's standing.<br><br>
good luck and be assured he will grow out of it!<br>
Elizabeth
 

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oh mama! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I can offer some empathy & let you know it does get better (not necessarily good, but better <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> ) we switched to those pampers 1st steps too for about 6 weeks until she started getting less insane at every change. now she flips out but much less so. still some aligator death rolls, but i can often get her to play with something instead of fight me to the death! :LOL<br><br>
good luck!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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We are going through the SAME thing...the only thing that keeps his attention for a minute is something he's NOT supposed to have. It IS hard right now...just the other day he stuck his jack and lily shoe in his poopy diaper before I could get it out from under him <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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This is what I've always done with my kids. It sounds mean, but it's much better to do it fast than fight over diaper changes.<br><br>
First off, I've never used a changing table- I always put the baby on the floor to change. Make sure you have everything you need (new dipe, wet washcloth, etc.) before you go in. I lay the baby down in her back, sit to her side. I put one leg on top of her chest so she can't roll away, and do a quick change. Although she's not always happy with this, it's much better to get it over with than engage in a long, drawn-out battle in which neither party comes away happy.
 

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I am not ashamed to admit that I've given my girls things like M&Ms, etc. to get them to cooperate during that horrid toddler diaper changing freak-out stage. It's a stage, it will pass, and you just need to figure out a way to get through it so that you stay sane. I've even given my wallet to Lexi at times- somehow those forbidden items always work best <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Don't feel bad- you're doing your job by changing him and he's doing his as a toddler to push you right over the edge :LOL It'll get better mama, really <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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My DD is 12 mos and much prefers being naked to diaper and clothing changes. In fact she spends most of the day without a shirt, in just a dipe and longies (if I can get them on!). I suggest, making sure that the wipes are warm and having some toys that are only for diaper changes to make it fun. Also, stick to simple diapers... fleece AIOs are terrific and highly absorbant.
 

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You HAVE to look up my previous posts!!!! This is EXACTLY what I posted about a couple of months ago, I was soooooooo discouraged.<br><br>
Guess what?!? It's gotten sooooooooooooo much better! Are diaper changes still a challenge? Yes, are they THAT much of a challenge - no, not at all. Sometimes, he even just "lets me" change him <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bigeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bigeyes"> Yes, sometimes he doesn't struggle at all! I find that now that his understanding is much better, I can talk him into a diaper change - I get him involved in choosing what diaper he wants to wear, ask him to help me wet the cloth to wipe him up, he even helps me wipe himself. :LOL Oh, I should mention that he's 17.5 months old now...<br><br>
HTH!<br><br>
Nada <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 
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