After years of thinking about it I have finally decided to leave. My husband is a good man, a loving man, a great father. I love him, but I have been unhappy for a long time. I am a very passionate woman and he is a very closed up man. This difference is passion has manifested in so many ways, but ultimately I need flowers, and praise, and a man who wants to have sex with me. I need someone who calls me during the day and not one who gets annoyed by my calls. I need someone who will bring me tea when I'm sick and brag to friends that I home birthed his two enormous children <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> He is a good man. He loves me as much as he could ever love anyone and if he could he would love me more. But he can't and my heart can no longer take the loneliness. I'm reading all your posts about abuse and infidelity and feeling really selfish that I'm ruining my children's lives because "he just doesn't love me enough". Any one else leave a decent man and decent marriage and feel like it was the right choice? I wish I didn't have to ask strangers for permission to leave, but I don't trust my own emotions anymore.