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Okay frst a disclaimer this isn't a lets talk about how horrible Deannas DD teacher is...<br>
DD told me about an incident that happened at school maybe yesterday?? THe class had a work sheet they were doing practicing writing the letter S, the dirrections said to write it 3 times. She said a student (call her N) wrote a lot of S's but did it really sloppy and that N hadn't been following dirrections all day. WHen I asked what happend she said. THe teacher got really angry and tore up N paper . I asked oh did shes have her re do it?? SHe said n that she crumbled it into a ball and tore it into little pieces and then hid it behind her back. I asked did she see this happen? SHe said no but she heard it.. I aksed how did N react she said she was sad. I then asked if it was a good idea for the teacher to have done that.. WHat she could have done instead. We talked about how sometimes we make choices we latter regret. I didn't want to excuse the teachers action (Assuming it really happened like this) but I 've also made so irrational decessiosn I've regreted.<br><br>
And a somewhat update... further talking with DD revealed was when the teacher commented about her not following dirrections and she tried to help her erase to re do.. N "fought" and covered her paper and the teacher crumpled her paper. She would go back and forth to weather she saw this in person or just heard it. I sounds like on one hand the teacher didn't intend to just destroy her paper but at the same time forgot her self and didn't act in the childs best intrest and allowed emotion to controll her.<br>
I've been very guility of this far more time I will ever admit even to myself I'm willing to give her teacher a "get outta bad situation with out parents prying" this one time....<br><br>
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I think you handled the talk with your dd just fine. But I really, really doubt that's what the teacher did. If your dd only heard about it from another student I'm thinking it was just a rumor way over exaggerated.<br><br>
You know that telephone game? Like, one person whispers "The sky is blue" into someones ear and the next person whispers it into another persons ear and so on and by the time the last person hears it they're saying, "Clowns like to cheer" or something.
 

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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">I think you handled the talk with your dd just fine. But I really, really doubt that's what the teacher did. If your dd only heard about it from another student I'm thinking it was just a rumor way over exaggerated.</td>
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She didn't hear it from another student she heard it her self. She told me the teachers words. and the words did sound like something the teacher would say. What she couldn't keep clear was if shes actually saw the teacher physically take the paper and rip it up.. she went back and forth from a big dramatic tearing to it got crumpled. SHEs then said the teacher had it in her fist behind her back that she asked about it but was told "never mind". I obviously think the truth is somewhere in the middle. I know N and I know she can umm "push buttons" I alos know her teacher she is very kind but the best of us sometimes do irrational things. I want DD to know this isn't okay but at the same time we are human and can learn from these.<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think you handled the talk with your dd just fine. But I really, really doubt that's what the teacher did. If your dd only heard about it from another student I'm thinking it was just a rumor way over exaggerated.</div>
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That's what I was going to say. My DD is 6 and is homeschooled and does this at home a lot. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> She will tell me an outright story about something that happened when I saw it happen myself, lol.
 

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Regardless of what exactly did happen, I think your response to what dd told you was fine. I'm a teacher, so I thank you for making a general statement about people doing things they may regret later instead of showing negativity about the teacher. I certainly hope she didn't really intentionally tear up or crumple the paper! What a terrible thing to do.
 

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I agree with ecoteat that it is important to show respect for teachers when with our children, even if we disagree with something the teacher did. There are ways of addressing problems with teachers without involving our children. You handled it very well. Keep an eye on things though!!
 
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