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i can't believe i am posting this, but i absolutely have to ask.<br>
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my periods have been totally out of whack since i quit the pills 2 years ago. never regular, with big intervals. this Thursday i started a period after not having one for 3 and a half months. my breasts we really really hurting for about a week beforehand - i could hardly move my arms without them hurting. thursday through saturday afternoon i was having lots of bleeding and period cramps. took advil. then saturday night i hardly had any bleeding and just some cramps. and so was sunday. usially my periods are 6 days long, so this was quite strange, but with my periods not being normal anyway i figured - who knows? so today is monday and i only had a couple of drops since the morning and it really looked like it was coming to an end. then about an hour ago i started having pretty bad cramps. went to the restroom and felt like a clot was gonna come out. so i caught it in in a piece of toilet paper. it looked like a drop abot 1centimiter in length. it was kida tough to the touch and felt like there was something inside of it. so i tore it and there was indeed something inside, but i can't describe it. just soft and not as dark i think. but again, i am not entirely positive because evevrything ws in blood and messy.<br>
i was just freaked out of my mind. my hubby and i had unprotected sex about a month ago (again, we are not entirely sure of the date, but know we had it about a month ago). so now i am thinking i have miscarried. am i nuts? was it just a clot/ how can i know for sure?
 

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I'd think that was what happened if it happened to me too. Unless you've kept the clot though, it's probably hard to know...I suppose an OB could tell by looking at your cervix, or you could have some quantitative HCG levels taken. One of my miscarriages went like that--with cramping and bleeding, then slowing down, then cramping and bleeding again...Either way, that sounds really rough. I'm sorry.<br><br>
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Leah,<br>
although i was in a state of total shock, but my brain was clear enough to keep the clot. i wrapped in in toilet paper and put it in a ziplok bag. it is now in my frige. i don't have a doc or a mw right now. left a message for one midwife i heard is pretty good. may be she'll call me back tomorrow.<br>
i am thinking that they can tell for sure if they send the clot to the lab.<br>
we weren't even trying right now, so i don't even know what to think. if i was to get pregnant by accident, though, we both knew we would keep the baby. but it is just surreal to think that i could have been pregnant. omg! i have so many emotions right now. mostly mixed.<br>
we'll see if that mw calls me back tomorrow.
 

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i know not much time had passed since i left a message for that midwife (about 4:30 pmlast night. it is abou 11:30am our locaal time here right now) and there could be multiple reasons she hadn't called. i am not even her patient. we never met. she doesn't know who i am. i did say in a message what i think had happened and was sking if she, as a midwife could help me or if she recommends i see an md or something. i said something along the lines of "i'm looking for some guidance in this situation".<br>
she could be at a birth, she could be having a day off, she might only be having office hours later in the day today ... there are a gazzilion of resons i can come up with why she hadn't called without thinking that she just doesn't want to help me.<br>
but how long should i wait? should i try calling someone else?
 

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There are many reasons why she might not yet have called you back, as you already recognize.<br><br>
May I ask, without offending you, what exactly it is that you want her to do? Do you want to know that you were pregnant? Why?<br><br>
From what I can tell from your posts, it seems you have a completely freaky endocrine system right now. Yes, it could have been a miscarriage. Yes, it could have simply been a funky bleeding spell. Do you really want to go through the hoops of taking the tissue in and having it examined and analyzed? Not to mention the expense, since I doubt insurance will pay for it.<br><br>
Do you think you were pregnant? If so, don't depend upon a lab tech to tell you if you were or weren't. Honor *your* feelings. How will you feel if you think you were pregnant, and then some lab report comes back saying you weren't? Won't you feel even more confused and saddened?<br><br>
It sounds to me like you think you were pregnant and had a miscarriage. So be it, then. Nurture yourself. Drink plenty of red raspberry leaf tea, rest, eat well, and come to peace with the loss of your child. Do something to honor this baby, if you wish, and while you are at it, honor yourself and your husband as well.<br><br>
If you don't think you were pregnant, well, then treat this episode as the episode of breakthrough bleeding that you think it is. How is your diet? Are you getting enough exercise? Do you have a family history of hormonal imbalances? Perhaps when the midwife gets back with you, you can schedule an appointment with her, to discuss your menstrual irregularities and whether they are a cause for concern or are merely a deviation from normal.<br><br>
Which ever path you chose, I hope you are feeling better soon. I hope you trust in your body and your heart, and also know that women are incredibly strong and healthy beings. You know the answer to your question.<br><br>
Lori
 

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gosh Lori, you are just so right about things...<br><br>
i was just so freaked out by what happened ... i know there's nothing a mw would be able to do to "fix" the situation. i think i was looking for some kind of answer. just something. why? to calm me down. i am the kind of person who "needs to know". i just do.<br><br>
but yes, you are right - what's the point?, especially because we weren't trying right now anyway. i'm not gonna call anybody else. if that mw calls me back, i'll see what she has to say. if she doesn't, i'll take it at that.<br><br>
i already tried accupuncture a year ago to try and straighten out my menstrual problems, but it didn't help at all.<br>
and i really don't know anybody to ask for refferals. not one single soul. only web boards like this, but sometimes i am not sure if i can trust the recommendations made on the internet. i went to see a mw my accupuncturist recommended (the accupuncturist herself was found through another web board), and she was nice and all, but her main thing was that if i hadn't had a period in 3 months, i should take hormones to induce it. other then that, ... oh well.<br>
my periods weren't like this before the pill and i wish i had a specialist to discuss it with and stuff, but i don't know who to go to. really. even the mw i left a message for today, i know her name from this board. that's all i can rely on.<br>
but now i am just ranting. i'll stop here.
 

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I think I had a miscarriage earlier this year before we conceived this baby.<br>
I had some spotting off and on, then one day had horrendous cramping, I was laying on the couch practically crying, and I never cramp with my period.<br>
I had some huge clots/stuff come out, then the pain stopped and the bleeding almost quit.<br><br>
Now I dont know for sure, I think it was a miscarriage, but there was nothing to do after the fact, so I just let it go. If you have an early miscarriage, there is nothign a dr or mw can do anyway.<br>
I dont think I'd be trying to confirm it. Just rest, take care of yourself, but if you have any symptoms that might point to infection, then call your dr, but otherwise, just take it easy.
 

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If you wanted to, you could see what a pregnancy test would say....<br><br>
Just a thought.<br><br>
I'm the same way about *needing to know* things.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s to you.
 

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valeria-vi -- Sounds like you've gotten a lot of thoughtful information from this thread. I just wanted to add that when I came off the pill I had about 1 year of not having periods and 1 more year of balancing everything out (Female Formula by Zand was finally my saving grace).<br><br>
But, I had one period that is very similiar to how you described. It had a lot of cramping and then when I should have been done with it I passed a huge clump onto my toilet paper. I'd never seen a clot like it before or since. I even called my husband and asked him what he thought I should do. I was confused. In the end I just decided I would probably never know exactly if it was a miscarriage or just a wierd clot. I took the time to look within and talk to any future children I might have. I let them know that I will love to meet them someday and that we weren't ready for them quite yet.<br><br>
That's what worked with me. Something else might be the answer for you.
 

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thanks so much for your warm replies.<br><br>
can't write much right now, i'll have to get back here later.<br><br>
for now, i'll just say that teh mw called me about an hour after i posted here saying she didn't call me yet. she was nice and friendly. but after talking with her i understaood what you are saying here - you'll most likely never know.<br>
i decided that the only thing i would do is i will take a pg test. it came back negative this morning. so i have to live in peace with what happened and i am getting there.<br><br>
i'll write more later.<br><br>
peace.<br><br>
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Just offering a hug my friend! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
I think that Lori put it very beautifully when she said:<br>
It sounds to me like you think you were pregnant and had a miscarriage. So be it, then. Nurture yourself. Drink plenty of red raspberry leaf tea, rest, eat well, and come to peace with the loss of your child. Do something to honor this baby, if you wish, and while you are at it, honor yourself and your husband as well.<br>
Which ever path you chose, I hope you are feeling better soon. I hope you trust in your body and your heart, and also know that women are incredibly strong and healthy beings. You know the answer to your question.<br><br>
God bless you & comfort you in this most confusing time......
 

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I miscarried during my father funeral. I didn't know I was pg and I didn't know I was m/cing but when I figured it out I needed to grieve. I was glad to know that the child I was carrying was my spirit baby. I actually felt more confident in my pregnancy with dd b/c I'd had a 'trial' pg. It is a different set of emotions that comes with unknown m/c. I just want you to know you are not alone.<br>
Lauren
 
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