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My husband and I were just watching the morning news, and there was a horrifying clip of a father standing at a bus stop holding his infant son, and a car crashed into them-he and baby were both essentially fine, but the footage was so intense that I freaked out and started crying...it really affected me. My husband knows I get emotional, but I thought judgin from his reaction to me, that perhaps i overeacted a bit.<br><br>
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I don't understand why they show that stuff. I would have cried too. My first thought is always something like "that easily could have been me". Maybe a strong reaction, but I'm not going to say you overreacted. Maybe part of the problem is most people see horrible things and don't have any feeling at all about them <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I don't think you overreacted at all. I think it makes a statement about the world we live in that terrible things like that are shown on the news - like it's entertainment. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Definitely not. I've cried just from reading the headlines on the front page of the morning paper, though. It doesn't matter that they were ok - the video was not only graphic, but you can tell that it easily could have ended badly, or you realize that it could have been you and your children... that's powerful stuff.
 

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No, what you saw was horrible and it should never have been shown on network television.<br><br>
This is one reason we don't have TV programming. You'll be sitting there enjoying it and all of a sudden they'll traumatize you without any warning. Watching only DVDs, we have a predictable experience at least. (Overly predictable, in the case of the very formulatic romantic comedy!)
 

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I would have not reacted well to that either. Ugh. ((hug))
 

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Definitely not. I cry at that stuff too. The other night DW wanted me to watch a cat video on youtube and I thought it was going to be a funny one, but it was sad and I stopped part way through and was crying so hard she probably thought I was going nuts. I continued crying about it off and on the rest of the night. But I'm pregnant so I blamed it on hormones.
 

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Oh, no way, I would have freaked out too! And of course these things are way worse when they're sprung on you without warning.<br><br>
I have found that since I became a mother I have almost no tolerance for sad stories. I cannot help but personalize them every.single.time. Just the thought of MY baby in danger is too much...so I am much much more empathetic towards the pain of others now. My husband? This did not happen to him, but luckily he recognises my limits and does not foist this stuff onto me.
 

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Dude! Was there any warning? I really hate when they show stuff like that on TV. I have heedied the warning when news casters say the video is grafic, but just know that everyone is okay before we play the tape blah blah blah. But they don't always say something. I would have been horrified watching as well. And if there was no warning before they played the tape I think you can shoot the news station an email telling them it was upsetting to you.
 

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Uhhh... I got a lump in my throat just reading that. What an awful thing to see! I'm glad the report said they're okay.
 

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I don't cry when I see stuff like that, but it haunts me. If I see a clip like that involving a baby it will be all I think about forever, I can't get images like that out of my mind. And I get in a panic thinking about 'what if it were MY baby'. A while back there was a clip of a baby in a stroller rolling onto a train track just as a train came by (the baby ended up being fine!), but I still think about that every time I have my son in his stroller near traffic, I grip the stroller and wear the wrist strap. Ugh, and now I'll probably be thinking of that stupid clip all day again!
 

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I really wonder at the desensitization of our society as well...the other day Oprah had on some boys who were severely abused and suffering extreme cases of malnourishment, and I could not believe how the entire audience wasn't just sobbing the whole time...eventually the boys were adopted by parents who treated them well, and they were rebuilding their lives, but my god-how can you not weep for them? I wonder how much of it is because I was abused as a child...or if I am just super empathetic. I have a friend who says that empathy is a higher emotion, so I should be glad that I am that way-but sometimes I feel like I have to close myself off from society in order not to be triggered by things-so many things outrage me and make me just want to sob in a corner.
 

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I started a thread about this a while back. What Cant you handle anymore now that your a parent.<br><br>
I have always been somewhat sensative, but now that I am a mother, my sensativity levels are through the roof. I can't read certain things, watch certain movies. HELL, Lost last night buggedf me, when the new mother of twin boys was killed before she had a chance to birth the placenta!<br><br>
My husband thinks Im nuts too. I just tell him hes missing the sensativity chip I pocess. My fragility is what makes me the compassionate, caring and nourturing HUMAN BEING that I am. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
I would have cried with you, for reals!
 

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This is the reason I no longer watch the news!<br><br>
It started because I didn't want my kids to see it. But everytime I have a chance to watch it alone, I am quickly reminded that nobody should be dwelling on all of that horrible stuff. It cannot be healthy.<br><br>
Is it true that Canadian news is nice positive stories???
 

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I would have bawled. I can't even watch the news. I can't sleep if I do.<br>
(And happymommy, I'm in canada)
 

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I often cry even when there are good outcomes. Simply because I know it could have meant death. I suppose I cry happy tears that comes out as sad.
 

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I do not think you over-reacted at all either. I hate it when they show stuff like that. It is horrifying to the mind let alone to the spirit! I would have cried too.
 

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I agree, you are an intelligent and loving person for reacting that way!<br><br>
You saw something HORRIBLE. Just b/c it was on the news doesn't mean it wasn't a real thing you saw; our minds/bodies haven't exactly caught up to the idea of "just TV" and it was REAL anyway. I think it IS sad how hard people have gotten, and I think that overexposure is part of the problem-- I don't watch the news b/c it's all so salacious, this kind of thing for jollies. I try to focus on KEY world events and then local events. I don't think humans were designed to take in the whole world's problems.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">This is the reason I no longer watch the news!<br><br>
It started because I didn't want my kids to see it. But everytime I have a chance to watch it alone, I am quickly reminded that nobody should be dwelling on all of that horrible stuff. It cannot be healthy.<br><br>
Is it true that Canadian news is nice positive stories???</div>
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No. It's not. I had the misfortune to be watching Olympics coverage in February and see the death of the Georgian luger, Nodar Kumaritashvili, because there was no warning of any kind on the footage. I almost threw up.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I don't cry when I see stuff like that, but it haunts me. If I see a clip like that involving a baby it will be all I think about forever, I can't get images like that out of my mind. And I get in a panic thinking about 'what if it were MY baby'. A while back there was a clip of a baby in a stroller rolling onto a train track just as a train came by (the baby ended up being fine!), but I still think about that every time I have my son in his stroller near traffic, I grip the stroller and wear the wrist strap. Ugh, and now I'll probably be thinking of that stupid clip all day again!</div>
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I saw that! what a nightmare!
 
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