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I plan on child-led weaning. That is still the plan, but....<br><br>
Did you ever go through a time when you thought you and your child might actually be happier if you weren't nursing. Ds is 2.5 and most of the time nursing isn't even actually nice.<br><br>
It seems like I am constantly having to remind him to be gentle and to stop kicking, jerking around etc. He begs for numma and then sits down with me only to nurse for a milisecond or starts being to rough and it turns into me having to set limits and stop the nursing session before he hurts me. Then he cries and has a tantrum. I feel I just have to set limits or he is nursing too rough and I can't allow that.<br><br>
And lately he's been waking up so much at night. I had him down to two nursings a night (and even that was rough) but now he's waking much more often and hard to get back down without nursing, but I feel I need limits here too or we'll be up all the time again.<br><br>
I don't know if it would actually be easier if he were done, but sometimes it feels like that.<br><br>
Sigh.<br><br>
(I should probably mention that we just moved across the country and a lot of things are new for him)
 

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What is he doing to hurt you? If he's pinching or wiggling, maybe he just needs something to do with his hands. My DD, 2.5 also, usually plays with something while nursing. Sometimes she sits in my lap and watches TV while nursing. If she hurts me ( usually wiggling too much), I say " ow that hurts, let go" and then I let her relatch and try again. I usually remind her that I can't give her milk if it hurts, and she's gentler.<br>
If you're ending the nursing sessions often your DS could be getting too excited and that could be making him wiggle more. With the new move he probably really needs to nurse more than before the changes. If he's also getting his 2 year molars that could also be waking him up. My DD finally got all of hers and is sleeping much better.
 

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<span><span style="font-family:'Franklin Gothic Medium';">jrose_lee,<br><br>
I am so sorry you have been having a hard time at the moment with your two year old son.<br><br>
My son is only 11 months old, so breastfeeding has only begun for us.<br>
I think it is perfectly normal for some mothers to feel overwelmed at times breastfeeding or not.It sounds like you son is going though a stage at the moment or feeling insecure and I am sure it will get better soon enough. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
When ever I feel down about breastfeeding I always look up the good things about it, it helps to see it written down sometimes for me.<br><br>
Read this article,<br><a href="http://www.lightparty.com/Health/10ReasonsToBreastfeed.html" target="_blank">http://www.lightparty.com/Health/10R...reastfeed.html</a><br><br>
and here is more cuddles <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"></span></span>
 

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thanks everyone....I know I need to just stick with it and it will probably get better. Re-reading my post, most of this is probably just due to moving. Before we left we had a pretty good nursing relationship. It's just after we got here that the pinching, jolting, wiggling, hitting, whining while nursing started. I'll just try to get through. Hopefully he'll get accustomed to his new surroundings and everything will get a bit better. Sigh.
 

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<span><span style="font-family:'Franklin Gothic Medium';"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
I really hope things get better for you soon,<br>
Perhaps contact an LC for advice??<br>
I am pretty sure you can do it by email,<br>
Just a suggestion.</span></span>
 

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I think it is always normal to be questioning the breastfeeding relationship. I know I was questioning when my DS was 2.5 yrs... I was tandem nursing him and his sister at the time. It took a lot out of me to be doing all that nursing, but there were benefits too. The trouble never outweighed the risks for long, and I led him to self wean a little while after he turned three. It was a huge relief for me and took some pressure off our relationship... for a while anyway. It made me think I should have weaned him sooner, but then when he got close to 3.5 yrs things got stressful again, so I realized that the stress between us wasn't due to the nursing, it is just a natural part of our relationship. We are both high strung and one of us is 3.5. It's guaranteed to be stressful!<br><br>
I think you should be patient, set clear limits, and give him a lot of second chances (stop when he's hurting, but let him try again after clarifying the rules). This is advice I try to follow myself with DS every day, and he has been weaned for almost a year now.<br><br>
HTH-
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think it is always normal to be questioning the breastfeeding relationship. I know I was questioning when my DS was 2.5 yrs... I was tandem nursing him and his sister at the time. It took a lot out of me to be doing all that nursing, but there were benefits too. The trouble never outweighed the risks for long, and I led him to self wean a little while after he turned three. It was a huge relief for me and took some pressure off our relationship... for a while anyway. It made me think I should have weaned him sooner, but then when he got close to 3.5 yrs things got stressful again, so I realized that the stress between us wasn't due to the nursing, it is just a natural part of our relationship. We are both high strung and one of us is 3.5. It's guaranteed to be stressful!<br><br>
I think you should be patient, set clear limits, and give him a lot of second chances (stop when he's hurting, but let him try again after clarifying the rules). This is advice I try to follow myself with DS every day, and he has been weaned for almost a year now.<br><br>
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Thank you. That does help. I think I should remember that there would probably be stress with us at some point no matter what. Neither of us are exactly completely easy going go with the flow people <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> Although I do try to be. It most likely wouldn't be all rosy if I weaned him...sometimes I just imagine that it would all be easier. It's' just so strange....he'll ask me to nurse and then he'll just whine the entire time. Like it doesn't make him happy....so why does he keep asking for it. Or he'll always end up doing something to hurt me on purpose so that we have to stop and then he gets upset. It's like nursing doesn't make him happy anymore. Maybe only less than 10% of the time.
 
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