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when you made the decision to homeschool?<br><br>
We had mentioned in passing before to family and I know they thought we were not serious about it. The thing is ...we are serious now (we were mulling it over for a while). At least for Junior and Senior Kindergarten, which in Ontario aren't manditory anyway.<br><br>
Well I was talking to my mom on the phone and we were talking about us moving back home after 12years and I was explaining we would still be doing a lot of travelling but based there for cost reasons. She was like "well sky can travel back for a couple days while you and Tyr stay home while he is at school" I broke it to her that, no, we will all be travelling and we will be homeschooling as it will be the best choice for us. I could tell by her tone and her hmmming and uhawing that she thought we were looney to think about doing it. She was trying to tell me he had to go to school to have interactions with other kids. I proceed to tell her that I have researched homeschool groups in our home town and that there are 35 families in the one group. This groups does tonnes of outings, and swimming, martial arts, group learning days, field trips etc....I think he will get the interaction. Plus he will see his 2 cousins frequently.<br><br>
I think, as parents, we have done well so far and in many academic areas he is far and above his cousin who is 1y3m older than him. I think he can learn and we can teach what is needed for the next 2 years, without worry. I just know that I am going to get a lot of flack about it. They are very much of the mindset that going to school is the only way to get an education.<br><br>
grrrr....sorry I just needed to vent and get some ideas on how to confront family members about this.
 

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I think you handled it well. You told her about your decision, and explained how her worry was not needed. If she continues to bring it up, I would calmly state that it isn't up for discussion.<br><br>
I bet that as they see the kids flourish, that they will realize that there is more than one way to educate children. Who knows, maybe they will become advocates <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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I would say many Hs-ers have troubles with family.<br><br>
My advice to people is just to not let it become part of the conversation. If you're chatting with me, You Just Won't Go There About Why You Think This Is A Bad Idea.
 

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We got a lot of eyerolling and some of the teachers in the family (who, unfortunately, are of the ilk that are teaching because they have issues and lording over children boosts their self-esteem) even put some serious, bitter distance between us... which suits me just fine.<br><br>
My inlaws were going to be the problem, but ds is 6yo and is so polite and articulate (and always telling them stuff that none of us ever knew) that they're really okay with it now. The fact that ds is at the same functional level as his 8yo twin cousins probably helps.<br><br>
Now... if my kid happened to be a more creative and artsy child who wasn't a voracious reader and spewer of all things trivial, I'm not exactly sure how they'd feel. But as he has progressed, the crap has certainly toned down.
 

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Mostly my family has either been supportive or at least kept their thoughts to themselves. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I have gotten some comments from a couple family members, including dp's dad. I really just brush it right off. As mush as I care for dp's dad he isn't exactly someone I'm trying to impress or concerned over his opinion anyway. His recent two cents was that the kids need to able to take instruction and listen to someone other than mom so that they will be able to get a job. They're 8 and 10. He lives in a different state so he doesn't even 'know' them. And I didn't point this out to him, but he went to public school and since I've known him he's been voluntarily unemployed (and even homeless living under a bridge and living in group homes and shelters) more often than not. All that practice taking directions from people in ps didn't seem to help him out much, did it? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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Thanks for all the insight everyone!<br>
I remember back when my cousin decided to homeschool everyone went on and on about how over protective she was and that the child would be "spoiled rotten", the only positive thing they said was..."well at least she is a teacher so she is qualified". Whatever.
 

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I was nervous to bring it up with family members. But I was really lucky that they've all taken it really well, and been really supportive. My aunt, that is an elem teacher, sent me links to lots of resources. I had totally thought she'd be anti-homeschool, but she sees the benefits. My mom has concerns - but they are mostly about ME coping without many breaks from the kids. She's just been urging me to find a good network of other hs'ers to support me.<br><br>
I guess that's not the answer you wanted, but reading your post made me realize how lucky I've been. Although we haven't told my in laws yet ... and they aren't known to be super open-minded. LOL
 
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