[tonimk19]

DD is 18 months and I'd like to have her weaned and in her own bed by October when she turns 2 (or mostly on her way). This is obviously my want/ need as we will most likely TTC #2 in October and I cannot imagine having morning sickness/ nursing/ being uncomfy in bed. I'm OK with having DD in our room if she can be in her own bed (she has a toddler bed she plays in now that we can use or buy a twin).

So, Mamas who co-sleep and nurse your toddler, did you wean your baby before or after you moved them from the family bed? We're going to start slow this summer sometime with night weaning and work our way to full weaning. Though I don't want to push both on her at the same time and traumatize her. Suggestions? (It's not an option to tandem nurse or co-sleep with 2 babes once I'm PG). Oh, I also work FT outside the home and know the she nurses more at night because I don't get to see her all day (though I do go home and nurse her at lunch) so this needs to be considered too. I'm so stressed even thinking about it. TIA

 

[astrophe27]

We never slept in my bed. We coslept in her room in her twin bed. And I left it but still would nurse her down. So she weaned long after she was in her room in her bed.

I did it that way because I figured it would be easier for me to cope with moving back to my own bed than to 1) get her out of the big bed in my room that she got used to, 2) get her used to a new size bed and 3) get her used to being a new room.

This way all she had to get used to was 1) my leaving after she fell asleep because she was already used to her twin bed and her room. Less she had to deal with.

A.

 

[alegna]

I neither plan to wean nor remove her from our room

But I'll answer.

Dd has started moving out of our room (was completely out for a few months, then slowly moved back and now goes back and forth) and she still nurses.

For some reason I always thought she'd wean first, but that doesn't seem to be the case.

-Angela

 

[crazydiamond]

DD definitely weaned after she moved to her own room. She wasn't big on co-sleeping in the first place, but she did sleep in our room on a PnP until she was over a year. Then she transitioned to a crib in her own room, and then later a regular bed. She weaned at 2.5 when I got pg with DS.

From the time she went to her own room until she was about 2, DD woke up once per night to nurse. This happened around 2-3am, so I'd just bring DD in my bed once she woke up and she'd spend the rest of the night with me. Around age 2, she stopped waking at night and thus she stopped co-sleeping altogther. She spent the entire night in her bed. She wasn't weaned, though, and we'd nurse first thing in the morning, throughout the day, and then right before bed. We kept this up until pregnancy dried up my milk and she decided she was done. She continued to sleep in her own bed all night long. . .

until DS was born and coslept with us. She started realizing that our bed was party-central, or something, and now she jumps to our bed in the early morning (3-4am) almost every day. So now, it's 4 people crammed in a queen bed with no end in sight. LOL

 

[lotus.blossom]

My situation is similar to yours! My son was almost totally day weaned at 1 year except for one naptime nurse. We cut that out at 22m and we started to initiate nightweaning. I cut out the early morning sessions at first. We were up early for a bit! Then I worked my way back to just one at bedtime. When we cut that one there were some tears for a few nights. Just a mourning of a routine. But it worked out nicely because he also accepted sleeping in his own bed, and I got pregnant a few months later! I did spend a few hours each night sleeping in his bed with him at some point. But recently (as my 3rd trimester hit) we were able to explain to him that mama needed her own space and I wouldn't be sleeping with him anymore. He is a great sleeper now. I never though it would happen!

Goodluck on your journey and I hope that your DC is ready and it goes smooth!