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I'm going to start charting as soon as I get my bbt. I just stopped taking my pill today, so I should be getting AF tomorrow or Saturday. I've read TCOYF, but I really want DH to know what's going on and understand the cycle and rules. He doesn't seem interested in reading about it, though.

Any tips/tricks for getting him on board? He believes that it works, but I want him to know why, ykwim?

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it's been over two years.. I have read parts of it to him, and parts of the art of NFP. He understands that I have to not have fertile mucous to be safe and my temp must go up at least .2 (or .4 according to nfp rules) for several days to prove ovulation. Can he read my chart? sort of. That's one of the reasons I wish we'd taken a class on it. The ccli classes are couple classes. I wish he knew more about charting so I could get his opinion when I'm unsure.
 

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Mine had no interest in the book, but when I got the software he was totally on board. I did pencil charts for a few months, but he's too much of a technology snob to take much notice.


He also got a kick out of the little symbols in the chart, especially the "heart behind a shield" that stands for protected sex.
 

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Dh is not interested, but we are at the early stages. I reckon he would like software to input figures in, he is just trusting me to learn it, too busy with work, I guess I will come to this forum if I get stuck later.

Maybe it was just to early in the learning curve when I said to him last night: 'Hey honey do you want to check where my cervix is at?'
 

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I never asked my dh to read the book--I knew he would be 100% uninterested and it would be like him asking me to read a nice fat book on Linux OS or something or something equally yawn-worthy. But when I got the software he was totally supportive and he did look at my little charts and sort of understood what we were trying to accomplish. Not that it worked since we were TTA and we ended up with our little baby bean but it was a good effort.
 

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Not that it worked since we were TTA and we ended up with our little baby bean but it was a good effort.

Now that is not what I want to hear
 

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Dh knows more about the book than I do
He read it from cover to cover and had referred back to it often. I am very happy he did too b/c it really made him a part of the whole process and he has a greater appreciation of what goes on in my body.
 

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Now that is not what I want to hear

Well if it makes you feel better it wasn't the method that failed, it was me that failed! Best darn whoops of my life--I
my little man!
 

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DP read the whole book, it was really important to me that he understand where we were in terms of birth control if we were going to rely on it. And he found it interesting to read...though at that point we were dating, not living together, and I think he enjoyed connecting to me and learning about my body through reading the book.

As for NFP...well, we had some sort of mixup. I think it was a condom during the fertile phase that failed without obviously failing, but still...DP and I were talking about whether we would "trust" it in the future. I said it depends on how ready we feel to have four kids!
(Not that there's any other method of birth control I would feel comfortable with...so maybe we just have to be ready for a fourth if that's what happens
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No way.
I've read parts to him, and when he feels the need he comes and looks at my charts and asks me questions etc.
 

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My Dh has never read the book, but he knows my cycle without the book or the chart. I think he's just picked it up from me saing "yes we can dtd" or "no because..." and also because I talked to him a lot about while I was learning it. I wasn't learning FAM in a vacum, yk? I think the book just has too much detail that doesn't mean a thing to him. It's *my* body afterall, which is why the info was so amazing to get for me. But him? Probably not so fascinating to read in detail.
 

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DH got the basics along with me when we went for a 4-hour crash course in NFP before we were married (though right now, we practice FAM). Later, when I was reading TCOYF in bed at night, sometimes he'd glance over and check out what was going on, especially if there were pictures


But, like some of the other posters mentioned, he really is most interested in looking for the temperature rise / fall. I think he likes the fact that he can easily interpret the pattern himself. DH will usually asks me "What did it say?" when my thermometer beeps in the morning and I keep him in the loop by letting him know if we need a barrier method that particular occasion.
 

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I had little parts that I asked DH to read, and he did. I wanted him to understand what was going on and what the timing was. He did read the parts that I asked, and it helps that we're on the same page about TTC/TTA.
 
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