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I wish I could say that I was a skinny minny and that my weight gain during pregnancy didn't matter, but not the case. I just found out that I am preggo with #3. Dd is 13 months and I have been struggling with weight loss since her birth. I am quite overweight. I have enough here to spare and was wondering if there was a diet that I could follow that would allow me to get the nutrients I need and not gain any more weight. If you want to know what I weigh now, PM, but I would rather not post it since I am so mortified! I know that it is important to care for this babe and my nursling, but I also want my body to be in the best shape for this birth. (In the past my weight was brought up as an issue with hypertension, etc.- I am healthy, but heavy- just had blood work done a few months ago.) Suggestions, exercises, etc are welcomed. Thanks!
 

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Not gaining any weight is not a good idea. Your first concern needs to be getting adequate nutrition for you & baby. My MWs wanted me to have 60grams of protein daily, along with a lots of fruits & veggies and vitamins (a prenatal, something with DHA & plenty of cal/mag). If deprive yourself of good nutrition, it will be detrimental mostly to you but might affect your baby too. You need to be healthy for this baby & your other children.<br><br>
Can you walk? Walking while PG is great. Why do you think you're overweight? Poor food choices? Portion control?<br><br>
That being said, I was 35 lbs overweight when I got PG & gained about 20 lbs by the end. I focused on eating healthy stuff (which I do anyway, my problem is portions not the type of food I eat), but didn't deprive myself. The 20lbs all went away within a couple of weeks without changing anything, then I spent about 4 mths at pre-preg weight & now I am on Weight Watchers online (I've had great success with it in the past). WW has a program for pregnant women but you have to go to meetings, there's no way to do it online.<br><br>
I know how you feel. Why don't you make a committment to yourself to be <b>healthy</b> during this pregnancy & to focus on weight loss after baby comes.
 

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I am about 100 lbs over weight and this is what *I* am doing. I eat well for my body, no gluten, lots of veggies, fruit, meat, and eggs. I exercise as much as I can with 3 kids. I am down 7 lbs and am 15 weeks. I don't want to gain any weight either so I am just being very careful.<br><br>
My thought is talk to your MW or OB. Both of my past mw's said that I could not gain weight and even lose weight as long as I was eating plenty of the right foods and was not trying to do too much.
 

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Another morbidly overweight here, and I can honestly say I have usually gained very little during pregnancy.<br><br>
1) Quit eating candy - for me it was easy, I didn't like anything sweet/sugary..a treat is not bad.<br><br>
2) Portion control - eat a normal sized portion, not the big heaping/helping you normally would eat. You are not starving yourself, you are eating right.<br><br>
3) Exercise - walk, run, walk, yoga, pregnancy classes for exercise<br><br>
4) Cut out fried foods or limit them significantly.<br><br>
5) Stop eating out...<br><br>
6) For a light lunch eat salads, fruit.<br><br>
7) Stop drinking soda, drink water.<br><br>
I am probably 75 pounds over weight now, just gave birth 5 1/2 weeks ago and was probably 90 pounds overweight when I got pregnant. I gained a total of 12 pounds. With DS1 I gained 9 pounds; with DS2 I gained 5 pounds. And this is what I did. I also nursed through my pregnancies..
 

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There's all kinds of overweight. If you've got some extra baggage, you probably will still gain weight during pregnancy, just not as much as you would if you didn't. If you're "morbidly obese" (100 pounds or more overweight), experiencing no net gain may be healthy. But you've got to listen to your body... only it knows where your nutrient stores are at going into pregnancy and how fast you're using them up, so if you tune in, it will tell you what you need.<br><br>
If you're eating to hunger, going for protein and fresh veggies/fruits before simple and complex carbs, and reasonably active, you will gain exactly as much weight as your baby needs to be healthy. I actually had a VERY low tolerance for carbs during the first 18 weeks or so of this pregnancy; they gave me awful heartburn.<br><br>
I started my first pregnancy at 179 (I'm 5'2" and my "ideal" weight, based on experience, is 135), and gained 27 pounds. This time, I started at 189 (I was down to 163 a bit over a year post-partum, but then got a Mirena... grrrrr) and my 20-week appointment was the first one where I weighed more than the previous time. I'm still 3 pounds under my "baseline" weight. The MW "advised" me not to gain any more than 15 pounds, which is probably about what I will without even trying... after all, that will still put me at about the same finishing weight as with my first PG.<br><br>
Since your older child is only 13 months, you've probably still got some of the extra fat stores left over from nursing and all that good stuff, so your total weight gain will be lower than last time. But, depending on where you're starting, it may not be possible to avoid ALL weight gain and have a healthy pregnancy. Keep in mind, baby + placenta + amniotic fluid + increased blood volume alone weighs 14 pounds or more, so what you're asking is how to LOSE 14 pounds in 9 months while getting all the nutrients needed for a healthy pregnancy. It's doable for some, but whether it's healthy for *you* and your baby or not depends on your particular circumstances.
 

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I gained just 7lbs with my first, 8 with my second, and lost 11lbs with my third. While for many people, gaining weight is a necessary part of pregnancy, I don't feel that it was for me b/c I was already 'overweight' by all the charts you find. With dd, I lost 10lbs early on and after gaining that back, gained 7 more. I lost it all by 6 weeks pp. However, I appearantly had undiagnosed gestational diabetes which threw my body for a loop after the pregnancy ended. (Long story short- I was over-producing insulin and that, combined with the fact that my body was no longer insulin resistant, made my blood sugar too low most of the time so that I was passing out daily.) This all caused weight gain again.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: By the time I was pregnant with ds1, 6months later,I was already at the weight at which I had delivered dd!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I didn't gain early on but the last 6weeks I did gain weight. I did not loose any of it following his birth.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> When I got pregnant again 9mo later, I was so sick that I lost 10lbs in the first 12 weeks. By 24 weeks, I was diagnosed with GD again and began following a strict diet. I also went to curves 3 times a week for about 3 months before pubic pain and lack of time ended that. At the time of delivery, I was 1lb under my 'pre-pregnancy' weight from the drs office. AFA how the babies were- dd was 7lbs 1oz @39 weeks; ds1 was 6lbs 2oz @ 36 weeks; and ds2 was 5lbs 15oz @ 34 weeks 5 days. So the boys were good sized for gestational age and dd was right on target. I guess my only advice would be to try a diabetic diet- that is limiting your carb intake to about 190grams a day. I think that if I can keep doing that, I will be able to loose another 10lbs- I hope!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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Obese women have a good reason to not go over board w weight gain. I don't think there is a way to gain ZERO, but there are ways to minimize excess weight gain that is not attributed to baby.<br><br>
I've entered my last 2 pregnancies at above at 35BMI and managed to be 20lbs heavier instead of 50 to 70 like I was after the first. That might not seem like a big deal, but to me, being able to go back to 35BMI and not balloon bigger was a step in the right direction.<br><br>
I try to lay off all extra carbs and refined white products, in fact there are enough carbs in veggies and fruits that grains are not necessary in a healthy diet. In our house, our normal diet does not consist of many grains, but I have had craving attacks in pregnancy and let loose on the grocery store <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">.<br><br>
I did have chocolate daily, but in moderation 2 to 4 squares of a bar (dark is my favorite and I figured it has a healthy benefit so it was okay<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">).<br><br>
Mineral deficiencies can cause cravings, it is important to listen to those and know what to supplement with. I need extra magnesium, zinc and iron, that is just me.<br><br>
I had done WW in the past and I knew my "maintance" level of points and I knew what the leader had told me about pregnancy 3 to 6 extra points. So, that is what I did essentially.<br><br>
Counting calories is a place to start, but it really IMO is what your food consist of. Ditch the US food pyramid, it is the cause of diabetes, obesity, etc. WE do NOT need GRAINS to be the biggest portion of our diets. Veggies should be the 6-11 servings, meat next, fruits (natural sugars), healthy Omega 3 and 6 fats, more 3 than 6, then grains, if you must.<br><br>
All carbs are not bad, but too many of any type will cause a problem for the obese out of balance person. Veggies are carbs, but leveled w protein at each meal (3 meals and 2 snacks or 5 minimeals) makes them not a glycemic index nightmare.<br><br>
Unless you have a metabolic disorder, likey hypothyroidism, real food should not cause you to gain weight in theory. Real food being meats, veggies, fruits, raw milk, eggs, and cheeses -- all in moderation and not smoothered in sauces or "cassaroled up". If you don't have access to raw milk, then I would not drink store bought pasteurized milk period (it is poison, it would kill a baby cow, so why should you drink it?) <a href="http://www.realmilk.com" target="_blank">www.realmilk.com</a><br><br>
Anything processed is likely to have fillers like soy, chemicals like dyes, preservatives, and a number of other things that contribute to the imbalances a fat body has. Lay off soy, it is bad for the thyroid, whether or not you have an offical thyroid dysfunction or not, you probably do and just have not had the right tests yet. It is a very undx problem in the US in child baring women.<br><br>
It won't be easy. I know I would have a day where I fell to cravings, so I would just get back on w the next meal. I know it's hard, very hard. In the moment it is hard to think, if I eat this, I will regret it in 9mo. Or by starting today, next year this time I will be a better person. If I had stuck w what I know is true and right, I would not likely be a fat person right now.
 

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Hi Mama! I'm "morbidly" obese as well. I started this pregnancy at 286 and havent gained anything yet. When I was pregnant with my son I weighed 275 and gained 8lbs. I dont know how much you weigh but its totally normal to not gain anything or even lose weight if you're super obese like myself. Mostly what happens is when you're eating right you lose weight. Like say, giving up candy, soda, ice cream, replace it with fruits and vegetables. Your baby will still get what they need and you'll lose weight because your caloric intake goes down.<br><br>
I would not concentrate on not gaining though. Most of what you gain you'll lose with the baby or BF. You dont want to not eat to lose weight, so its best just to focus on being healthy.<br><br>
I'm vegetarian, so I eat lots of fruits (smoothies with protein powder and spinach, berries, oj, a date or two, and some cashews sooooo yummy!) and lots of beans. The best thing for me is not eating when I'm not hungry, which seems like a no brainer to a lot of people but for me, I really had to ask myself half way thru a meal "am I hungry? No not anymore!" and I'd be done eating. That has really helped.<br><br>
If you want to PM me we can be "buddies". Congratulations, and really as long as you're healthy dont sweat it!
 

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Go with the healthiest diet you can and get plenty of leisurely exercise...and then try not to worry about the number on the scale. I know it's hard. I'm plus-size too. But your body is wise about this, I think, if you can just feed yourself the right things. If you are eating well and exercising, you won't gain a huge amount, and if you gain a bit, well, that's weight your baby needs even if you don't want it.<br><br>
I really think that focusing on the scale a lot during pregnancy can stress you out more than it's worth. Just do what you would ordinarily do to live a healthy lifestyle, you know?
 

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Drink lots of water. Avoid drinking any sugar at all, and drink skim milk, a reasonable amount. This will help cut lots of calories out of your diet. It can be healthy to not gain any weight if you are morbidly obese. You have to be careful though that you are getting plenty of protein and nutrients for the baby. My aunt lost 10 lbs or so during her pregnancy, and had a very healthy baby, but did not escape pre-e or GD, but I'm sure those problems would have been worse with an extra 20-30 lbs of weight.
 

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This is really not advice, why? OBs and most medical doctors have very little training in nutrition. They will advise a diabetic Type II to eat the Type I on insulin diet -- NOT GOOD. My doc told me to eat less and exercise more when in fact I have autoimmune thyroid disease.<br><br>
And from my experience dieticians and nutritionist are working from the US Food Pyramid which is the cause of disease and their advice when I've gone to see them has been not worth my time or money.<br><br>
Also most OBs are not trained in nutrition of the morbidly obese or imbalances in the body causing someone to be obese. You might find help from nutritional based chiropractors, alternative therapy type practioners, however, many will shy away from working w someone who is pregnant due to liabilities.<br><br>
SO, that leaves Pregnant Obese women the most underserved!!! And leaves such women searching out ideas from other's who have btdt.<br><br>
So as a BTDT, I really hope whatever you decide to try that it works for you. I know if I were to get pregnant now, I would be the largest I've ever been and that is rather a scary predictament to be in.
 

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I had 2 preg. close together so I feel you. We're ave.-smallish in my family so weight is not a huge issue but I so didn't want to gain my usual 35 (or so) lbs. and end up with excess weight to take off. I gained 15 lbs. before I got pregnant with this one so I'll be watching my food choices but I think it's bunk to say every woman should gain a certain amount of weight. It just depends on where you are weight wise.<br><br>
Here's where I was: I'm 5'4" and went into a preg. at around 140 maybe. I told my mw "I do NOT want to gain alot of weight." She didn't have a problem with it. I simply made good food choices. Went easy on breads, pastas, etc. I NEVER deprived myself. I also exercised regularly - mostly hr. long walks 5 X a wk. I took in almost 0 empty calories - sodas, juices, etc. I went for high nutrients. I didn't start gaining weight until 5 mos. Mw was fine with that because my stats were good and the baby's growth was good - that's what it's really about. If I went in and the baby wasn't growing or my my hair was falling out she'd have been concerned, kwim? All in all I gained 15 lbs. and probably could have kept off the last 5 but I started cheating since I did so well<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
For some, my height/weight issue is minimal. Kind of true. But 140 is a good 15 lbs. over my typical weight and there's no point in adding to it when you don't have to. This is debated all over the web and for the most part, mom's get dogged by "You HAVE to gain weight." Not true. You HAVE to be healthy - and,frankly, there are babies being grown on cottage cheese cheetos and still coming out healthy(I'm not saying this is a wise choice<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">). But my point is eat healthy, take care of yourself, exercise. Then you're good.<br><br>
Funny enough, there is a program called Pregnancy Without Pounds. I know nothing about it. Just saw the website. I don't get the impression it's actually about gaining no weight at all but, rather, what most of us are talking about here. Heavy on the fruits/vegs and good protein choices. But again, I don't know, I'm not endorsing the site.<br><br>
BTW, all my kids were born around the same weight - 7.15, 8.6, and 8. My weight gains were 35, 40, and 15. That's why I'm just not buying the "you have to gain weight" theory.<br><br>
Read up on good nutrition yourself. You can do this. You just have to be smart about it.<br><br>
Good luck and I am definitely supporting you here. When I stop feeling like crap I'm getting on the healthy bandwagon, too<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
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I need a LOT of structure when it comes to nutrition. My hunger gauge is broken! I gained 80 lbs last pregnancy!<br><br>
This website is helping me this pregnancy:<br><br><a href="http://babyfit.sparkpeople.com/" target="_blank">http://babyfit.sparkpeople.com/</a><br><br>
Maybe it will help you too?<br><br>
Best of luck!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">This is really not advice, why? OBs and most medical doctors have very little training in nutrition. They will advise a diabetic Type II to eat the Type I on insulin diet -- NOT GOOD. My doc told me to eat less and exercise more when in fact I have autoimmune thyroid disease.<br><br>
And from my experience dieticians and nutritionist are working from the US Food Pyramid which is the cause of disease and their advice when I've gone to see them has been not worth my time or money.<br></div>
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Possibly true--but like all doctors there are good and bad ones. A good nutritionist can be extremely helpful. It's not useful to write off whole categories of people, I don't think.<br><br>
My doctor--who is a family doctor and totally "mainstream"--first directed me toward whole, real foods, when everything I was reading was saying to eat low-fat or low-carb or whatever. Some doctors do have useful things to say.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">This is really not advice, why? OBs and most medical doctors have very little training in nutrition. They will advise a diabetic Type II to eat the Type I on insulin diet -- NOT GOOD. My doc told me to eat less and exercise more when in fact I have autoimmune thyroid disease.<br></div>
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I think that's why she said to ask your HCP for a referral to a dietitian or nutritionist <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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Thanks for all your tips. I will definitely talk with my MW about this. Still have to schedule an appt since we just got our + on Sunday night.
 

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Actually I have read and seen on TV (those baby shows, FWIW) that it can be normal for very obese women not to gain weight during pregnancy. I don't know if your weight would be considered "very" obese or just obese.<br><br>
My advice is that you study calorie restricted diets that are used for longevity and health, not weight loss (though obviously they do end up resulting in weight loss). The reason I suggest this is because calorie restrictors are faced with a puzzle: how to pack the absolute highest amount of nutrients into the least amount of food. They inevitably end up choosing the healthiest, most nutrient dense foods available because otherwise they would be malnourished.<br><br>
People are going to have differing opinions on which foods are most nutrient dense, but I think this is a good list to start with:<br><br><a href="http://www.whfoods.com/foodstoc.php" target="_blank">http://www.whfoods.com/foodstoc.php</a><br><br>
That list contains meat and dairy selections as well as vegan.<br><br>
As a general rule you should cut out all HFCS, refined sugars and grains, all packaged/ prepared foods, try to be at least 50% raw plant foods, only consume the "healthy" fats (nothing hydrogenated). You might also want to investigate an alkaline diet. I was starting this until I developed horrible morning sickness and pretty much can't be picky about what I eat for a while.<br><br>
However I would be cautious about radical diet changes in pregnancy because you might be hit with morning sickness or food aversions. This is what happened to me and my diet is not great right now. The only thing that keeps the nausea at bay is sipping sugary tea all day... I was sugar free before that <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">.<br><br>
Feel free to PM me! I love talking about food, weight control, and nutrition!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">This is really not advice, why? OBs and most medical doctors have very little training in nutrition. They will advise a diabetic Type II to eat the Type I on insulin diet -- NOT GOOD. My doc told me to eat less and exercise more when in fact I have autoimmune thyroid disease.<br><br>
And from my experience dieticians and nutritionist are working from the US Food Pyramid which is the cause of disease and their advice when I've gone to see them has been not worth my time or money.<br><br>
Also most OBs are not trained in nutrition of the morbidly obese or imbalances in the body causing someone to be obese. You might find help from nutritional based chiropractors, alternative therapy type practioners, however, many will shy away from working w someone who is pregnant due to liabilities.</div>
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I agree with this 100%!! I have gotten unbelievably bad nutrition advice from midwives, doctors, and nutritionists! Bottom line-- you must educate yourself! Read, read, and read some more. You need to become the expert. The information is out there.
 

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Honestly... I hardly gained any weight (maybe 15 lbs, but I wasn't dieting, just tandem nursing) w/my second pregnancy and somehow my body still evened out at my post-first-pregnancy weight. My point is, your body's gonna do what its gonna do... so focus on being HEALTHY, not the weight <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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