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As a child, the TV and movies were the only way I was able to connect with my parents. It was the only thing we had in common, still to this day, it is the main topic of conversations, with the exception of their grandchild. I have vivid memories of trying to talk to my mom and her hushing me because she was trying to watch something on TV and I was interrupting her.<br><br>
So...the point of this thread is, I want to disconnect my TV, at least when ds is around. I have found that my 10.5 month old ds becomes fixated with it and this is VERY scary to me.<br><br>
I want to ask those of you without a TV or do not turn the TV on until the children are in bed...what do you do during the day? Ds plays beautifully on his own for 10-15 minutes at a time. We play together quite frequently. I am an avid reader to him and myself, but reading an "adult" book with him is near impossible. We do read together, go to the park, ride the bicycle (a lot), etc...but I still find there is time where I get bored.<br><br>
Please help me to work through this...I know I will never be able to cut TV out of my life, as that is very unrealistic for me, but I don't want ds to be "subjected" to as I once was.<br><br>
Thanks!!!
 

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Good for you! We just did this ourselves. DH and I still watch some TV in the evening after our children are in bed, but during the day, it's OFF. I've found it very helpful to have music on instead of the TV. We have lots of children's CDs which DS loves and it kind of fills the sound void when the TV is off. Let's see, what else do we do ~ sandbox, water play, go for walks, go to the park, playgroup once a week, bake together a few mornings a week, invite a friend over to play, DS and I shower together in the mornings too. I got a lot of good ideas for play from my SIL whose sons have never watched TV at all. She structures her mornings so her children have either a playgroup, the park, or a class (like Kindermusik). I've found that DS's ability to play independently has greatly increased since we've turned off the tube <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">. He's been building with blocks for 1/2 an hour now while I sit here on my rump reading MDC <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">...<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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i let my one year olds watch max i hour tv/day (like sesame street). they usually play with toys and look up at the tv now and then. sometimes i get bored and watch tv while they are playing but if i see them getting sucked in i turn off the tv and turn on the radio.
 

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I think its great that you are cutting TV out of your dc's life! My dh and I gave away all of our TVs about 3 years ago. The first year, esp when my dh was at school late/studying all the time, I NOTICED the lack of TV in my life. However, I can say that that feeling goes away over time. Now, I can't imagine where I would squeeze TV in. When we watch at relatives houses, our decision is ALWAYS reinforced.<br><br>
My ds is 15 mo. Remember, in the next 6-12 months, your ds is going to become more and more able to do his own thing without your constant attention. This is what my ds and I do each day (these days):<br><br>
6-6:30 wake up<br>
6:30-7 eat something for breakfast, get dh out the door<br>
7-9 play outside mostly, sometimes inside. If we are out, he plays with push toys in yard, pokes around our porch, shovels, waterbuckets, the water hose, etc. Sometimes he is ok going around solo, other times he wants/needs me with him. We walk down our street and see neighbor dogs/cats, smell herbs and flowers, talk to anyone we see. Wagon rides and stroller walks are also common.<br><br>
9-11 Ds usually takes a nap, although sometimes he is just taking one midday nap. I clean, get on computer, bake, laundry, read, knit, etc<br><br>
11-3 Eat lunch, then go out if we have a playgroup, LLL, or errand to do. If we are home, we play outside in the shade or I try to get him inside to play. Inside, he plays with his toys, kitchen stuff if we are in the kitchen, the vacuum if I have it out, laundry if I am folding clothes, a rag and spray bottle of water/vinegar if we are cleaning, push toys (his favorite), books, blocks, whatever. We try to pick up as we go.<br><br>
3-4 another nap<br><br>
4-8 dh gets home, family walk, family cooking or quick dinner out, more play outside. A couple of nights a week we have a study with friends or go to the pool with a neighborhood playgroup.<br><br>
8-9 bedtime routine<br><br>
Being TV free will get easier as YOU get used to it, and as your ds gets a bit older. If we get tired of being home, we go out. Even if it is just for a walk around the block. By the time we get home, perhaps we need a snack or a nurse, or a nap. I can almost always think of some errand to do if we need a break from the house. Honestly, though, I love the days that we don't have much to do and can just poke around and do what is needed around the house and what interests us.<br><br>
Good luck!! Keep posting with your progress!
 

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Well, the more I think about it, the more I know I HAVE to do it. I don't know if I will immediately get rid of my TV...if I did that I wouldn't have anything to talk about with my mom! :LOL Plus, I think I will still need some TV time at night when my mind and eyes just cannot take reading. Maybe in the long run, though, I will find that I don't "need" TV. Time will tell!<br><br>
I am a single mommy and I know that when ds spends time alone with his daddy the TV is and will always be on...my x is a HUGE TV watcher/video game player, so I will never win that battle. Although, I did have a brief, casual chat with X about no TV watching, not crossing my fingers on that one though. But, that time with his daddy is just a small part of ds's life...the majority of his time is spent with me in our home <b>without TV starting today!</b><br><br>
Wish me strength and determination! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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There have been many threads on this topic. Each one adds a tiny bit more conviction to me.<br><br>
DD watches too much TV. I know it's true. It's on "Noggin" pretty much whenever we are home. She rarely just sits there staring at it, she's almost always engaged in something. And she does entertain herself very well. And she gets out every day. Still...I think she just watches too much of it.<br><br>
The hardest part is mornings. DD wakes up anywhere from 6:30 to 7:30 am, which is usually too early for me (especially with my PG insomnia) and it's soooo nice to send her out to the living room (right outside our bedroom) to watch cartoons while she eats a snack, etc. She will do this for at least an hour and it gives me some much needed sleep. Then while getting ready for work it also helps and so on and so on....<br><br>
Anyways, here is what I've decided. When we move in August, we're going to try to go TV-less. We will hopefully get DSL which will eliminate any sort of cable temptation. And we will buy some kids DVD's for when it would be nice for DD to be occupied, but limit those as much as possible. Fortunately, DH is quite happy to go along with this plan.<br><br>
The funny thing is, I used to watch lots of TV before I had kids, but just don't anymore. There's rarely anything on I feel like watching (especially once Sopranos is over, lol).<br><br>
At least we are concious of it now. We've already started turning the TV off when at home sometimes. Music is definitely a huge help. We have a huge iTunes collection and we all enjoy listening.
 

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Piglet, you brought up some interesting points...at least for when ds is a little older. He is only 10.5 months right now. As a kid, I loved getting up early on Saturday mornings and watching cartoons, having a bowl of cereal and just enjoying a casual Saturday morning. Those are VERY fond memories for me!<br><br>
DS also wakes early, 5.30am! And, since he is too young right now for me to direct him to the TV, I do find I put in Baby Einstein in the morning just to allow me to opportunity to "wake" up! Plus, on the morning that I work, it keeps him occupied so I can get everything organized and ready to go.<br><br>
Hmmmm...going to have to sit, read and make some realistic "boundaries"!
 

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We have videos and DVDs only at our house. My girls will play hour (1-2) at a time if I leave them alone. Movies are mostly for when the toddler and I take a nap and my preschooler watches them. And sometimes as a wind down before bed. My husband and I watch movies together in the evening sometimes. We used to be total TV junkies, addicted doesn't begin to describe it. We are definitly better off now. Although. . show us a TV with cable and we get sucked in pretty fast.
 

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one easy way to phase out tv is to get rid of cable.<br><br>
another is to go outside<br><br>
and a third is to just go cold turkey<br><br>
ok so the third isn't as gentle as the first two.<br><br><br>
dd gets her tv time at daycare (long rant for some other place, but <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> suffices for here. I love my dcp, just wish they didn't watch any tv).<br><br>
that early morning business stinks. dd reads books instead. or colors. i haven't tried tv (see the no cable, pbs only shows exercise at that hour of the day).<br><br>
When dd was younger (<12 months I'd guess) I was a daytime junkie. then i realized <i>i</i> was no longer really enjoying it. Now I can't imagine life with a tv on during the day. We watch at night and we watch the news in the evening.
 

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Cold turkey for us was very easy and caused no problems what so ever.<br>
We moved and just didnt bring the TV with us. Kids havent asked to watch it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br><br>
I have to go clean out the rest of our stuff so will be getting it but dont know if we will set it up or what. Dh even mentioned not ever having it again.<br><br>
We only watch movies on it, no paid programing.<br><br>
IMO TV is nice when mom or kids are sick or it winter and for days are stuck inside a small house.<br><br>
With my terrible ms I used it alot in the mornings so I could lay down and try to feel better. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/sick.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="sick">
 

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I think that cutting the cable is a great idea. I have quite a few DVDs that I enjoy and will continue to buy those anyway. But, as I live in Holland, the TV programming isn't that great anyway and it will save me 15 Euros.
 

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I haven't had a TV since I was a kid. My son has never watched and at other people's houses he doesn't seem too interested.<br><br>
I usually go out for a walk when I get bored. It is a kind of break for me because Nathan is content. Otherwise we just play and do some chores. I try to plan at least one activity a day --visit friends, go to museum, music class, swim class, etc.<br><br>
Good luck. I can see how it would be a nice break to have TV on but it really is possible to live without.<br><br>
Oh and my dh and I watch DVDs on the computer nearly every night.
 

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Piglet-<br><br>
We have a minimal tv rule for Goo. If she wakes up before we are ready and dressed in the morning, we turn on Noggin while we finish up. Once one of us is ready, we take her out for breakfast.<br><br>
This usually happens once a week.<br><br>
Then we let her watch the Simpsons at dinner. Somedays we will watch baseball or hockey with her after dinner, but she is rarely that interested in it.<br><br>
She has some videos that she watches, but since the nice weather came, we've weaned her off of that.<br><br>
The goal on my days with her is to spend the morning out, the lunchtime at home, and the afternoon out. Just to vary life a little!
 
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