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My DD, who just turned 5 tells me everyday that she doesn’t want to go to school. I’m not sure if school really is the problem or if it is that she is tired and doesn’t want to wake up or whether it could be something else entirely.<br><br>
Some background. DD entered a daycare program at age 22 months because both DH and I work. The daycare program was in a Montessori school and at age 3 she transitioned into their K3 program. About 6 months ago DD started seriously complaining about school, not wanting to go and being very slow and deliberate about not wanting to leave the house in the morning. I spent a lot of time talking with her at home, talking to her teachers, visiting and observing her at school. In doing so I found that I had some real concerns with her teacher and the rate at which she was being pushed to accomplish tasks. Additionally, I found that her teacher and I had some differences of opinion and I could not tolerate his lack of communication when I requested feedback on things. This prompted a search for a new school at the beginning of the year and a switch in mid March to a Waldorf school. (Yes, I know, very different from Montessori, but in actuality a little closer to how we live.) I’m really happy with our new school, the teacher and the overall value system in this school. DD seems happy too. I catch her singing all the time. DD also talks about upcoming things in the class, so I think she really does look forward to school. The problem is that in the morning DD is still complaining about going to school. She tells me she doesn’t want to go and she wishes she could stay home, etc. I’m pretty sure she’s getting enough sleep because she sleeps about 11 hours a night and at school they have a rest/nap period too. She never napped at the Montessori school, but now everyone in her class does and so she does too. Sometimes she falls asleep other times she just rests. She only attends school during school hours and DH and I do not use any before or after care.<br><br>
So what is the problem? I want to be attentive, I want to be responsive, but I just don’t know what to do about it. I haven’t a clue why she wouldn’t want to go to school.<br><br>
~ Denise
 

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My DD (who also just turned 5) has also been saying she doesn't like school lately. She's always been the biggest duck in the puddle at that school, and totally enthusiastic about attending school. When I talked to her more about it, I found that there's a boy at school who's "mean to her." When I probed further, I found out he's just bugging her. When I was talking to his mom about my DD's birthday party, I suddenly realized this boy probably really likes my DD. And, as he's barely 5, being annoying is how he shows it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I tried to explain to DD that he really likes her and that she needs to try to be tolerant.<br><br>
Anyway, this is just to echo the PP who said to probe further to find out the "real" reason your DD is saying she doesn't like school.<br><br>
Good luck!
 
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