Joined
·
52 Posts
Can anyone help me?
I'm not much of a participant around here. Mostly an occasional visitor and lurker. However, I'm in the midst of a major crisis in my life. After 10 yrs of marriage and 4 children, I've decided to ask my husband for a divorce. Please, no criticism, the emotional and verbal abuse have escalated to intolerable levels and nothing I have done to try to repair my relationship to dh has done any good. I should have left 5 years ago, but felt determined to stick it out and try to "make it work" for the sake of my kids. But recent events have pushed me beyond my limit and I don't think it's the healthiest choice for my kids to have to live in an environment like this. So that seems to be where we're headed. I haven't filed yet and we do have a counseling appt next week (in the event of a miracle...) But in my heart I think it's all over.
![]()
So, I've been looking online for advice and support. I was hoping maybe MDC would have a "divorced mamas" tribe or category, but I can't find it. Searches turn up about a zillion hits and none seem relevant. I'm desperate for some advice and support and encouragement. I don't know where to begin. Especially as an attached parent who is still bf two of the kids, I just panic at the thought of being separated from them at all. Yet, I know dh is gonna want custody too.
It's complicated. I feel awful to have reached this point. But unless a miracle happens, it really is necessary.
Are there any divorced mamas here? Is there a group or tribe? Maybe someone can even link me to a good Yahoo group or something? Anything. This has got to be the scariest time of my life. Internet searches are turning up too much info for me to sort through. I'd love some tried and true links, group recommendations, etc. And someone to talk to who's btdt before...
I'm not much of a participant around here. Mostly an occasional visitor and lurker. However, I'm in the midst of a major crisis in my life. After 10 yrs of marriage and 4 children, I've decided to ask my husband for a divorce. Please, no criticism, the emotional and verbal abuse have escalated to intolerable levels and nothing I have done to try to repair my relationship to dh has done any good. I should have left 5 years ago, but felt determined to stick it out and try to "make it work" for the sake of my kids. But recent events have pushed me beyond my limit and I don't think it's the healthiest choice for my kids to have to live in an environment like this. So that seems to be where we're headed. I haven't filed yet and we do have a counseling appt next week (in the event of a miracle...) But in my heart I think it's all over.
So, I've been looking online for advice and support. I was hoping maybe MDC would have a "divorced mamas" tribe or category, but I can't find it. Searches turn up about a zillion hits and none seem relevant. I'm desperate for some advice and support and encouragement. I don't know where to begin. Especially as an attached parent who is still bf two of the kids, I just panic at the thought of being separated from them at all. Yet, I know dh is gonna want custody too.
It's complicated. I feel awful to have reached this point. But unless a miracle happens, it really is necessary.
Are there any divorced mamas here? Is there a group or tribe? Maybe someone can even link me to a good Yahoo group or something? Anything. This has got to be the scariest time of my life. Internet searches are turning up too much info for me to sort through. I'd love some tried and true links, group recommendations, etc. And someone to talk to who's btdt before...
