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I like reading this board because I see I'm not the only sleep deprived parent.<br>
My 3.5 dd has a crazy sleep schedule. She likes to go to bed late(12pm-2pm) and sleep in late. We've tried following a bedtime routine but she still ends up going to bed late and wanting my husband to play with her. He wakes up at 5:30am to go to work. This schedule is killing him. Any ideas?
 

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So we're not the only family with a night owl! I wish I had some sure fire way to get that child to bed, but I can relate! My husband wakes up at 4:30am and he is drained when he gets to work. Schedule? I've tried everything and not one of them worked! (massage, warm baths, breast, rocking, story-time). Cuddling seems to work on occasion. Good luck and I'll take comfort in knowing that when it's 12:00am and we're still up, chances are you are too!
 

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they work for me sometimes, but i usually have to follow his cues to help me determine what kind of routine he wants. for a whiel he wanted to go to sleep at around 8:30 or 9 or so, and to be nursed and then walked in his room with his noisemaker on and the lights off. i say "wanted" because that was the only way he fell asleep. now he prefers going to sleep btwn 10 & 11, downstairs in our family room by just crawling up on our couch in btwn us and drifting off.<br><br>
i don't know if this would be well received on here and i'll probably get blasted for it, but i have found that if you want to change your children's sleep schedule it's best to NOT start at night. if your dc has woken up late in the morning, chances are no matter what you do they will NOT go to sleep earlier. if you really are desperate to change their sleep patterns, might i suggest that you wake them up earlier in the morning and start there? wake them up at 7:30 or something (gently of course) and push their whole day up a bit, and see if they'll go to bed earlier because they woke up earlier. maybe you've already thought of that, but i sure as heck didn't when i first tried to change his nighttime routine. once i figured that out i was like DOH!! LOL
 

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that is sweet that your dd wants to play w/ daddy aww. what we do is when we are ready to go to bed and ds is still up, we take him in bed and play dead w/ all the lights off. i offer him the breast if he gets fussy. after about 20 mins he gets bored and goes to sleep. i agree you would probably have to wake him up earlier (start gradual) if you want him to go to bed earlier. oh another thing we do when we are just really tired is toss the remote or a ball back and forth and let ds chase it and get worn out. once he gets older i guess we can't do that anymore <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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I can relate to what you are saying. Though my dd didn't go to sleep at midnight, well sometimes she does, usually it's more like 10pm. At around 18 months, people kept telling me this was WAY too late for a child to be going to bed, so i succumbed and told DH that we would start the bedtime routine at 8pm by 8:30 I'd turn off the light. Well this is what happened, it would take me 2 hours to get her to sleep, she'd nurse, goof around, laugh talk whatever, no matter whether we played dead or not, and she'd end up falling asleep at 10 or 11 anyway, but it meant that it took all evening to get her to sleep. I gave up on that out of sheer frustration.<br><br>
I agree with Michelle, you'd have to wake her up earlier in the morning, do it gradually, so she doesn't get completely exhausted, but say if she wakes up at 10 am , then at 9, go in turn the lights on, etc... make some noise, so that she wakes up, if you do it an hour each day, she might be slightly grumpy for a few days, but will adjust, and you'll find a time that makes every one happy. I tried it in September when we were trying out a preschool, and had to get up at 8am, to get there on time, and it worked! Within 2 weeks she was going to bed around 9pm and waking up around 7:30 or 8am.<br><br>
My dh has to get up at 6:15 so if he's not in bed by 10 or 10:30 he's exhausted.
 

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The "gradually gettinng up earlier" worked for us! That's what I did with my 3yo. Now whe it is bedtime, instead of a fight, I go to bed and pretty soon there's a little fellow wanting a story (which he usually falls asleep during, BTW...) Good luck! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/sleeping.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="sleeping">
 
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