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My baby is 3 mos old and is up consistently every two hours to feed at night. This is starting to really wear me out. I find it hard to sleep through feedings so I never get more than an hour and a half of sleep (if that) in a row going on three months.<br><br>
Anyway, my parents say it is not normal for a baby to wake up this much at night. Maybe I shouldn't feed her, but it is easier to feed her than to do other soothing methods when I am so exhausted and it is so frequent.<br><br>
Many of the people I talk to whose babies sleep for longer increments than mine are formula feeding. Is it true formula takes longer to digest, so the baby sleeps longer? Right now I am committed to nursing so I am not thinking of switching, but I am wondering if this is the case.<br><br>
People tell me 'your baby couldn't be hungry that often'. I am wondering if since breastmilk is so easily absorbed (90 minutes, right?) she COULD be that hungry that often. She eats for about 15 minutes each time, averaging 8 minutes a side. She always then falls asleep at the breast.<br><br>
Another factor - I have had undersupply issues and am taking Reglan. I feed her on both sides each feeding because my supply dipped low when I was feeding on one side only each feed. Two Lact Consults have told me not to worry about foremilk / hindmilk - that the body will adjust and send the baby the hindmilk sooner if needed as she goes through different stages. I am hoping the fact that she does feed so often that it will boost my supply.<br><br>
Any thoughts?
 

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It's pretty normal for a 3 months old breastfed baby to eat every 2 hours. Formulafed babies sometimes sleep longer, because formula is not optimal for the intestines and takes longer to digest, so they go longer without feeling hungry. You should keep feeding your baby when she asks for it. After a couple more months she will probably nurse less at night. But ight now, just feed her when she's hungry.
 

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By the time my older child was 3 months old we were alternating breastmilk with formula bottles at night and he was still waking up every 2 hours at night very consistently. It didn't make him sleep more, but it let ME sleep more, I guess, because DH was able to do every other feeding. (Although I wouldn't advocate doing that, but being a first time mom, what did I know?)
 

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in my experience (both my girls were formula fed by three mos, my son is still ebf) this is true. My son is eating about every three hours at night, although once in while he will have a 5-6 hour stretch at the beginning of the night. He's 3 1/2 mos. My daughters were pretty much sleeping through the night at that age. (in cribs, ds sleeps with me, so maybe that is a factor as well?) when he sleeps longer he is in his cradle, i bring him into bed when he wakes to feed. But not all babies are the same....and i'd rather be nursing in bed any night than getting up to warm a bottle<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br>
Maybe you can try to find a way you can sleep more through feedings? ds and i slept on the couch together for a few weeks b/c i found it more comfortable to be on my side that way, and he just slept in between feeds nestled on my arm, he'd start to squirm when hungry and i'd just pop him on and keep sleeping...<br>
good luck!
 

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My first two babies woke every two hours for the first few months. I'll never forget with my first--the first time I got to sleep for 5 hours at a stretch, it was like heaven.<br><br>
This is still early in your baby's life to expect anything else--you really should try to sleep as much as you can during the day so that you're not totally burnt out.<br><br>
And though I don't have first-hand experience, I've always suspected that formula-fed babies do sleep longer at night. But that was never a good enough reason for me to forgo the vast benefits of exclusive breastmilk.<br><br>
Still, I remember one particularly sleep-deprived day wondering why I had chosen to do things the hard way. It's hard to hold onto your convictions in the face of *everyone* telling you your baby is not normal, babies should let you sleep through the night by three months and that you must be doing something wrong.<br><br>
It is normal. And keep this in mind, too--if the formula-feeding moms you know are not AP, then there is a chance that there is some degree of sleep-training involved, too.<br><br>
What I'm trying to say is that your baby is absolutely normal and is doing what a normal breast-fed baby does. And like everything else from now on, just try to remind yourself that this *will* pass.<br><br>
ETA: My third, who sleeps very, very well in comparison, slept three hours at a stretch from about 6 weeks. But he was big at birth, and my midwife said big babies tend to sleep better, all things being equal.<br><br>
Oh, and also--yes, feeding more frequently should definitely help boost your supply.
 

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Normal normal normal. I know it's hard. Don't let people make it harder for you by pathologizing you or your baby, though. Sometimes the pressure to not be doing what is perfectly normal and healthy can add to the despair you feel at those very-tired times.<br><br>
Formula-fed babies sometimes sleep longer, because it's hard to digest formula and their bellies are full for longer. On the other hand, they have a much higher tendency toward major health problems associated with formula, including a 40% higher incidence of childhood cancer, so I don't think it's a worthwhile tradeoff. And it's certainly not the only factor. My children were both exclusively breastfed and we coslept. The first slept like crap for years, and the second slept beautifully from the beginning. I was the same parent, doing the same stuff, exercising the same priorities. They were just different kids.
 

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Yes, formula-fed babies do sleep longer, in my experience. BUT I also think it is abnormal for a 3-month-old baby to sleep all the way through the night without waking to eat/nurse.
 

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My ds is also 3 months old. He also averages getting up every 2 hours, with sometimes one 3 hour stretch. Our ped said don't expect a good stretch until they hit 14 lbs. Heres hoping for sleep soon, he is now 13 lbs 12 oz. I don't think he will though, since we co-sleep. Many times he wakes just b/c he realizes he let go of my nipple, takes a few sucks and wants to sleep with it in his mouth. For hunger, I believe he only needs 2 short feedings a night at this point. The rest of his wakings are just to comfort suck. Is your baby doing comfort sucking or actually eating? I wish I could cut down the comfort sucking without pizzing him off.<br><br>
Anyone I knew who ff or bf with formula at night said their babies slept well. Sleep would be nice, but I think bfing is more important at this age. I did start giving my dd toddler formula at night at 18 months old when my milk supply dropped from pregnancy. She did start sleeping better then. But maybe she just matured more by then, who knows. She gets breast milk again now and sleeps reasonably well so I can't say on my experience.
 

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Sweetie, my 14 mo old is still nursing several times a night. But I consider him "sleeping through the night" because he doesn't wake to play, only to suckle. He hasn't woken to play since he was maybe 3 or 4 mos old.<br><br>
Are you cosleeping? It can really help. You'll both get good at sleeping through the nursings...<br><br>
Don't let the "sleeping myth" get you down! It's not really true, and older people have fuzzy happy memories of babies, not the harsh feed em every 2 to 3 hour reality of it memories. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug">: Keep at it, you're doing fine! Start sleeping when the baby sleeps, you'll catch up.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">It's pretty normal for a 3 months old breastfed baby to eat every 2 hours. Formulafed babies sometimes sleep longer, because formula is not optimal for the intestines and takes longer to digest, so they go longer without feeling hungry. You should keep feeding your baby when she asks for it. After a couple more months she will probably nurse less at night. But ight now, just feed her when she's hungry.</div>
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by the way, my FF ds1 was a much more wakeful baby than my BF ds2. it may be generally true, but certainly no guarantee. The long term issues that may arise are MUCH more significant than this one. Might be a good time to read the _No Cry Sleep Solution_...
 

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We just started to use a botle of formula for ds's 11pm feeding while I'm at work and yes, it has been putting him into a very heavy, long sleep. It usually puts him to sleep for 6 hours...of course, these are the nights that I'm at work so I'm not getting in on all that sleep<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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From what I know, yeah they do. Everyone I currently know with a baby formula feeds. My baby still stirs at night because he wants to eat, their babies sleep through the night.<br><br>
Either way, a little bit of lost sleep is worth it for all the benefits breastmilk has.
 

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honestly, when I started FF my son, he started sleeping through the night, BUT the emotional toll it took on me to NOT breastfeed was just unbearable. It KILLS me all the time that I didn't try harder and what not. Next time, no way, no matter what, I'm not giving-up. No matter how many times we have to nurse through the night. I can't handle EVER going through this again. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> I think it's one of the driving forces in me wanting to have another.
 

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My baby is ff and wakes every 3 hours to eat. I really just don't think there are any guarantees with babies. They're all SOOO different.<br><br>
My friends baby is 10 mo and bf and wakes up every hour or so to eat and has for a while now, so not just a growth spurt.<br><br>
Babies do what their bodies tell them to do. Hungry = wake up to eat! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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No, I don't think just because babies are formula fed = babies sleep longer at night! I breastfed exclusively my first two daughters and by 2-3 months, they were sleeping longer stretches (like 4-5 hours at a time)<br>
Now my twins I am bottle feeding expressed breastmilk and supplementing with formula and I've tried both - feeding only formula at night and feeding only breastmilk at night. They wake up the same amount of times, roughly at the same intervals (every 3-4 hours) so I don't really think it makes a difference!
 
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