[kittn]

my son is in middle school and he's 12. we have a great relationship and so far he keeps me up to speed on what goes on in his world.

last night i saw a pen mark on his leg that said I<3 C. so i asked, who c was. my boy has a new crush! cool. i like the fact that he doesn't like just one girl and he doesnt take it too seriously. i asked him about Kiana (the other girl he liked) since she hasn't been calling or coming by. he preceded to tell me he doesn't talk to her anymore because she is always talking about killing herself. this is news to me and my gut reaction is to call Kiana's Mom. however the Mom is a nutball. The mother choked the dog for peeing on the floor and paralyzed it, so im afraid to get Mom involved. Next thought is to call the school guidance counselor. I don't think she's doing anything to hurt herself but still what if. What would you do?

 

[Isaac'sMa]

I think I would call the school guidance counselor. She can more easily investigate further and potentially call CPS or a psychiatrist if need be. Like if mom is also abusing the daughter...abusing an animal is often an indication of more serious abuse.

Sounds like getting the mom involved right off the bat could be a bad idea with potential negative effects for the girl. GL.

 

[mamaduck]

Call the guidance counselor. Seriously.

 

[Alkenny]

I agree...call the school guidance counselor and they can take it from there. We had something similar happen with a friend of DD's, she went to the guidance counselor and together with the mother they got the girl the help she needed.

 

[ImoKit]

If you tell the guidance s/he can check it out, step in if its serious or confirm if its not.

If you don't report and it is serious and something did happen then you'd have the guilt of not saying anything at this point.

Better to have a false alarm then risk it being real...

 

[purslaine]

Tell DS you need to report this to the guidance counsellor, and why. Ask him if he would like to be involved in the meeting, or whether he wants you to call.

Thank him for telling you, and re-assure him he did the right thing!

Kathy

 

[Oriole]

Next year I have a 12 y.o. boy coming to my class who was abused. He tried to commit suicide in two years ago.

Call guidance!

*hugs*

 

[kittn]

i did speak to DS last night and asked him how we should handle it. he asked me to do something because he didnt feel comfortable doing anything. I explained to him that he did do something, the right thing, by telling me.

I takled to guidance today. they are aware of the situation and are dealing with it. Though they couldn't really tell me much I got the impression CPS is involved and the majority of this is not attention seeking behavior and that something is definatly wrong in the house. so i feel better knowing someone is taking care of it. I am also pretty sure guidance is seeing the girl on a regular basis.

 

[ananas]

Quote:

Originally Posted by kittn The mother choked the dog for peeing on the floor and paralyzed it

OMG!

 

[bigeyes]

I'm glad you got help for them, but did anyone report the animal cruelty?

How awful! And I'm a little ashamed to admit my first thought was 'well, at least I'm not that bad!

Poor things

 

[kittn]

Quote:

Originally Posted by bigeyes I'm glad you got help for them, but did anyone report the animal cruelty? How awful! And I'm a little ashamed to admit my first thought was 'well, at least I'm not that bad! Poor things

i hadn't thought of that. i wonder

 

[bigeyes]

I certainly hope someone did, it isn't like the police or social services can interview a pet.

To the OP, please keep us posted about that poor child.

 

[~*max*~]

OP, just want to jump in & say what a nice relationship you have w/your son that he can talk to you about these things. You both handled this situation very well. Good work mama, on both accounts.