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I know until the adoption is finalized, I have no rights or say in anything about my child <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
So once the adoption is finalized, do I have any requirements I have to keep? So for example, if I choose to discontinue all vaxinations from this point on, can they intervene? Is there anything that anyone can say, or is it 100% my decision?<br><br>
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I think it mainly depends on what your specific paperwork says. Do you <i>have</i> to follow it--no, but if you want to adopt again, they may look at that as a problem in the future. For us, did a delayed/selective program, even before Connor was finalized. We delayed completely for the first several months, primarily to avoid as much painful stuff as possible, to promote bonding. Then we continued to delay and modify using the rationale that we did not know much family health history/family reaction history. Basically, what we did is 1-2 shots every 2-3m after 12m; if it was something he had not had before he only got only one, so that we were aware what a potential reaction was due to. I also talked with our dr and because the vaccine schedule is so diferent in Korea (not nearly as many, even though their medical care is equal or above the US), I suggested that there may be a cultural health reason (higher risk of reactions to certain substances in poeple of that heritage, for example) to avoid them. This is also how I justified only 2 at the most (usually, we only do 1).<br>
Sorry I got so long winded, but I detailed it out to show you how we met the requirements of our paperwork so that potential future adoptions are not jeopardized, while still meeting our goal of delaying and avoiding those that we didn't want. By documenting our reasons and having a "plan", it showed that we were not ignore the situation. If you do not want to do any more vaxes at all, maybe detailing your reasons with good research listed to back it up, and having it included in your child's dr records would do something similar? W were able to tell our social worker each visit that we were on a "catch-up" schedule created by our dr, which was all they needed.
 

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I think it may depend on where you are.<br>
Our adoption (last march) said nothing about us having to do anything (closed adoption no visits or family contact recommended), and once all the papers were signed and the court date over, we were pretty much dropped off the face of the earth in the eyes of the Social workers. She's ours to do with as we please, vax or no vax, preschool or not, etc etc. They honsetly don't care here, they are too busy with the kids they still have on their caseload.
 

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Nope, with state adoptions, once it is final, you do not have any obligations....it's your child! No more vax, they can co-sleep, etc.<br><br>
Carrie, you did an international adoption, which is different from doing one here, where the child is in state custody. They don't make adoptive parents make any "promises" post adoption.
 

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grisandole, I figured there would be some differences (state vs intl), although with our program, we are custodians for 6m after placement before we can finalize in court, with permission to treat medically but within certain boundaries and accepted standards of care, as Korea adoptions are different than other intl adoptions. We actually technically complete a domestic adoption of resident alien (with the agency being the legal guardian) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: and thus have to follow certain procedures in both domestic and intl adoption rules. So I thought our experience might be helpful in finding a way to delay while they were in process. Because we delayed vax during that guardianship, we had to followup on the vax schedule we had presented to them during our 6m custody, even though we had no "promises" to keep post finalization. Otherwise in future adoptions, there would be problems because we did not continue to follow the plan that we told them we were doing (and thus look dishonest). Were we ruling out all future adoptions through ths program, we could have not followed through (although I am ok with a delayed/selected vax program, so it was not an issue for us). Hope that clarifies some<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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