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I am planning a homebirth, my edd is March 1.<br><br>
For my first baby, I planned a homebirth (with the same midwife) but after nearly 24 hours, almost entirely 2nd stage, I transferred. My back-up doctor still "let me" push for 2.5 hours before I asked him to do an episiotomy (something I NEVER thought I'd ask for) because I was getting very weak and I was afraid they'd decide to section me. He was born right after the episiotmy was done (on the next contraction).<br><br>
Anyway, at my last appointment, my midwife asked me if I was going to have a doula at my birth. It honestly never occured to me to have a doula at a homebirth. If I were planning a hospital birth for some reason, I would want a doula for sure. But for home? Do I need one? What would a doula do for me that my midwife wouldn't?<br><br>
My midwife never asked me about a doula the last time, though she had an apprentice at the time who happened to be a doula and also taught the childbirth class that I took. The plan all along was that this apprentice would be at my birth as my midwife's assistant. I guess I just assumed that my midwife would be bringing an assistant this time, too.<br><br>
I do plan on further discussing this with my midwife at my next appointment next week. It just threw me for a loop when she asked me about it so I didn't really have these questions prepared in my mind. In the meantime, I've been pondering it and would appreciate any feedback anyone here could give me.<br><br>
FWIW, when I transferred, my midwife came with me and stayed with me as a support person the entire time.
 

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Of course, you don't NEED one. But, it all depends on what kind of support system you have and need. At the birth of DD#2 I had my husband, mother, 4 year old DD#1 along with my Midwife, her backup, my "actual" doula, her partner who was there as doula/photographer and then another doula who I love was able to make it for the last hour or so.<br><br>
Now, I realize that this would most certainly not work for many people, but for me it was wonderful. DD#1's birth was a horible experience and I felt very out of control and unsupported. This time, I needed to make sure that there were plenty of people there to be what i needed them to be.<br><br>
My mom had my daughter most of the time, but for the last hour before I started pushing, the third doula played with her in her room for a long time to keep her entertained (she was bored with grammies at that point)<br><br>
I had a lovely birth and everything I needed. For other people, that many people would have the opposite effect. So you've just got to do some inner reflecting and see what you come up with. Maybe interview a few doulas (does you midwife have anybody that she works with?) and see what you think, Maybe you'll click with someone, maybe you wont.<br><br>
Good luck!<br>
Cari
 

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I had ample support both times with midwife and assistant, dh & mom only... I wasn't planning on getting a doula this time either. My house will be full already. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br>
I can't say enough about the importance of BTDT women being my labor support though. It's the main/only reason I'm not going to UC. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
I like it quiet and unhindered, but I also like exhausting amounts of pressure on my lower back and help getting up and down/in and out of the bathtub! Ok, I like the pamering and popcicles too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
I'd ask the midwife about the amount of physical support she will be offering, and ask her if she RECOMMENDS one in your case. Find out if she will have an assistant with her (many do) and what her role will be as well. (you probably want to meet her, if you have not already)<br><br>
Maybe you have a VERY hands off midwife, and maybe you do need a doula?
 

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I'd advise to get a doula in your case. most would JUMP at the chance to attend a homebirth, and the extra support might be wise to have.
 
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