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Hi. I'm pregnant with my first and due late September. Since ALL our family lives out of state, we are traveling to our own baby showers. The showers are being held at the same time other family functions are, just for our convenience. Which makes them soon, next month. So they have asked that I register. OK, that makes sense. Then I saw all the stuff on the recommended list. Holy Moly! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut"> Do I really need all that stuff? Do I really want all that stuff?<br><br>
So..... what did you find you couldn't live without? And what did you think you needed but when it came right down to it, you didn't need it at all? What is the worst baby item?
 

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We really needed:<br><br>
diapers<br>
a receiving blanket or two<br>
a breastpump and bottles (I woh part time)<br>
a few clothes<br>
a sling<br>
some board books <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
a carseat<br><br>
I registered for almost all cloth diapers and got ONE. People got me tons of baby clothes that didnt fit her and were totally unpractical. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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carseat, some recieving blankets, diapers, a good sling, and some jammies are all you need in the beginning. later you might want a high chair, a bouncy seat or swing, some books, and a few toys.
 

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I went ahead and registered for stuff people love to get, but that I wasn't really planning on using. Like $40 diaper genie or something. then I returned it all. Made people happy to get me something and I had about $240 worth of Target and Babies R us gift cards to use on what I really needed when things came up.
 

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<span style="text-decoration:underline;">Car Seat</span><br><span style="text-decoration:underline;">Slings</span> - I want at least three this time incase they get mis-placed.<br><span style="text-decoration:underline;">Diapers</span> - You want to stock up on what ever kind you are planning on.<br>
Baby Bed - Crib? Co-sleeping? <span style="text-decoration:underline;">Co-sleeper</span>?<br><span style="text-decoration:underline;">Cloths</span> - Just get a few things and let others go to town I say. They can be returned easy.<br><span style="text-decoration:underline;">Baby Blankets</span> -- We go through many!<br>
Baby swing/bouncy -- My son did not like these things so we gave them away. Daughter loved her swing though.<br><span style="text-decoration:underline;">Baby Bouncy Swing</span> -- My son loves this! Jumperoo I think it is called and he was in it at 6 months and still is sometimes at 16 months. I want a new one for new baby, they look like they have a smaller one now!<br><span style="text-decoration:underline;">Bumboo</span> -- This really helped me when taking a shower and cooking dinner. Baby could be on the floor, sitting up, watching me, and for some reason he liked it. Very portable and it went with us to friends homes.<br><span style="text-decoration:underline;">Bath Stuff</span> -- lotions and cloths and soaps and such.<br><br>
Ok, well I think that is my list for this time and it might help you too.
 

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so i'm leaning towards a 3in1 car seat and stroller able to hold an infant as opposed to the travel system. I think some sling or wrap is gonna be nicer on my back than carrying one of those infant carriers. Any thoughts? Where can I go to try out slings/wraps. I'm only 18 w, should I try out slings now before my tummy gets in the way? Which strollers are easiest to use and best value for th e money?
 

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Well, the Graco Snugride is very safe, and we got the Graco stroller that it clicks into. And neither was that expensive, so that would get my vote.<br><br>
But... turns out our baby NEVER wanted to sit in her carseat or stroller... so I'd recommend putting the extra money into a COUPLE of good slings/baby carriers.<br><br>
When DD was an infant, I had a pouch-type sling. Difficult to breastfeed in, and DD didn't like being curled up. Ended up getting a snugli carrier - this saved us both - I could grocery shop with DD snuggled upright against me - and it was super easy to get on/off at the car. When DD could sit up, the pouch sling was GREAT.<br><br>
I have also heard wonderful things about wraps - but this time, I'm probably not going to get one, because baby will be a summer baby, and I've heard wraps are very hot.<br><br>
I did get a ring-type sling this time for my newborn - should be easier to hold baby upright, or in nursing hold, while doing other things.<br><br>
Around 11 months or so, we got the Mei Hip side carrier - EXCELLENT!<br><br>
We also had a backpack carrier, which DD loved for vacuuming.<br><br>
A note on slings/carriers - try to get one that cups your shoulder, instead of going over your shoulderblade - like a purse would - because over the long-haul, it will be MUCH more comfortable to carry the weight on your shoulder, instead of cutting into your neck; though it does limit movement slightly on that arm, it's worthwhile, IMO.<br><br>
I HIGHLY recommend checking out this site for information on slings/carriers:<br><a href="http://www.thebabywearer.com/" target="_blank">http://www.thebabywearer.com/</a><br><br>
They have individual sling reviews, comparisons, instructions, as well as reviews for websites that sell all the slings.
 

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only a carseat, sling and diapers.<br><br>
everything else is fluff. If people are buying them be gracious; you can return anything you don't like later or sell it at a garage side.<br><br>
WE didnt knw the first time either and our tiny appt was stuffed to the rafters with silly swings and bouncy seats. you might use them.
 

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Ohhhh, I have a small list I give to my clients who are first-time moms about products I absolutely LOVE. Plus you can get them all at Toys R Us or Babies R Us (except the moby) so that will be handy for people.<br><br>
(If you plan to use a crib) Breatheable mesh crib bumper<br>
Amazing Miracle Swaddling Blanket<br>
Avent Breast Shells (saved my sore nips, I have wimpy nips<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">)<br>
mobywrap (great wrap and fairly inexpensive)<br>
(again, if you plan to use a crib) the Miracle Crib Sheet.<br>
Arm's reach co-sleeper<br>
I don't have a Bumboo but people seem to like them, and I'll probably get one for this kid.<br><br>
Last shower I was having a girl after 2 boys so since I already had most of my crap, I asked for girls clothes ONLY. And that actually worked!<br><br>
You'll probably get a bouncy and a swing, and some kids like those (or don't.)<br><br>
ITA with the PP who said that you can always return everything and get the stuff you actually want. This pregnancy I'm having a Mother's Blessing instead of a shower, and I'm going to ask for <a href="http://www.amazpadz.com" target="_blank">Mama Cloth</a> and I sincerely hope that people respect that request. We'll see!
 

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Since it will be out of town, make sure to request gift receipts. Target it very picky without a receipt, but BRU will exchange anything they carry. You could always say that you are having showers locally, and you want to be covered if you get duplicates (stores can be bad about marking off what you already have).<br><br>
I don't know if this has been said, but the 3 in ones are not always the best deal. They work great for later, but some babies (like my tall, skinny baby) do not fit safely in them at the start.<br><br>
Also, even if you don't register for clothes, you will get a ton of clothes. Unless you are able to spread the word (even if you spread the word), you will likely have more than you know what to do with! I would suggest not regeistering for clothing though because no store that I have found has a good way of showing clothing on a registry. They only list the skew #, and it is impossible to find. If you find an outfit that you really love, you are better off buying it yourself.<br><br>
As for the answer to your question, no, you don't need all that stuff! We are finding that we need pretty much nothing with our 2nd because we have more than we needed for our first. I suggest that you find a couple of bigger ticket items that you want and ask family to go in together on them. That will be much easier for your to transport back home anyways. You will still get lots of stuff (some useful...some not).
 

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People LOVE to buy baby clothes. I agree completely about buying clothes that are just not right for a NB, IMO. I had so many outfits that stayed on their hangers the first three months because all my babes wore were onesies under sleepers. It just made more sense to me to keep them in the comfy clothes for those first few months. Also gowns so they can feel their legs.<br><br>
I bought diapers every month so I didn't spend all that much at once. I asked for CD's, a sling, and a co-sleeper for my second son, but didn't get anything like that at all.<br><br>
The sling I bought was from <a href="http://www.kangarookidsonline.com" target="_blank">www.kangarookidsonline.com</a>. It has a metal ring for quick and easy adjustments. Keep it close to the outside of your shoulder, or you will be uncomfy. I had a Maya Wrap first, but I found it too restriciting and the buttons/zippers too time consuming.<br><br>
Instead of using a co-sleeper I did find a bassinet that worked just as well.<br><br>
In regards to our crib - it was loaned to us by a friend who doesn't plan on having any more kids. We didn't spend a dime on it and that saved us a bundle because my second son slept with me until the recent change over to a twin bed of his own. He starts out there now, but usually ends up with me by 4-5 in the morning.<br><br>
Breast pump (even if you are a SAHM I suggest you invest in one so, after your milk supply is established, you can venture out of the house for short periods without your babe.)<br>
nursing bra<br>
breast pads<br>
The cream in the purple tube to keep your nipples healthy...I'm experiencing "prego brain". I don't remember the name.<br>
BM storage bags<br>
Hot/cold compresses for your breasts to help with engorgement and milk let down, although a warm wash clothes and even just thinking about your baby nursing helps with that.<br>
I love my Boppee (sp?) to support the babe while I'm nursing, especially when we both want to eat at the same time.<br>
Niether of my boys liked a swing, we always took it back, but having a bouncy seat was nice to sit them in for short spells. However, too much sitting in bouncy's and car seats can make for a flat back of the head.
 

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Lanolin!!!!! Yes, you MUST have lanolin! It works on chapped lips too. During labor the nurse keyed me in to that. Works on baby's dry lips too and makes for practical application to the nipples <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
My MIL was SO great about buying things before Titus was born. She only got a couple little rattles and chewable or sparkly/hanging toys but got me a TON of onesies, hats, socks, sleep-and-play's in MANY sizes which was key because he grew out of everything so darn fast. Having a lot of plain cheap-o onesies in the early days of constant diaper explostions was great too since you can go through a few a day and sometimes the nasty stains just don't come out.<br><br>
Eventually you'll want a high chair. I wish I would have registered for one, even a cheap one since we have this funky, funky old one that was given to us, the portable clip-on-the-table ones are great if you visit people during mealtimes. Again, though you probably won't need one for a while.<br><br>
I second the Boppy too. You can get by with just blankets or pillows piled up for good nursing postion, but having done both, the Boppy is WAY easier. Titus didn't ever really like the Boppy for being on his tummy or help with sitting up though, but that seems to be the exception. Having somewhere safe to put baby while you put your attention elsewhere for a couple minutes (like cooking, dishes or showering) is important too. So either a swing, playpen, bumbo or excersaucer. Titus was mobile and too heavy for a swing really fast, so the playpen was my only option.<br><br><br>
And of course a sling! IMO, A ring sling or wrap will get you the most milage since they can be used from infants to early childhood... but if people are insisting on getting you lots of "stuff", why not ask for as many as yo can? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br><br><br><br>
You can "register" on Amazon.com for pretty much anything in the world so you don't have to get stuck with just a couple of stores options. That would make it much easier to request things like wraps and cloth diapers too.... and you can never have too many diapers!
 

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With DS1, what I found essential right at first<br><br>
-carseat<br>
-swaddling blankets<br>
-breastpump (although I could have rented one when I figured out we had so many problems, I was glad I already had a good one)<br>
-clothes<br>
-washclothes and towels<br>
-diapers (whatever you use) and wipes (whatever you use)<br>
-a basket to carry diapers, wipes, etc. with me (we had the one from Pottery Barn Kids) That way I could change him anywhere I was easily.<br>
-Nursing pillow<br>
-breastpads and soothies<br>
-burpclothes (I had a bit of a spitter)<br>
-sling<br>
-Arms Reach cosleeper and a snuggle nest<br><br>
Eventually he liked the bouncy seat (great for getting a shower) and the swing (only place besides me he would nap <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">), but that really depends on the baby. We had a baby Eurotub that he used until he was a year old and I loved that. Some toys to grow into would also be nice, board books, a playmat for the floor. A highchair or booster seat for later on. When he was older I got my showers in thanks to an exersaucer.<br><br>
We had too much stuff that we didn't use a lot, but at least all of it is still in great shape for #2 <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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A couple things we really liked:<br><br>
1. Diaper wipe warmer-we CD so we put wet washclothes in it and it kept them nice and warm.<br><br>
2. A small mobile-I actually didn't register for this but someone gave us a small wind up one that was black, red and white and ds loved it-we put it on the changing table. He hated getting his diaper changed but that helped.<br><br>
3. I didn't get a breast pump at first but we had big breast feeding problems. I rented a hospital grade for a month because the insurance paid for it but after that I ended up buying a Medela pump in style and got a lot of use out of it.<br><br>
4.This wouldn't be on a registry but if you could get someone or some people to go in on a gift card for for some place like designed dinners-where you can make your dinners and freeze them.<br><br><br>
If people really want to buy off a registry (my family really did and would only shop at two places) you might want to register for stuff that you won't use for a while like bibs, infant/toddler spoons, sippy cups, books, etc.
 

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Thanks for this thread... I wondered if I was being a little too stubborn by buying so little in advance of this blessing. To be specific, about all I have purchased is a bunch of used cloth diapers and wraps (and now a baby bjorn little potty for ec'ing). But people are already sending clothes and carriers and blankets. I think I'll just end up needing to buy a carseat, and some wooden toys when the time comes... I really don't want a bunch of extra stuff- I'm thinking about asking for donations for our community non-profit instead.
 

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Truthfully, you don't need to buy ANYTHING before the baby comes, in my experience. It will all get bought for you. Except cloth diapers and slings, unfortunately. This baby (#2 in 2 years) I have only asked for cloth diapers. I just don't see it coming from anyone excpet my mom, who got me a small Aristocrat and like 10 fitteds (thanks mom!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> ). Otherwise, it's all gonna be clothes, noisy battery powered toys, and washcloths. (What is it with the washcloths? Last time I got like 20 packages) Sigh.
 

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I dont think anyone had mentioned this, but if you are interested in trying out various slings/ baby carriers before you choose one, check and see if there is a NINO group in your area. NINO = nine in nine out, or go to La Leche League and ask around there, lots of moms there know alot about babywearing. I'd highly recommend going to LLL while you're preggo anyways, you'll meet lots of wonderful moms and build a great support base. They will probably all bring you dinners after the baby is born and be a great help! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I went ahead and registered for stuff people love to get, but that I wasn't really planning on using. Like $40 diaper genie or something. then I returned it all. Made people happy to get me something and I had about $240 worth of Target and Babies R us gift cards to use on what I really needed when things came up.</div>
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Brilliant!
 

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Regardless of where you are actually going to register, I would also start at registry at Target. If you have a baby registry there, that overrides their horrible return policy and they will let you return any baby item (as long as they carry it)!
 

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What I needed, and the kinds I got:<br><br>
-Cloth diapers (24 chinese pre-folds) and three diaper covers<br>
-carseat<br>
-nursing pads (I prefered Lansinoh- I NEEDED these if I wanted to leave the house and not change clothes every three hours)<br>
-season-appropriate clothes for the baby, including season-appropriate hats<br>
-organic olive oil or baby oil (Earth Mama Angel Baby is what I use, they have a website and a registry) for oiling baby's bottom to keep meconium from sticking, also works for massages and after baths-<br>
-for a winter baby: baby-sized blankets (we knit them ourselves and it was so nice to have warm blankets homemade for baby! if you are having baby in the winter, you still have time...)<br><br>
What I enjoyed but I wouldn't say I needed, strictly speaking, but which really helped a lot:<br>
-Boppy<br>
-Wrap (though, I'd get a sling and a podaegi if I could do it again- actually I did and I got a po)<br>
-Nursing bras and camisols<br>
-Nipple butter (Earth mama angel baby)<br>
-Pre-natal/nursing vitamins, and Emergen-C for electrolytes: I still use these, the electrolytes really help me keep hydrated to keep my supply up...not that I need it but I get paranoid when I don't leak <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
-Comfrey pad for after the birth (again, I recommend Earth Mama Angel Baby, and no, I don't work there, I just luuuurrrve their stuff)<br><br>
I've never used my breast pump but I'm glad I have it for emergencies.<br><br>
I used regular towels and washcloths for baby, used blankets for a playspace, and used a regular tub for bathing the baby, getting in there with her. We also had books from day one to get into the reading habit right away but we're a booky family. I use a regular, large backpack with several pockets to carry all her stuff in, not a special diaper bag. DD doesn't have any swings or seats or anything.<br><br>
AS FOR THE THREE IN ONE: I have this stroller. I wrote a review on amazon. It is fanstastic if you spend a lot of time travelling, by which I mean, you are on planes and going from transport to transport (train to plane, plane to taxi, etc.) at least four or five times per year, and if you don't use your own car a whole lot. Otherwise, it really isn't worth it. There are also installation issues- it can be very hard to install properly in some cars and not all experts know how to install it. I think most people be better off with a system that has a stroller frame and a carseat with a base. PM me if you want to ask any questions about it.
 
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