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Anyone else having a problem with ppl trying to feed your baby?<br><br>
We delayed solids until about 6 months with our dd, and it had the inlaws in a tizzy. So, now that we've "finally" started feeding her they are trying to give her everything and anything. It's gotten to the point where I don't want to take dd anywhere there might be food if the grandparents will be there.<br><br>
Yesterday, FIL bugged me to feed Flora (almost 7mo):<br><br>
-mashed up baked beans (made with salsa, bbq sauce and sorghum)<br>
-lemon pie with tofu whipped cream<br>
-a salt potato<br>
-cream cheese cheesecake dip<br>
-"just a small bite" of vegetarian sloppy joe (tvp in a spicy tomato sauce)<br>
- mashed up watermelon<br><br>
ARRGH!! She was doing her usual bit of watching ppl eat and mimicking us, and he kept saying, "Look! She's hungry! Come on, feed the poor kid!". I was just worn out with trying to fend him off. I finally put her in the sling and pretended to nurse so he'd keep away. (He has this unspoken rule about staying at least 20ft away and never looking in my direction when I am nursing. Let me tell you, that was a looooong nursing session. :LOL)
 

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oh my! in-laws can be pushy! my MIL always bought jarred baby food for my dd when she knew we were coming to her house, when she knew we ALWAYS brought our own mama-made babyfood because I'd rather her have that. Still, every single time, she would insist, SHE wanted to feed her "her" food and give her weird teas when she was a baby. urggg! so this is one of the reasons we live on the other end of the continent!<br>
lol...
 

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Yes, I've had this happen. It's aggravating. Worse yet, someone is being rude and telling you how to treat your child and somehow it's you who ends up looking like the rude one because you have to put your foot down!<br><br>
I know for my ds he wasn't ready physically to eat solids until he was about 9 months. He too was acting hungry and sometimes even crying a little, but whenever I would give him something to eat he would start choking! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"> He just didn't have the whole chew, swallow, throat thing down.<br><br>
Hang in there! It's tough when you have that pressure. Sometimes I would doubt myself when my mother was saying, "Look he's starving!". But when I asked ds's pediatrician she said that he gets more calories and nutrition from bf than ANY food I could possibly give him.
 

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I went in the restroom at a restaurant and left the baby with my mother...I come out and find her feeding him applesauce...and he was only about 6 weeks old! What made me mad is she's the same one who said he was too young to feed rice cereal to when the doc suggested it for his reflux.<br><br>
The one I have the most trouble with is my 8 year old...he's given baby Oreo cream filling, ice cream, popsicles...ugh!
 

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Hm. YES! But it's her own darn fault, she's such a beggar! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br>
When my younger brother came to visit, I heard him say "Here Eva..." and looked over to see him offering her his HAMBURGER! lmao! I politely told him she was too young for meat and cheese, but that a small piece of the bun would be okay.<br>
And again, it happend a week later with my older brother. I heard him say "Here you go..." and realized he gave her a piece of his peanut butter sandwhich!! And of course I had to explain that babies needed to be at least 2 (our great great grandmother used to say until age 5!) before they could have peanutbutter. He didn't know because he and his wife fed his son anything when he was Eva's age.<br>
My mom gave my daughter some chocolate malt frosty from Wendy's, but Eva doesn't like that stuff. Eva put her hands in front of her mouth to stop my mom's insanity, but my mom even moved her hands out of the way to make her eat more!<br>
I don't know what it is with food and babies. People just seem to think they go together!<br><br>
I've figured out that Eva does not associate eating solids with getting full or being hungry. Her doctor wants me to feed her more iron enriched foods, because Eva is anemic. So I've been giving her green vegetables. I tried to give them to her when she really was hungry and she cried and cried and cried, because she does not associate eating solids with getting full. After she finished I nursed her and she was asleep before my letdown ended. So a baby isn't necessarily hungry, when they're eyeballing our food. People are crazy!!!
 

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That is SO true! Flora can be burping and have a totally full tummy, and she will still scoot over to her chair (we feed her in a bouncy chair) and want to eat. I am convinced that at her age eating = fun or play; and has nothing at all to do with hunger! In fact, she seems to just enjoy watching us eat and mimicking us. If she were really hungry, I am guessing she'd have been crying for the food.
 

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I got some of this when my DS was only 3 months old. *sigh* I know I have posted this under similar threads in that 3 months but I will post it again. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
When in KS visiting family we told the inlaws that we were not starting any kind of solids/water/anything and they were very respectful (I think out of fear that we wouldn't visit as often if they did anything :LOL). But we went to a restaraunt and the waitress, who claimed she had a daught tried to give my son crap. She tried to put some ranch dressing... yes ranch dressing! on my borther-in-laws (15 yo) finger to feed him, unwashed hands of course. EWWW. I nearly lunged across the table saying "No, he doesn't need that yet!!!!!" and she made a rude comment like "Oh, all babies like that sort of thing." Of course my DH had to chime in "Yeah she won't even let him have water." And the waitress said "Oh all babies like water! I gave my daughter.. bla bla bla". I just smiled through my clinched teeth.<br><br>
She did come by the table over and over saying how cute he was. I really think she didn't mean to be rude... but it felt that way at the time.<br><br>
When we went to visit my family in CA after that no one really tried to feed him anything. But they didn't put some whipped cream around his mouth and said very loudly "Don't let momma see!", it was a joke, my family is just like that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
BUT we are going to visit family here pretty soon and DS is 6 mo which is when I kept saying the doctor said to wait to start solids. But my cousins wife started feeding her daughter solids and they are only 1 day apart. So I know I will get the "But Marika is doing it" bla bla sort of thing. Though Marika does have good reason to start solids early (I won't get into it).<br><br>
SOOOO. You could always say "Her doctor said NOT to feed her ____ untill _____ age." That worked great on my family, they think the doctor is God.... now to find a "reason" to not vax.... hmmmm. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mischievous.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="mischief">
 

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I went to a wedding with my rather large 3.5 mo old (she is now a little over 4 mo) and someone shoved a piece of cake in her mouth...she spat it right out! Poor baby! Though she does look longingly now at our food but I think she is wondering where the heck that brightly colored stuff is vanishing to!<br><br>
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My FIL is the worst! He is constantly telling me that dd is hungry, she needs some "real" food (she is EBF) First off, she doesn't open her mouth for food, if you do manage to get it in her mouth, it comes right back out. She just is not physically ready for food. Second, when she's ready, I'll give it to her! And third - breastmilk IS real food!!!!<br><br>
Attila~ FIL gets all weirded out when I bf too - so I do it as often as possible when he is around - it keeps him a good distance away from us :LOL It's one of the only ways I can keep him from feeding her!
 

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Oh Yes! I deal with this all the time. My ds had food allergies/sensitivities so it is even worse. My inlaws try to feed him everything and try to guilt trip me into letting them by doing the whole poor baby thing, as if he is missing out on life because of me! They act as if I am crazy and making up the whole food allergy thing and have told me that it is my fault for not letting him eat things. My fil told me that I "needed to inoculate him by feeding his a small amount of the foods he is allergic to everyday!?????????!!!!!!It makes me absolutly crazy! Then when they finally saw the result of a food sensitivity,( to something I had eaten) and his face was turning bright red and swelling up their answer was that shouldnt I stop breastfeeding if it was causing him so many problems. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"> "I reall ought to feed him formula instead of bm" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes"><br>
They informed me once that my 1.5(at the time) year old daughter could chew gum just fine when I told her no, she couldnt have gum, that they had been giving her gum for the longest time and she did just fine. They feed her cake and candy and dr. pepper by the case load at every meal and even at 7 am if she asks. And I have no control over it because this is when she is with dad on her visits. (we are divorced) I have to spend the entire 2 weeks detoxing her between each of the visits.<br>
When I told them not to give the baby any fried rice at the resturaunt because of the peas he is allergic to they proceeded to just knock the pea off the spoon and give it to him anyway saying oh well just take the peas out.<br>
He has always been a big boy, he was 20 lbs at 4 months so people have been trying to feed him and asking if he is crawling yet for a long time.<br>
It just makes me crazy when people try to argue with me that its fine for him to eat whatever it is that they are insisting that he eat.<br>
Anyway I'll stop ranting. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Ugh, YES! I hate this. Why do people think they have the right to undermine you as a mother and try to feed your baby?<br><br>
I have to watch my dad like a hawk because he's always trying to give my baby things like ice cream, cool whip, pudding, chocolate syrup, and ready for this one....HONEY! I've told him over and over that giving him food before he is ready can cause problems not to mention it's just junk he wants to give him. I've ranted on and on about how honey is dangerous and can *kill* a baby. I even showed him the warning on the bottle. His response,"I gave all of you kids honey when you were little babies and nothing happend. It's just a bunch of hype." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"><br><br>
MIL was sticking a green bean in my baby's mouth a few weeks ago. He turns 4 months this Wed.<br><br>
Even my DH wanted to give Kyle cool whip last night when we were eating dessert! I'm the only sane one around!
 

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YES! Ticks me off, but DH will try it sometimes! Like last night...DD (age 4 months) had a "bite" of mint chocolate ice cream. I was like "DH!" He says she got nothing, but a week ago my sister did the same thing, but with vanilla ice cream, and she got some. Her poor diaper the next day. All nasty brownish-green instead of yellow (like it always is!). Makes me mad!! My FIL also tries buttermilk and oatmeal. His claim: It'll make them regular! I'm like HELLO? That is so STUPID!! They are breastfed babies!! (he's tried with all 6 of my kids, even after telling him not too)
 

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wow, guess i'm really lucky. My stepmom is an old hippie and when dad asked last week if roman could have a bite of the hunk o' cheese he was nibblign on ..before i could say i'd rather he not, stepmom jumped all over him saying 'that baby doesn't need anything but mamas milk'.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
guess i really am lucky like that.<br><br>
i dont' worry bout other ppl - grandparents, aunts/uncles etc - they're all really respectful and always ask ...and sometimes the answer is yes. Like when uncle made homemade pasta and wanted to see if Roman woudl like a taste and i thought... why not.<br><br>
I DO worry bout DH !!! He's notorious for slipping our son bites of things he does not need to be tasting and grinning like he's done something hysterical.<br><br>
My 10mo old for instance had his first taste of Dr.Browns black cherry soda the other night at a local jewish deli. My husband thought it was hysterical and ok, i even laughed at the face the child made but still i had to tell him "ok thats enough with the soda pop" . So then he handed the baby a half sour pickle. oiy.
 

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I'd have fits if SO and I weren't on the same page about giving Doodle solids. As it is it's hard enough to keep others from doing so.<br><br>
My own father gave him a fingerful of cream and sugared coffee this weekend while I ran to the adjoining room to get his spoon to eat some mashed banana. I'd already refused eggs, maple syrup, milk, and a hundred other things for him! So I instantly became the "ogre" and jokes about "organic" flew for the rest of the day. Apparently dried kanana banana was good enough for me, why should my son not eat processed things?
 
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