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So there has been alot of tension between the households lately. It had gotten to the point that the kids could feel it to. I couldn't deal with it any more and we had a sit down talk with the kids' mom. We found out that she is not hitting them with a wooden spoon and she doesn't fly off the handle and spank them all the time. (we are a non spanking family). She realized that I in fact don't hate her son and that I do other things with them besides yell at them all the time.<br><br>
So needless to say DSS has been lying about the households I think to take the focus off of him. Arrg. It really hurts my feelings that he told his mom that I hate him. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
This is the kid that I took to the skate park really early in the morning when it was empty so he could practice without anyone else there. The kid that I Sometimes spend the entire day helping him with his homework at the expense of the other kids in the house. (hold on I am helping your brother). the girls went back and told their mom that we don't allow them to do their homework.<br><br>
She must be pretty hurt to hear some of the things he was saying about her too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br><br>
There are still things that we are not okay with that we see with our own eyes, (multiple shady boyfriends, child support going to beer and cigarettes instead of electricity etc. . . ) and but those are things that the kids don't need to be caught up in emotionally at their ages. I am hopeful that the focus will be off of the tension for a while and that these kids can go back to being kids.<br><br>
How are the kids going to learn accountability when some of their main adult role models don't give them that example. (Do what I say not what I do.) I just hope that the examples their dad and I give them will be worth something to them when they are old enough to really see things and decide what kind of people they want to be.<br><br>
Thanks for listening
So needless to say DSS has been lying about the households I think to take the focus off of him. Arrg. It really hurts my feelings that he told his mom that I hate him. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
This is the kid that I took to the skate park really early in the morning when it was empty so he could practice without anyone else there. The kid that I Sometimes spend the entire day helping him with his homework at the expense of the other kids in the house. (hold on I am helping your brother). the girls went back and told their mom that we don't allow them to do their homework.<br><br>
She must be pretty hurt to hear some of the things he was saying about her too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br><br>
There are still things that we are not okay with that we see with our own eyes, (multiple shady boyfriends, child support going to beer and cigarettes instead of electricity etc. . . ) and but those are things that the kids don't need to be caught up in emotionally at their ages. I am hopeful that the focus will be off of the tension for a while and that these kids can go back to being kids.<br><br>
How are the kids going to learn accountability when some of their main adult role models don't give them that example. (Do what I say not what I do.) I just hope that the examples their dad and I give them will be worth something to them when they are old enough to really see things and decide what kind of people they want to be.<br><br>
Thanks for listening