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I am considering bringing this up with DH. I would love to do a family night (family meeting) and thought Kailey is at the perfect age to start this. She'll be 6 in a few days.<br><br>
Although I have NO idea what a family meeting would entail. I thought Wednes (in the middle of the work week) would be a good night.<br><br>
Any insights?<br><br>
Primarily the reason for a famiyl night would e to reconnect, talk about the week so far, about issues in housework, personal life that needs addressing. I'd like to have a time where we can just chill with each other during the week.<br><br>
Can you all give me some ideas about what would go on during a family meeting?
 

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Since I homeschool, theres not much i dont see the kids do , but it is a good idea to sit down and check in with them every so often. We do this informally and make it part of our relationship with our kids. The idea of having it organized is a cool one though, never thought about that before. I ususally try to find a time that my kids are receptive to me asking them personal questions and sometimes I have to really dig. I probably do this every couple of days. My husband though does do this about once a week where we discuss topics and reconnect , but it has never been an organised decision that we have come up with. We discuss: homework, videogames,science church health +wellbeing, and changes we are making in ruteine. We dont generally discuss housework with our kids we just usually tell them what needs to be done, and family plans for the future.
 

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My kids might be a little young so far, ages 5.5 and 2, but we try to establish open communication with them and use our dinner time as a good place to sit down and connect. We do this every night of the week, although sometimes DH has a basketball game so he's not there the entire time. The girls help me cook dinner, then we all eat together and talk, then we all clean up together and play a game, read a book, take a walk, etc. I think this time is so important and I intend to keep this our routine as the girls grow older.
 

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We don't have a family night but we do talk about all the things you mentioned over dinner every night. I think it would feel too formal for us to have a once a week meeting for these things and it would have to be "the night" that the kids feel talkative.<br><br>
Not the same thing but I like the idea of a family "values" night, where each week, the parents plan something with the very definite goal of having the kids learn about a specific value.
 

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We have a "family meeting" on Sunday nights, usually over dinner. We talk about what we all have coming up that week, what we might like to work on during the upcoming week (stuff around the house, something we might like from the library, etc.), and any other issues that we need to address (like behaviors we need to work on/change). Everybody gets a chance to talk as long as they want to. We also hand out DD's allowance at that meeting.
 

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Cool. Thanks for the responses. Maybe I am having a tough time thinking about what we would talk about on a family night becuase we talk about everything every day anyway <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/headscratch.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="headscratch"> I just liked the idea of purposely sitting down and doing something family centered since dd is at school and then daycare for 2 hours in the afternoon and me and Mark are not together until the weekend. It would be like a halfway point reconnect, ya? I would love to have it be a game night, or movie/popcorn night.<br><br>
We generally don't sit together at the table to eat, but in the living room (TV off) but during the week we are really focused on school work (me), grading papers and doing lesson plans (Mark) and Kailey likes to chill out with not much tlaking. The weekends we really bond <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> and do sit at the table Fri, sat and sun evenings.<br><br>
I'll see what he says tonight. Kailey loves the idea though.
 

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If it's just social time together you'd like. I recommend Family Game Night. My family has done this since I was a toddler and the next sib was an infant. We started with games like Hi-Ho Cherry-O and have progressed through Trivial Pursuit on DVD. I'm 41 now and when ,y sibs and I go home to visit we still eagerly anticipate Game Night. Even in our teens and twenties, if someone invited us to do something we decline on Game Night - but our friends were welcome to join us.<br><br>
We play board games, cards, roll dice, or jigsaw puzzles. Cards and dice can teach numbers, matching, and categorizing, Clue teaches logic and deductive reasoning, and of course games like Scrabble teach language. My sister is a doctor, and one of her crowning achievements was beating our mom at Scrabble for the first time in her early 30's <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">. My mom's sister was always a bit snarky over our family "wasting time sitting around playing games," (as if just sitting around watching TV or playing with toys isn't?) but her kids had more problems in certain scholastic areas than we did.<br><br>
To this day, we purchase at least one new game for the family for Christmas and usually play it (and others) during the rest of the holiday break, while eating leftover goodies. We often prepare appetizer type snack foods.
 

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We review daily "stuff" at the dinner table. We are only able to eat together a few nights a week though so it isnt every night. I tend to chat more with our son throughout the day so at dinner I will make 'leading' comments like "So, tell how XYZ was..." And I am also more in touch with my husband's work than our son is so I kind-of do that same to him so he gets his chance to talk. I also bring the family calendar to the table to discuss events and menus as needed.<br><br>
We also do "Game Night" at least once a week if we can. Usually Friday nights if we're staying home. For the hour before bedtime we just play board games. Our son is 6 so he loves it.<br><br>
I read a book "Connfessions of an Happily Oragnized Family" that actually had a suggested "format" for family meetings as well as all the "stuff" that goes with them. I do someof the stuff but not all of it and have sort of changed it to fit our needs and abilities etc. If you can find the book at the library, then I'd recommend reading Chapter 3 "Its About Time" which gives ideas for setting up all sort of interesting "stuff" for family time and meetings etc.
 
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