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My DP came home last night... It was late, I had a blah day. Did 3 loads of his laundry plus another 2, a sink of dishes, vacuumed the tile.. but I did not clean up the living room.<br><br>
He was offended that 'he' cleaned it up last night and that when he came home there was toys and such "ALL OVER THE PLACE" as he put it.<br><br>
I do not keep after my 2yr old all day. She is a non stop mover, go go go!<br><br>
So I am wondering, do other mommies who stay at home clean up after their children as the day goes on or do you just wait until your little goes to bed to clean up.
 

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"Clean up"? I'm not familiar with this concept but it sounds intriguing... tell me more! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">"Clean up"? I'm not familiar with this concept but it sounds intriguing... tell me more! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"></div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Thank you!
 

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Hahahaa no not really. We just clean up whenever. Sometimes it's throughout the day (like crayons & blocks that I wouldn't want all over the house) but for the most part it's just always a mess unless we're expecting company.
 

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<span style="font-family:Georgia;">Oh no! My DD is like a hurricane! I HAVE to clean up throughout the day or we would both go crazy!<br><br>
I just have her help me. I'm trying to encourage the concept that when you're done with one thing, you pick it up before moving onto the next thing.<br><br>
That worked better before, not that she's older she can "discuss" with me why she needs her wood animals out with her magazines AND all the doll clothes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> Crazy kid.</span>
 

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I do both. When she naps I clean up and after she goes to bed. I've been encouraging her to pick up after herself and she's getting pretty good about it.
 

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I saw a cartoon once in which the father comes home from the office to a completely wrecked house, toilets overflowing, fridge open and empty, lawn flooded, toys and clothes and diapers everywhere, children on the roof, etc, and the mother in bed, reading and eating bonbons.<br><br>
He says, "What the hell happened?!"<br>
She says, "You know how you're always asking me what do I do all day? Well, today I didn't do it."<br><br><br>
Here, if I can do it along the way, I do. If I can't, I don't. My son like to be a crane or a garbage truck and sing a clean up song. It's good enough for a 28 month old to just have the idea of clean-up. I don't expect anything actually efficient, but sometimes he surprises me.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I do both. When she naps I clean up and after she goes to bed. I've been encouraging her to pick up after herself and she's getting pretty good about it.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that"> This is how it is in our house. I'm getting DS2 into the habit of putting away toys (ie, his cars) before moving on and playing with something else (the play kitchen and food), he's been doing great with it.
 

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LCBMAX that is priceless!<br><br>
Thank you ladies for the replies. I do work with her on cleaning up her own toys and she does a great job 90% of the time.<br><br>
On the other hand, my DP and his views on things are totally different!<br>
For instance, *I* let DD run around diaper/panties during the day so she has free range and can get to the potty quickly if she needs to.. and she did GREAT FOR WEEKS!!<br><br>
Two days of him being home and he REFUSED to let her be bottomless, first thing he would do is put a stupid diaper on her, not even panties! Said he was not going to clean up and pee/poo off the floor, well DUH, who does he think did/does clean it up when he is not home and it happens!!!
 

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I would like the directions for the cleaning up. I do not know this word. It is like the Swedish to me, I hear the "bork bork bork" and do not know the intentions of the noisemaking.
 

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we clean up as we go. I don't like a huge mess & neither does DD (25m) it totally overwhelms her when there are toys everywhere. She also likes to clean up & put things in their place.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Hahahaa no not really. We just clean up whenever. Sometimes it's throughout the day (like crayons & blocks that I wouldn't want all over the house) but for the most part it's just always a mess unless we're expecting company.</div>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I saw a cartoon once in which the father comes home from the office to a completely wrecked house, toilets overflowing, fridge open and empty, lawn flooded, toys and clothes and diapers everywhere, children on the roof, etc, and the mother in bed, reading and eating bonbons.<br><br>
He says, "What the hell happened?!"<br>
She says, "You know how you're always asking me what do I do all day? Well, today I didn't do it."</div>
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AFUs, I try to straighten up toys and such in spurts throughout the day. If DD is playing, I'm not hovering over her picking things up as she drops them, but if she's done and moving on to something else, or down for her nap, I'll put everything away in bins for later.<br><br>
I work two days a week. On Saturdays, DH stays home w/DD...<br>
Honestly, it really bothers me to come home to a completely wrecked house. Yesterday, I kid you not, I came in the door and had to step over a pile of veggie chips that had been dumped out and crunched up, DD was in the midst of all her toys that we scattered everywhere. The TV was blaring, clothes were strewn about. It was like the house blew up and he didn't do anything about it!<br><br>
It's stressful to come home to that. I know my kid is safe and healthy, but after a day of work it's like, come <i>on</i>. I don't want to deal w/that!<br><br>
So I can kinda see where your DP is coming from if it's like that a lot. If it's once in a blue moon b/c you did a lot of other things -- like you said you had -- then whatever, he's out of line to complain.
 

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When I was a Nanny my boss was very strict about clean up. So we did it throughout the day. If she was playing with her tea set and wanted to move on, we put the tea set away first. It was pretty easy because Nanette got a lot of her Mother's cleaning genes, so she loved to pick up <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Yes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
We have several "10 minute tidies" throughout the day and we clean up at the end of the day. But besides my toddler, I have a 7, 9, and 11 and we're home all day long, so if we didn't keep up it would be a disaster area by the end of the day.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I do both. When she naps I clean up and after she goes to bed. I've been encouraging her to pick up after herself and she's getting pretty good about it.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that"> me too. I try not to do too much during nap, though. Nap time is SACRED space for me and if I do dishes it will wake her up early sometimes. So I internet, read, and enjoy my silence.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">"Clean up"? I'm not familiar with this concept but it sounds intriguing... tell me more! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"></div>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I would like the directions for the cleaning up. I do not know this word. It is like the Swedish to me, I hear the "bork bork bork" and do not know the intentions of the noisemaking.</div>
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<span><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">,<br>
i do try to get stuff tidied during the day but it usually proves futile because caden will try to "help" and end up making more mess so i will (depending on how long it takes to get the lo's to bed how i feel etc) try getting tidied up before i go to bed, though my house often does like it's been hit by a bomb.</span>
 

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The only thing I clean up through out the day is the high chair and floor area around the high chair. And really, that's just a quick wipe down and sweep. At the end of the day is when I pick up all the toys, possibly mop if the floor is bad, and do a quick vacuum. Seriously, if I picked up after my son as the day went on, I would do nothing but pick up!
 

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This is kind of sad, but I pick up about every 2 days. I WOH p/t and by the time the boys are both in bed (9-ish) I'm just beat. On the second day I'll clean up when we get home, but that means it is a disaster before they go back to bed. Ugh.
 

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*sigh* I'm looking at two baskets of clothing and diapers that need to be put away as I type this! I'm still getting accustomed to having a toddler, so I can't get nearly as much done around the house as I did before when he was happily sleeping on my back during the day- this is kind of a bummer for me as I never feel 'caught up' but I'm slowly learning how to roll with it!
 

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DS1 is in a routine now where we pick up the toys when he wants to go outside or get out a new set of toys. That way we keep the mess to a minimum.
 
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