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For wanting more?<br><br>
I have an amazing dh and honestly his only fault is that he is not as romantic as I would like. He made more of an effort when we were dating but since marrying almost 10 years ago he gets less romantic every year, and he was never super romantic to begin with. Anyway, I often times feel like a witch that I can't just be happy with what I do have. I would certainly rather my dh be everything wonderful most of the year ( which he truly is) instead of doing a super job on those romantic days. I have so many friends whose dhs are not that great most of the year but are amazing holiday gift givers/romantics. So if I had to choose it would be 95% of the year greatness.<br><br>
So why then can I not get past the non romance thing? Finding that card I talked about in the other thread REALLY made me happy, that maybe, just maybe our " you need to be more romantic" talks iare finally after all these years sinking in.<br><br>
Do any of you ever feel that way?
 

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I don't think you're a witch at all! Don't hate me here, but my dh is fantastic about giving me the little things he knows I need most of the time. Sometimes he's just so stressed with school and whatnot that he doesn't think about it, and I really get moody during these periods sometimes. I think THAT is being a witch...heck a bitch even :LOL<br>
You shouldn't feel bad for your needs...and I view that as a very validated need. We need to feel that love and to feel special in that way <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Thanks. He truly is wonderful most of the time, gives me alone time, supports me doing community theater and such, and takes the boys to everything and likes it! The only things we are at odds about is $$, he thinks I spend too much and the romance thing. His argument is that $$ can cause divorce and I counter with, if a woman does not feel loved and special she might look for someone TO make her feel that way and that can also lead to divorce. We are not talking about US getting divorced, farthest thing from our minds, but the potential for these situations to lead to that. My comment really made him think and this card thing is one small way he HAS been trying, I just feel greedy for wanting too much.<br><br>
Thanks Danica for you thought!
 
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