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Sometimes I catch myself being surprised that I'm not a kid. Like, my friends are adults. and that's really weird, because they're not big enough to be adults. y'know, adults are BIG. tall, and powerful. and I'm just small. and all the adults around are the same size as me. but then I realise that I'm a grown up, and this is how it is to be an adult. and I just feel like something is missing.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
okay, its late at night. am I crazy? does any one else feel that there's something really strange going on that <i>we</i> are the 'responsible grown ups'??? I mean, we're still in the 6th grade, aren't we???
 

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Oh yeah, I totally feel like this. Except I often feel as though I am still 18. And when stuff happens that grownups have to deal with, I look around for a grownup to deal with it. And find that it is ME who is the grown up. Huh? What? When did that happen????<br><br>
I've even discussed this with my father, who swears that he and my mom are still 18 and just got married. He often feels like he doesn't want to be the grownup.<br><br>
So I hear ya. Things be weird about this place.....
 

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okay, so I'm not the only one *phew*
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">okay, so I'm not the only one *phew*</div>
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i still feel like i'm 16, when i see people that are 39 i think boy that's old! Than i realize i am that age too! Or i see actors that i watch on tv as a kid or teenager and think they really look old, but they are the same age as me!<br><br>
How the heck did this happen?<br>
Now i'm depressed<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I don't feel like it's weird that I'm an adult BUT<br><br>
I do feel like it's very weird that I'm not, I don't know... 20? 24 maybe? I have a daughter who is 21, how did THAT happen????? And what exactly does it mean?<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Yes, and personally I think this feeling is due to birth order. I'm the fifth child out of six.
 

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yes...i TOTALLY feel this way. a lot. sometimes i look around at our house and two kids and think HOW did this happen????? when did we go from scraping change to get a case of the cheapest beer to raising two kids? i am WAY too young for two kids (ok, i'm 33, so not really). i don't feel old enough for all this responsibility and sometimes i think who in their right mind let us procreate and bring home these two awesome kids? my dh has a "real" job now. when we get together with our friends from college, they all have kids and jobs and i look at them in shock - weren't you the guy who was seeing how many bong hits he could do in 30 seconds just yesterday???<br><br>
yet, i'm so happy to be here. but, i do wonder, do i end up ever feeling like a grown up and not just someone putting on a decent show?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yes, and personally I think this feeling is due to birth order. I'm the fifth child out of six.</div>
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I dunno. I'm the oldest, and it totally weirds me out that my brother is 21. I mean, to me, he'll always be a 7th grader. I don't care if he's married and has kids.<br><br>
And I'll always be 17. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Nope, I'm the exact opposite. I've felt about 40 since I was a teen. I'm finally starting to embrace being young (28) so I don't feel like I missed out.
 

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Yes! I thought that I was pregnant and was actually afraid that my family was going to look down on me untill DH reminded me that I'm 25, married, and buying a house. It's acceptable, even expected, that I have a baby.
 

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oh I am so with you in this.<br><br>
It hits me strongly when I am talking with someone about music or something and I'm like "yeah, I saw such-and-such band back when they did club tours in '88" and they look at me like I used to look at my dad cause he got to see Jimi Hendrix back in '68. wow. Cause they were in kindergarten then or something. It freaks me out. The other day I put a pic up on my myspace profile of me and Chris Connelly and realized I met him and the photo was taken about 18 years ago. Holy cow. That was scary.<br><br>
I mean, I've got the responsibility thing down and all, but I dont' feel like *looks out window at the perfect mature neighbors* THEM. I mean, I still have a few posters on my bedroom wall!!!!
 

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yep it feels wierd sometimes. It is also strange when i think "wow I am a mother" how did that hapen. I think back to the moms and grown ups with a kid and i just don't feel like them.
 

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I often feel like I'm just playing at being an adult yet here I am a mother of three. I feel like I'm still around 18-20. The first time I was actually in charge of cooking Thanksgiving and clean up was really weird because that was what mom always did. I have to remind myself that I am in charge and if I want something done then I have to do it. I am eight of nine children, youngest of the girls.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Nope, I'm the exact opposite. I've felt about 40 since I was a teen. I'm finally starting to embrace being young (28) so I don't feel like I missed out.</div>
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It's funny, I feel like that, too. I've always felt much older than I am. However, when certain adult responsibilities come up, I do feel like it's crazy that I'm the one dealing with them.
 

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Im still 16 at heart. I feel uncomfortable around people who dress strereotypically age appropriate since I will be wearing jeans, tshirts, boots, hoodies, flip flops and my nose ring (15 years Ive had it peirced) till the day I die as a very old woman and they look so mature and put together!<br><br>
I think that when I buy a minivan,soon hopefully, I will always have this sense of fear lurking that my mom will find out that I stole the car!<br><br>
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I feel like this all the time! Sometimes I do a double take when I realize that I'm the mom! I remember when I was DD's age, and how old grown-ups were...and now I realize that I'm one of them!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">okay, its late at night. am I crazy? does any one else feel that there's something really strange going on that <i>we</i> are the 'responsible grown ups'??? I mean, we're still in the 6th grade, aren't we???</div>
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I still think of myself as 18 and I wonder if that will EVER change. I cannot believe I'm 27, almost 28. I just can't be, you know?<br><br>
Then again, I was a very responsible/mature 18 so I really haven't changed much in those ten years. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">
 

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My DH and I were just talking about this! There are times when I step back look at the house the kids and think WHAT! When did this happen! Don't get me wrong I love it but it seems so surreal sometimes.
 
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