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like you are in the wrong family? I was at my family's yesterday for a cookout. I felt like I was in the middle of strangers. I couldn't talk to anyone about my plans for HS DS, because none of them approve. They don't want to here my oppion on ps. They have never approved of anything I did (in perpective to my son) I used CD, I breastfeed until he was ready to stop, and I've now choosen to homeschool.<br><br>
I just don't think My family realizes how hard a time I had in school. I've seen my sister argue with the school system through the years with her kids, and until I found this mothering site I thought "that was how it is" , but I realize now I don't want it to be that way. I want my DS to have fun learning not feel it is just something you have to do.<br><br>
Thanks for reading this I just feel so sad today.<br><br>
Sorry if this doesn't make much sense I'm just try not to cry infront of DS right now.
 

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Hugs, mama. I hear you. My family is the same.
 

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Um, yeah. That's why I live on the other side of the country.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s
 

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Pollyanna, I understand completely. I get along with my mother and she is very good to my kids. Other than that, I don't feel comfortable with my family or dh's family. We don't live near any of them, and I think that's for the best.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> My family is fine with HSing & pretty much everything else I do...DH's family though...well - UAviolation to them all! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hopmad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hopping mad">
 

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My family is wonderful about it, and are very encouraging, and glad I am homeschooling. DH's family is sure that I am depriving my children of something vital to their well being. They think I am weird, and too sheltering. But then, they have never bothered getting to really know me or my children.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Thanks Mamas<br>
I just needed to get some positive feels about HSing. He has a Cousin who is 9 monthes older than him, and I just feel my family is comparing them because I'm not putting my son in preschool.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">:<br><br>
Pollyanna, I understand exactly how you feel. I have not felt like I belonged with my family since I was a teenager, and since then the feeling has only intensified. It's hard when you are supposed to be close and loving with people who are your blood relations, but you don't share anything in terms of beliefs and interests.<br><br>
Fortunately for me, although I don't get along all that well with my family, my parents are supportive of our homeschooling. Although, they think we are doing it for religous reasons--"Because of all the evolution they teach at school"--but no matter, they are supportive and they have even given up some money to buy books.<br><br>
DH's family we very rarely even speak to so what they think isn't of much consequence.<br><br>
I can understand how very hard it would be for me if my family put down my decision to homeschool. It would hurt my feelings a lot, as I'm sure your feelings are hurting because you are only doing what you believe is best for your son.<br><br>
Some people in my extended family don't approve--including an aunt who complains that her son's Grade 1 day isn't full time because it's ONLY 6 hours! These people don't bother me, but immediate family is different, isn't it?<br><br>
All I can say is stick to your guns! You know what is best for your son. If someone asks you about homeschooling, tell them why you're doing it, but don't feel the need to explain if nobody asks. It might be best actually if you just avoid the topic. In the end, it's really none of their business anyway. So try not to care to much what they think.
 

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Oh gosh: DD has a girl cousin exactly 4 weeks younger than her and of course in the PS system. I also feel like there are too many times when the two are being compared. "So and so is doing this in school" etc.<br>
It makes me want to scream when mil outright asks me stupid questions such as: "is she doing math? can she add and subtract?" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br>
So I know how you feel. But although it really irks me I know my DC are in the best situation for them, and are thriving because of it. I suppose since DH's family does not seem to believe that right now, time will have to tell. And it will I know it.
 

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My in-laws don't understand at all. Homeschooling is "weird." It will deprive them of important life experiences like football and prom. They won't learn to socialize properly. We may not be able to teach them everything they need to know. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> It's worse because we have a great relationship with them and my son is very close to them, so it's not like they're not involved in our lives.<br><br>
My husband and both his sisters all had a lot of problems in school, and so far only one of the three has completed college - not because of academic difficulties, but because of depression, lack of motivation to go to class, etc. That's the kind of thing I want to prevent with homeschooling. But they just don't get that. I'm hoping my SILs at least will be supportive, but I've never really talked to them about it.
 
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