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I tell you, sometimes I just don't recognize my 3 year old daughter. She is so not like my DH and I.<br><br>
My DH and I are so laid-back, so mellow. Our DD is so dramatic, loud, over the top. And it's not just the toddler years making her this way. She's been like this from practically Day One. My DH says he sees a lot of his paternal Grandmother in her. We laugh about that - does that mean she is like her Great-Grandmother, or that her Great-Grandmother acted like a toddler? :LOL<br><br>
GG was very forceful, opinionated, always right, spoke her mind, did what she wanted, etc. People sometimes felt very uncomfortable around her. Being around our DD sometimes makes us feel like we are walking on eggshells. If I believed in reincarnation, I'd think GG came back! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"><br><br>
Anyway, my question is: Do you ever look at your kids and think, "Who are you, anyway? Are you my kid? Did you come from me?"<br><br>
The other day I asked my DD, just to be sure, "Am I your Mommy?" "Yep." "Are you my little girl?" "Yep."<br><br>
Well, she should know...
 

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Interesting, no responses. Maybe I'm not very clear about what I'm asking? I guess what I'm talking about is a child whose personality is so different from their parents, that it makes it somewhat challenging to communicate and work with them.<br><br>
Do any of you have a child like that? Their personality is so very different than yours that it is a challenge for you to be around them, communicate, play, work with them, etc. Just curious.
 

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DS2 is a very laid back little guy. But, he's only 2.5 months old, so we'll see how it goes.<br><br>
DS1 and dd are both very dramatic, powerful personalities. DD is also very aggressive - much more so than her brother.<br><br>
However, I don't wonder about it at all. One of my best friends once told me that I have a "flair for the dramatic", which is depressing to me, but it's true. I tend to be a little over-the-top sometimes, and it seems to have bred true in my two oldest children. We'll see what ds2 is like. So far, he seems quite quiet, but somehow, I don't think it's going to last. If it does...then I'll be wondering whose child he is!<br><br>
Oh...ds1 did get me once. I've been a bookworm as far back as anybody can remember. I taught myself to read before I started school. I was trying to get ds1 to read something when he was in first grade...just try picking up a book, instead of wanting to watch tv or whatever (I was always trying lots of suggestions). He told me that "reading sucks". I could hardly believe he was my child!! But, that was one isolated incident, not a personality pattern. He <i>is</i> much, much more socially adept than I've ever been. But, I don't wonder about it - he gets it from his dad, and I wish I had more of it.
 

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Yes, 2.5 months is pretty young to know yet. I think we started getting some inkling of our DD2's personality around 3-4 months old. Oh, I'm just thinking how little 2.5 months is! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"> So tiny and sweet! Makes me want to have another one!
 

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Quite the opposite! DD and I butt heads because we're too much alike, DS and DH are the same. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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We ask this in our house a LOT! I see flashes of dh and me in the way that dd behaves, and in her mannerisms - she has a wicked giggle that's totally me, and a way of giving a 'duh' look that's gotta be from dh - but other times we look at each other and scratch our heads and wonder if the fairies left her!<br>
She's spirited, feisty and amazingly determined - she is willing to take a long time figuring out problems, which neither of her parents are good at doing; impatient pretty much sums us up <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
There's something totally incredible about seeing such a big personality in a small package - I hope it never ceases to fill me with the wonder that we feel now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Well, sorta...<br><br>
I don't recognize anything of myself in Julia, except the unyielding stubbornness :LOL <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">: :LOL but she is so totally exactly like DH that sometimes it astonishes me. I am a very intense person. I have always been like that-- I was a colicky baby, and an impossible adolescent. I am extremely stubborn, and I'd argue with you if you said the ocean was salty. As a kid, I needed a lot of attention, and I fell apart if my routine was disturbed in any way.<br><br>
DD on the other hand is extremely laid-back, sleeps like a log at night, and enjoys just sitting quietly by herself exploring a pile of pebbles or digging in the sand. In a large group, she goes really quiet and just sits and takes it all in. She only cries when she misses her nap, and has never really been very demanding in terms of needing a lot of attention or wanting to be held all the time. She just seems to take everything in stride. She never gets really excited one way or another about much, and if you shut her alone in an empty room she'd find some way to entertain herself.<br><br>
DH is like that, too.<br><br>
On the other hand, DH caves in at the slightest hint of conflict and cannot hold his ground at all. Julia does NOT. She has a will of iron underneath all that laid-back exterior, and every once in a while if you cross her it'll all come pouring out, like she saves her intensity for when she needs it most. It is in those moments, when she's flat-out refusing to eat her cereal and no gimmick anyone can think of will get her to take even one bite, or holding a sit-down strike because I insist on her wearing a diaper, that I finally recognize that she is indeed my child. I might opt for a tantrum, while she prefers passive resistance, but the stubbornness is there all the same.<br><br>
For me it's most of the time that I think "are you really my kid?" and those rare moments when I say "wow, you really are my kid!"
 

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No my daughter is just like me nauratic & all <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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