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about me:<br>
my second child is a 1% baby, i was only about 8-10 weeks postpartum when he was conceived. four years later, i'm still paranoid about sex at all (the pregnancy and resulting life changes are still throwing us for a loop).<br><br>
i'm comfortable with the methods of safety we use except:<br>
everyone always talks about your active bleeding time as a 'safe' time, basically in the context that you CANNOT conceive then. we've been playing with this for a while now, but i recently have decided that maybe we're being idiots.<br><br>
has anyone ever conceived while they were bleeding? just one or two anecdotal tales will be enough to kick the fear of unplanned pregnancy right back into me and make me cover up on days 1-4 as well.
 

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I have had a 11wk pp pregnancy, do you chart? That would be your best bet. Once you get into the groove of it its real easy to remember to temp, and thats coming from a 3under3 mama. I was terrified of getting pregnant after my last, but here I am 10 mnths pp not pregnant <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> . I have about 12 days a month we abstain, I know there are always exceptions, but I've been using days 1-6 as "safe" with no problems, but I am temping and charting CM. If you want to PM me feel free.
 

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my mom got pg with my sis when she was on her period.
 

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I've heard of it happening, but generally I don't worry about it because I assume the chances are very slim. I usually feel safe days 1 to 6 and then the last week of my cycle.
 

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LOL...we don't believe in artificial birth control, so if we were afraid of having unprotected sex, we woudn't ever have sex. We're just avid sympto-thermal method users. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">:
 

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you can have anovulatory bleeding, and in that case it is not a safe time. unless you have ovulation backed up by a temp shift, you can't really consider bleeding times "safe" according to mucous only & symptothermal methods. with the standard days method, your period is considered a safe time. Personally, we use the STM and do have sex during my period.
 

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great to know!!! ty 4 clearing that up <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br><br><br>
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sigh.<br>
anyone else have a one percent horror story for me?<br>
at this point in my life, i don't know that i'd have the energy for a third, but at the same time, would have a hard time not embracing taht for a variety of reasons.<br>
i'm just happy that, no matter what, i'll have at least four years between births this time. that said, i'm still hoping for my 'menstrual infertility method' to pay off.<br>
i need to read TCOYF again.
 

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I have been charting for about 6 years now, and feel VERY comfortable with it....pretty much, I know that for me, if I don't have any EWCM, I'm not getting preggo...and since i only get EWCM about 5 days per month, right befreo my temp shift....it's very easy tp pinpoint ovulation and when to avoid.<br><br>
That being said, as confident as i am, right after i had dd, and i did NOT want to have any more kids, I refused to rely on FAM, and used a nice combination of condoms and abstinence (mostly the abstinance, poor dh, LOL!) until dd was well over a year old.
 

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Are you familiar with charting? The chances of getting pregnant postovulation are like, zero. Lower than your chances of getting pregnant during your menstrual period. I feel complete and 100% confident in not getting pregnant during my luteal phase (post ovulation time).<br>
The first 3 days of your menstrual period have an exceptionally low chance of getting pregnant as well.<br>
Depending on your cycle history and whats normal for you, you may be able to extend it out further, but that would mean actually taking a class or learning NFP/FAM really well... but its the most reliable method, I believe.
 

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MaryLang, that's what I thought, too, but now I have a fourth baby thanks to Day 6 sex. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> My dh had a vasectomy when that baby was 3 weeks old, the best Valentine's gift I ever received. It's been two years and I'm STILL paranoid that I'm going to get pregnant, that the vasectomy won't stay or something.
 
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