[timneh_mom]

My house is constantly being ripped apart by my 21 month old. I mean constantly. And I just don't have the energy to keep up. I've never been a really picky housekeeper, I've kept it clean but there always seems to be a fair amount of clutter. But now? OMG. I can't even begin to describe it. DS is like a little tornado who just rips stuff apart by just being near it!! I swear he doesn't even have to touch anything!

And I just feel like I'm always about 3 cents away from being totally emotionally and psychologically bankrupt. I just don't have much to give. I think this might be our last baby, because this is just so hard... and I'm not getting any younger... I've got many friends who sympathize, friends who are in my shoes now and who remember the days well! One told me, on days when I'm feeling the worst, just don't do anything more than you have to, and I do that already. I'm just wondering if I'll ever feel somewhat ok again... Ugh

And my son doesn't sleep... there is a thread in finding your tribe about uncuddly/active babies... that's my son to a T...

 

[Cullens_Girl]

Jumping in and crashing the forum because we are going through the EXACT same thing with our 21 month old. I've been known to call him the Tazmanian Devil during the hard times.

 

[timneh_mom]

OMG mine is about 2 weeks older than yours... I'm really sorry!!

 

[sehbub]

The house is a wreck, but I've been trying really hard to get over it. DH spent about four hours on Saturday cleaning and reorganizing our living room, and it looks amazing, so I'm trying really hard to keep it like that, at least out of respect for him! This weekend we need to tackle the office, since I'll be working from home and right now the mess is driving me crazy. The office doubles as DH's dressing room, so we've got some re-structuring to do in here.

 

[mamaglee]

Our house is a wreck. My 39 month old is the busiest person I have ever met! I love it when the house is clean so I can't wait til the nausea/exhaustion passes. This is definitely my last pregnancy!

 

[lanielayne]

YES! I have a 2 (!) bedroom tiny apt with a 6, 4, and 2 year old that are constantly going through my things, spilling stuff, or leaving trails of toys everywhere. Today ds1 spilled a huge box of spaghetti all over the carpet along with trailing blueberry juice down the hallway. Not to mention that I do not have a dishwasher (I am it!), the stove eyes work some days and not others, and the top rack in the fridge is broken in our already tiny fridge! The washer leaks into our bathroom and the dryer vent is stopped up so it takes 3 times to dry a load of laudry! Do I win?

No really I know it sounds like it is bad and I like to complain but really we sacrificed alot to live out our dream which was to move from Memphis to Missoula and we are only 4 months into it. We had to start somewhere and this town is amazing!!

 

[mom2mimi]

Almost any other day I would say YES! But this morning I got up, had a small cup of coffee and it gave me such energy that I actually cleaned! I mopped my kitchen floor and cleaned all the cabinet fronts, cleaned all the hardwood floors in the house, scrubbed the tub and cleaned the bathroom, and did laundry. I am just so happy I don't have to cook tonight, dh is bringing home dinner from the restaraunt! But yes, normally my house is a disaster thanks to the 23 month old in my life...and the daycare kids.

 

[anabellee]

oh yeah. dh and ds are super messy. we have our house up for sale so it's a constant battle to keep it presentable all while puking my brains out

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[Jude Rose]

Oh, you poor mamas!

This is my last pregnancy too. And my first.

Seriously, I'm at wits end trying to get the remodeling done, run my business, and field all the weird body things going on-I simply cannot imagine doing this again and adding a child on top of it!

 

[Gray's Mommy]

I am trying to keep up with the house, but it seems like the house is winning

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Right now I am in the process of dividing my chores over certain days & just doing those chores on the assigned days. It worked before but I got off a bit during that first trimester.

I am starting tomorrow to make my house a bit brighter

 

[Ekatherina]

i would say do force yourself to clean and you will feel a lot better. i took it as a rule and everytime i feel down i go cleaning. never let it overtake you! good luck! same tornado here too...

 

[appleseed]

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Originally Posted by timneh_mom My house is constantly being ripped apart by my 21 month old. I mean constantly. And I just don't have the energy to keep up. I've never been a really picky housekeeper, I've kept it clean but there always seems to be a fair amount of clutter. But now? OMG. I can't even begin to describe it. DS is like a little tornado who just rips stuff apart by just being near it!! I swear he doesn't even have to touch anything! And I just feel like I'm always about 3 cents away from being totally emotionally and psychologically bankrupt. I just don't have much to give. I think this might be our last baby, because this is just so hard... and I'm not getting any younger... I've got many friends who sympathize, friends who are in my shoes now and who remember the days well! One told me, on days when I'm feeling the worst, just don't do anything more than you have to, and I do that already. I'm just wondering if I'll ever feel somewhat ok again... Ugh And my son doesn't sleep... there is a thread in finding your tribe about uncuddly/active babies... that's my son to a T...

DD is 19 months old and I could have written this exact post... my daughter is INSANE. People come over to my clean house and are FLOORED an hour later when Juliet has thrown every last toy she owns all over the living room, possibly along with her dinner and anything else she can grab. I'm 20, so I have NO friends who are even close to "getting it-" they're all in college having a good ol' time (well, to them.) I have one young mom friend and her baby is tiny (2mos) so she just doesn't get it, either. I never thought it would be this hard! I go to bed crying some nights because I just feel like a failure. She drives me nuts and I feel crappy for the times I snap at her and make her go in her room for an hour so I can regroup and clean before the next Juliet-attack. I feel like a wreck and I'm sure with two on the way things aren't getting any better... it sucks

 

[timneh_mom]

Melissa...

 

[mooliette]

Mine is always a wreck!! I have a 35 year old husband that is the cause to most of that.

OMGosh, we have an appraiser coming to look at the house in Thursday and it's trashed, we are trying to get the low bid as we're buying it from me and my sisters

 

[phillychiquita]

Mine is such a wreck that today when my mom came over she offered to "lend" me her cleaning lady for a day!

I dont even have kids, but I run a business from home and the third floor office I usually use is too hot to work up there, so my stuff is all in the dining room where I have been working for the last two months. We're in the middle of renovations, and we inherited a ton of extra stuff from a recent parental move that we havent dealt with, so we've got more than we can deal with. We have a rommate moving in in three weeks, so we're frantically trying to clean and get things ready for him, but I have had NO motivation. On top of it, I am not the best at picking up after myself. Tomorrow, I may just have to go get a small cup of coffee and try to do some "flylady crisis cleaning" (only thing on flylady that has ever really worked for me) so that I can get the house looking presentable again!

 

[ekblad9]

I'm actually feeling better the last three days or so and have started putting back together the last few months of utter disaster. The laundry is out of control and I haven't even entered the kid's bedrooms or the basement. I'll save that for nesting.

 

[kaybee]

I just walked into the kitchen, looked at the mound of dirty dishes and declared "I'm not cooking for the rest of the week." Then I grabbed the Ben & Jerry's, stepped over all the dice strewn across the floor by my 3-year-old, and sat down here. I feel much better already.

Glad to hear I'm not the only one living in chaos. (Although admittedly, it's actually calm now - my ds was so tired he fell asleep in about 90 seconds.)

 

[nznats]

My house is embarrassing, Amalia has food everywhere, toys from one end of the house to the next and I just dont have the energy to clean it up

I hope it does improve, sometimes I think I am making a huge mistake having another baby because I cant even properlly take care of the one I have and keep my house clean and I am home all day...

 

[p1gg1e]

LOL I'm actully glad you guys posted this!

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My house is the same way! Its SO dirty. you can see the floors ( in some rooms) but the dog has fleas and I kicked the 3 cats outside because I was swimming in hair ( I already shed alot my self

). I cleaned out bay window yesturday of dead flies and then used goo be gone to clean the base board where when we painted (

5.5 years ago) there was resadu that hair was sticking to... Well I wiped a small part of the base board and removed the goo and OMG it was so dirty I might have to have a hasmat team in here to scrub it down ( thats free right?) Sigh I cant afford cleaning help... Sigh Well atleast I can run laundry

 

[illinoismommy]

My answer to the original question is YES