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Before I had kids, I was always a dog on the bed/cat on the bed person. After dd1, the cat continued to sleep on the bed and we had no dog. When we got a dog, he wanted to sleep in the bed too (with me, dh, dd1 and the cat). This annoyed the cat but we tried it.<br><br>
Problem with dog1 is that he's a total bed hog. He wants to sleep in the middle. He wants to sleep on the pillow. He pushes and shoves and nudges until he's pushed everyone to the outer edges of whatever bed he's sleeping in (and he's only a 20 lb. dog). So after a few nights, we all agreed he couldn't sleep in the bed. That was 8+ years ago and he's been trying to make his way back in ever since.<br><br>
Fast forward to dog2. Dog2 is a 40 lb. dog and an Australian Shepherd. He doesn't want to sleep in the bed. It's too hot and he needs to patrol the house checking on each "sheep" in turn all night long.<br><br>
Now dog3. Adorable, cuddly lap-puppy. A dream bed-sharing dog. Everyone wants him to sleep in his/her bed.<br><br>
So we're revisiting the dog in the bed question.<br><br>
We're not germ-phobic around here, but the hair in the bed kind of creeps me out. And in summer .... fleas?! Ewwwww.<br><br>
What do you all do?
 

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When I lived with my parents, the dog slept on my bed. My current dog, no way. She's not allowed in bedrooms at all due to her personality and dominance drive.
 

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Dog in my bed, cat in Rain's bed. We use frontline or advantage or one of those, so there are no fleas. I have a folded-up comforter on my bed that the dog is supposed to sleep on, which is easier to de-fur (and also because she has some incontinence issues, although she's fine now except if I start forgetting her biweekly pill).She usually curls up against my back, though, instead. She does help keep me warm.... and the cat sleeps on Rain's pillow.<br><br>
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My dogs can sleep in the bed as long as they follow the rules: no pushing anyone aside (if there's no room without re-arranging people, there's no room), they must get down the minute they are told to, for whatever reason, and no panting or scratching your collar. My big dogs sometimes sleep in the bed, but not all the time, and the little dog never sleeps in the bed unless it is empty. She's terrified of being kicked (she's a rescue) and will yelp if you so much as push her aside with your foot.<br><br>
I had a really pushy wanna be alpha aussie once (this story has nothing to do with your situation, I just thought it was funny). I lived by myself in a tiny studio apartment and slept in a twin bed. This dog was not technically allowed on the bed, but she'd sneak up when I was alseep. I had no problem with that. Well, one night she didn't wait until I was asleep, she just hopped right up. I told her off and she went back to her bed. 2 minutes later she was back. She did this 5 more times before I finally got off my bed, and laid on HER bed. She looked at me funny and then got back on her bed and stayed all night. She tended to be manipulative and possessive, I just had to get inside her head.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I had a really pushy wanna be alpha aussie once (this story has nothing to do with your situation, I just thought it was funny). I lived by myself in a tiny studio apartment and slept in a twin bed. This dog was not technically allowed on the bed, but she'd sneak up when I was alseep. I had no problem with that. Well, one night she didn't wait until I was asleep, she just hopped right up. I told her off and she went back to her bed. 2 minutes later she was back. She did this 5 more times before I finally got off my bed, and laid on HER bed. She looked at me funny and then got back on her bed and stayed all night. She tended to be manipulative and possessive, I just had to get inside her head.</div>
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That is super funny.<br><br>
My bed is truly all in the family.<br>
Dh, myself, ds, two lab mixes at 80lbs each and a cat who insists on sleeping above my head on the pillow and has allergies, but I tolerate it. Dog #1 must sleep right next to ds, dog#2 likes to sleep under the covers, at my feet, but gets out of bed to rearrange and back in atleast 5Xs a night. Each time I have to wake up enough to lift the blankets and let him back in. Dog #2 also hates the cat, so if the cat moves at all, dog #2 growls and gets all disgruntled. Now we are dealing with Dog #1 getting cold in the morning and waking up ds trying to get under the covers. Ds goes beserk in his sleep and it is not pretty.<br><br>
We love our dogs and they aren't ever going to be taught to do any differently because we have always been okay with this, so even if we wanted a change, I don't think it would happen. We also use frontline in the summer and just deal with the hair, change our sheets often. Ds won't sleep if Dog #1 is not in bed with him either, so it works out well.
 

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My dog sleeps in my bed, usually inbetween my legs (so cute!), shes small but keeps me warm too! My issue with this is the hair. You cant see dog hair in my bed but you know its there obviously, and I start thinking im breathing it in...creeps me out, I dont think thats very hygienic. She has dominance issues (see my thread about rehoming her) so if I dont let her sleep in my bed she barks all night...
 

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We have two dogs, we've had three. Our American Eskimo just likes to lay on the bottom of our bed until we turn out the light. As soon as we turn out the light, she gets up and lays in the hallway between our bedroom door and our son's bedroom door. She prefers her own space to sleep. Our new puppy is a snuggler. She sleeps with us every night, since the day we got her. If she's taking up too much room, I just push her over a little and she doesn't seem to mind. She likes to sleep up against my feet, usually using them as a pillow, which is fine with me- my feet get so cold at night. Sometimes she likes to sleep with my son until us grownups go to bed, but they're still working on the details of that- being a puppy, she's likely to step on him with her big feet or lay on him. They both join me after my Husband gets up but before I get up. The dog we used to have was a little more dominant than the two submissive dogs we have now. She slept with "Daddy" for eight years before I did, so the first night we were all together, she was taking up her "half" of the bed and she growled at me when I pushed her aside, so she got kicked off our bed for a long time. In time, we let her back up, but whenever she took up too much room and I pushed her aside, she would go lay on the floor, as opposed to having less space on the bed. She would also sleep on the bottom of our son's bed sometimes. We have no problem with a dog who listens to our children sleeping with our children. All our dogs have listened to our son, so that's not a problem, but our little girl just does not know how to command a dog, so I don't think we'd let our dogs sleep with her yet. We use Frontline to keep the fleas at bay and brush regularly, to reduce shedding. Also, I'm probably a bit of a germaphobic- I bathe my dogs every month, month and a half in the winter and more in the summer, more often when it's muddy, less often if they're been in our pool One of the best things to wake up to is a dog on your feet and another one against your back.
 

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No. Our dogs are big and I've never been a dog in the bed person. My dh always let his dog sleep in bed until I moved in and couldn't stand it.<br><br>
Our cat does sleep with our oldest though. We can't keep her out anyways. If the door's shut to his room she just lays in front of it until someone opens it. But the hair skeeves me out.
 

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Thanks, mamas. I guess I'll just have to get over the hair thing. In soCal fleas are a problem during the summer, but we have methods <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> for dealing with that. If the kids don't mind the hair, why should I, right? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I will be watch dog1 for dominance issues, though. If he growls at anyone when s/he asks him to get off the bed, he'll lose privileges that minute!<br><br>
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Our 15lb dog sleeps with DH, DS2, and I. He sleeps down at the foot of the bed, usually stretched out across both my legs. If it gets cold, he curls up between my legs up against my butt. He doesn't shed, so we don't have hair problems. He's never had fleas, so we don't have that problem either.<br><br>
My cat sometimes sleeps with us. If I let him, he sleeps up above my head on my pillow. He makes me sneeze, though, so I usually push him down and he curls up against my back. If he doesn't sleep with me, he sleeps with DS1.
 

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<span style="color:#800080;">We have 2 chihuahua and a cat. The boys chihuahua gets to sleep in the boys room with ds1 and ds2 who are 6. The female chihuahua gets to sleep in the girls room in bed with dd1 who is 3. Both dogs burry underneath the covers and love to snuggle. The cat is our patroler but usually sleeps in bed with dh and I. In teh summer we do flea meds...well all year long actually since the dogs have heartworm preventative and flea stuff in one pill. The cat is on flea stuff too and HATE it. Oh well. We had a BAD infestation 3 summers ago and I will NEVER go without the flea stuff again! Learned my lesson once. =)</span>
 

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We flea treat, and one dog sleeps at the foot of the bed. We keep a blanket there just for him so the hair doesn't get everywhere...however we have a truly enormous bed. If we didn't have the extended King the dog wouldn't have room.
 

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Our dog sleeps on our bed sometimes. If he gets annoying or it is too hot we tell him to get down. We have a dog bed for him in our room so he can sleep there.<br>
If he slept on dd's bed he'd keep her awake.<br>
Our 3 cats sleep in the basement or the enclosed back porch. That is their domain.
 

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Loki will occasionally sleep with us for a while, but he likes his space. If we kick him out, he just goes and sleeps somewhere else.<br><br>
If DH or I are gone, then he's more likely to spend the night on the bed because of the space issue.<br><br>
He's a lab, so we have dog hair everywhere... we don't let him sleep on the sheets, though. He has to be on top of the comforter. We also haven't ever had an issue with fleas, thank heavens.
 

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So I brought up the possibility of changing our dog-on-the-bed possibility, and dd1 said she thinks it would undermine the work we've been doing with dog1 on dominance-related agression. The other two asked some questions about what that meant and decided it wasn't that important to have the puppy in bed with them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
Okay. Guess we're back to a no dogs on the bed policy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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