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I'm just curious to know what it is about diapers that has me spending so freely? If you look around my house you would see a family that lives fairly simply. Everything is second hand, cheap, or old :LOL Except, that Kylie has designer diapers on her bum. I don't really see this as a problem, but I also don't fully understand the mania to buy more. I like washing everyday, and I have just enough to wash each day and have her in her prefolds while they wash.<br><br>
So, does anyone else find that they indulge more on diapers than in any other area of their life? How do you feel about this? Would you feel better if you stopped buying? At times it feels like an addiction for me. I feel good buying them in the moment, but I have this twinge inside me that feels guilty. Using the cute diapers everyday keeps that twinge buried :LOL<br><br>
Also, for me, its not that I spend money that should be used for bills or food. Most of the money is from diapers I sell, or stuff I sell on e-bay. Its more of the consumerism that bothers me.<br><br>
What are your thoughts?
 

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I USE TO SPEND ALL MY MONEY ON CLOTHES FOR ME, THEN I HAD DS AND I SPENT ALL MY MONEY ON CLOTHES FOR HIM, THEN WE SWITCHED TO CLOTH AND I BUY WHAT I LIKE WHEN I NEED IT, NOT ALL MY MONEY ON DIAPERS, BUT MOST OF IT,. lol<br><br>
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I know what you mean! I never buy clothes for myself and will put off buying necessities like a nursing bra in the right size or getting a hair cut because I hate spending the money on it. I agonize forever about buying clothes or shoes for the kids--do they really need it? is there a better deal? etc. But it is much easier to convince myself to buy diapers--maybe not new ones, but when I see something on the TP or Mama Shop & Swap it is like I just can't resist buying it! I think it is because diapers are such a basic necessity... you can't not have diapers, right? :LOL It is easier to justify splurging in that one area. But I was starting to feel really guilty so I've stopped for a while and I feel better.<br><br>
The only other similar area I can think of is eating out... no matter how much we are on a budget there are occasions where we just cannot resist eating out. It makes us feel better somehow in a way that is more important than the money we could have saved. I think that is part of the lure of nice diapers, however each person defines that--every time you use them, they can make you so happy! Who can argue with that?<br><br>
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I used to be proud of being the sale "queen". Never pay full price. I diapered ds in prefolds and bummis for the first two months. And then I went crazy. Almost obssesive. Now I've sold off almost everything that I bought and have gone back to prefolds. I didn't lose the wool though. The best investment IMO. I just didn't feel comfortable. I had lost the vision on why I had started to begin with. I still will allow myself a splurge once in a while, just like in my regular life. Just not 1/2 doz of one kind of diaper at a time.
 

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My largest expense after groceries is the $20 I spend on postage juggling diapers & swapping every month<br><br>
I don't even buy shampoo for myself anymore.<br><br>
I sold enough stuff to afford some shoes for my newly walking babe, and then impulsively bought an elbee off the tp!
 

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No, not really. We live fairly simply- with little "splurges" here and there. But my idea of a splurge isn't most people's idea of a splurge...so I think we're doing okay. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> :LOL<br><br>
I could never bring myself to buy any really expensive diapers or covers. The most I have ever spent on a single diaper was $15 each on 2 washed/unused Fireflys. They are our nighttime diapers and well worth it for their absorbency.<br><br>
I just couldn't imagine spending more than that on a diaper- especially since AIO's/fitteds don't have the longevity of prefolds. We use mostly fitteds and wool- but only the moderately priced ones (great quality, but not outrageous price).<br><br>
I just don't get this Elbee thing. Could someone explain it to me? Aren't they like $30 each or something? Why?!
 

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no, we're horrible consumers. lol, diapering I can sometimes restrain myself on. I'm not a hyena by any means. i have tons of pockets and aio's (40) but everything else modest amts of. And dd has been in mediums since we started at 4 mo, so that contributes to the large # of pockets too.<br><br>
the weird thing is, dh thinks I am cheap and gets mad when I get cheap about diapers :LOL:
 

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Total cheapie here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
I haven't had a hobby in years...and then I got pg w/ C, had a hard time coming to terms with it (happy but apprehensive simultaneously). Researching CDs helped me get more excited and they help me feel in-touch when I'm at work (dh = SAHP). That in addition to recycle, reuse reduce which we believe in. We have one of those sink "incinerator" thingies that chews up food and yet dh still packs compostable-material in the orange juice cartons and takes them to the other house to bury it for our compost pile up there. Clothes are hand-me-downs and goodwill. Cars are bought well loved, with cash. We rarely eat out.<br><br>
My family wants for nothing (well, we could use a van but we're making due w/o one and just take our two economy cars if all 6 of us need to go anywhere).<br><br>
Simple? O yes. But even the diapers I've mainly bought used. We change at every pee so go through a lot. And the laundry cycle can run from 1.5-4.5 days start-to-finish, so we sort of *have* to have a big stash. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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We don't live anywhere near as simply as I'd like. So, for me just using cloth is a step in the right direction. I want my child(ren, hopefully someday) to grow up without being a slave to the television and feeling like they have to have the next cool thing to feel good about themselves.<br><br>
That being said, we have a lot of stuff that dh and I realize we don't need. Some of it we like, and some of it just takes up space. We move every few years and end up getting rid of a lot of our stuff (donate everything we can), and really it's not that hard to do. Next time we move it will be even trickier, because we will most likely be downsizing a lot. So, more stuff will have to go or go into storage, which I really don't want to have to pay for.<br><br>
So, we have what we like to call the 5 minute rule. If I walked out of the store (or website) and started doing other things, would I even think about it in 5 minutes or would it be totally forgotten. And, you can't obsess over it, you really have to try to forget about it. If you find yourself still wanting it, hour after hour (or day after day, or week after week) then we usually buy it.<br><br>
This is harder to apply to diapers though, because usually if I wait five minutes I've missed my moment of opportunity. I did this so many weeks in a row with the SOS stocking, before finally snagging one! :LOL
 

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I haven't yet spent $30 on one diapering item, and can't explain that aspect of it, but elbees are clearly in their own dimension when it comes to trimness, softness & fit.
 

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I have been splurging lately...which I don't like either. I need the money for other things, but am trying to stock up...so when I see the items FS on occasion...I want to get while the gettin's good...know what I mean??
 

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I buy a new diaper every once in a while, but certainly not often! The nature of my business would clue just about anyone in on how cheap I am <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> BUY fabric for diapers? Are you NUTS?!?! :LOL<br>
Our biggest expense is food - I made it a high priority to provide really good food for my family, so we spend a great deal of money on groceries & food co-op each month. But that's for organics, local pasture-fed unhomogenized milk, free-range eggs & meats, raw milk cheeses, and whole-food alternatives for convenience foods.....none of that is anywhere close to being cheap! So I compensate everywhere else - diapering included.
 

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I'm cheap. There I said it :LOL My friend and I are always on the look out for the lowest prices for everything. I really love it when I get things that are very well made/gonna last forever for a great price-I recently began the process of getting rid of our falling apart cheap furniture and replacing it will stuff that will last longer.<br><br>
However, diapers are my downfall. We don't ever wear designer clothes-well except for dh's shoes, otherwise he'll just tear through them. I buy generic everything, so come diaper time, I splurge. Only on things with a good resale value though.
 

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YUP! We live like paupers, but I love my wool! No designer dipes or AIOS here-flats and prefolds, but I will splurge for some good wool covers, and I decided to take up knitting again to save cause I saw myself stalking pricey soakers! I NEVER buy myself anything, and we are so cheap. We don't even have cable! But, Joey will get a BBH or Kiwi every once in a while, LOL. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I wouldn't say we live "simply". There are two things I splurge on, but ONLY after my family has EVERYTHING they need. I splurge on cloth, and handbags. (I have a weird handbag fetish, :LOL) we live comfortably so we have everything we need.<br><br>
I really can't complain, If my kids need clothes or anything else, or if I need clothes (which I always do, LOL) I buy what I need, so I am grateful because dh works hard so we can be comfortable.<br><br>
I <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> my dh! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 
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