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My daughter was born 10/02 and we have another one on the way 08/05 - I imagine all 4 of us will be sleeping together, and am not sure how long the oldest will cosleep - she just doesn't want to be without me, so for now I guess this is what works. I was wondering what all of your situations were, and also those of you that had kids that used to cosleep that stopped, how did that happen (did they leave voluntarily, did you set a date together, other).<br><br>
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My dd is three and a half and we have always coslept, straight from birth. We have a double bed and a single bed pushed together in our room and dd sleeps in the single, dh and I in the double and then at about 4 - 6 AM dd comes into the double and dh leaves for work. Then dd and I wake up at about 7 AM and start our day.<br><br>
She has not ever shown an interest in anything but this situation. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br><br>
One day at a time is our motto. But we are only having one child, totally different situation than yours, sorry.<br><br>
congrats on the babe to be!
 

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My ds is 5 and dd is 18 months, ds moved into his own bed when he was 3 but i felt like we pushed him (oh the beauty of hindsight) we lived in a tiny place at the time with only one bedroom so he wasnt far away from us and would get in bed with us most nights. When i became pg we moved to a bigger place and he started to be more content to be in his own room we were right next door and quite often one of us would sleep with him. When dd was born she was in with us so ds felt a little left out so we moved his bed into our room and thats pretty much where he has stayed since then. If i have another baby which wont be for a while yet anyway im not sure if we will all fit but then ds will be older and will probably move back to his own room with no problems i just havent pushed for this cos we love being together and it means i can nurse my dd to sleep while singing ds to sleep at the same time <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br>
So maybe if it will fit you could put her own bed alongside yours.<br>
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My children are 4 years, 20 months, and 5 weeks. We all cosleep with a queen and a double mattress on the floor pushed together. We love this arrangement and can't imagine doing things differently any time soon. Ds1 knows that other kids have their own bed and their own rooms but it seems like a really strange idea to him :LOL It has always worked well for us <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Now I did not cosleep when mine were first born. I had never heard of AP and since many of the things I felt and thought fit right in it became a natural progression.<br><br>
Mine started out in beds of their own and increasingly started sleeping with us, which didn't bother me in the least. They have since slept with us full-time. They will be 5 & 6. It's been 3 years now and someone just gave us a king size bed we've been wanting to accomodate us all comfortably <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> We personally don't think we will change that until they ask us to. They each have their own beds they can sleep in as well as a queen size bed they can cosleep in together but for now they want to be with us so that's where they will stay.
 

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Mine is 4.5 and still sleeps with me. Glad to hear moms with older kids here...I was beginning to feel like a weirdo. Now I know I'm a weirdo WITH COMPANY! :LOL<br><br>
Anyway, I'll sleep with her until she wants her own space. Right now, she wants to snuggle with Mom. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Now I did not cosleep when mine were first born. I had never heard of AP and since many of the things I felt and thought fit right in it became a natural progression.<br><br>
Mine started out in beds of their own and increasingly started sleeping with us, which didn't bother me in the least. They have since slept with us full-time. They will be 5 & 6. It's been 3 years now and someone just gave us a king size bed we've been wanting to accomodate us all comfortably <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> We personally don't think we will change that until they ask us to. They each have their own beds they can sleep in as well as a queen size bed they can cosleep in together but for now they want to be with us so that's where they will stay.</div>
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See siggy..........they all sleep with me (except Jake....but he will eventually!)
 

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My 3yo still spends part of the night with us. He starts out on a pallate next to our bed and comes in at some time during the night. Sometimes I put him back and sometimes I don't. I don't see him moving into his own room anytime soon.
 

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Hi!<br><br>
Our DD is 15 mos. & has been in our bed since since Day #1... no plan yet when she will leave our bed!<br>
Melanie <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My 4yo asked to sleep in his own room/bed shortly after his sister was born, 9 months ago. We had never once mentioned anything about it. Ever. It was a bit strange actually. One day he said "mama, guess where I want to sleep tonight" "In my bed". He has been there ever since. We bought a nice big bed for his room a few years ago but it was only used for folding laundry up until that point. I was/am a bit sad about it but he has made his choice. I always tell him he can come sleep by me any time he wants to but he very rarely does. DD sleeps in the crook of my arm most nights as she is an all night nurser.<br><br>
ETA - actually I meant to say shortly after he turned 4. Scary how the memory just gets sucked right out....
 

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I have a 5,7, and 9yo. They all have thier own beds at this point, and that is where they prefer to go to bed at the end of the day. The 7 and 9 yo usually move into my bed around midnight or so. My youngest usually stays in her bed until the morning (you'd think it would be the opposite!).
 

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My almost 6 year old is still with us most nights, and my 9 year old comes in quite frequently.<br><br>
Ona average, they all slept with me for about 5 years. I had a king and a full on the floor. When they started wanting friends to sleep over, they started using their own rooms. I guess you cuold say they still co-sleep, but with each other, my girls share a bed, the boys share a bed.<br><br>
My 20 year old son will sometimes come lay down with me when he comes in from work. When he does, I know something is bothering him and he wants to talk. We'll talk about what's going on, and then he'll say, "Goonight, Mom!" and leave. (So they don't co-sleep forever, haha!)
 

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My 2 1/2 year old and my 3 month old sleep with us every night. 11 year old will occasionally sleep with me and the little ones when DH works overnight. The 15 year old wouldn't be caught dead sleeping with us! :LOL<br><br>
We plan on the two younger ones having a shared room for whenever they want to venture out of our bed. We will probably start encouraging the older one to sleep in his own bed around 4 or 5 if he hasn't already wanted to leave.
 

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My ds is 3 and my dd is 23 mths. I started colsleeping with my son around 9 mths old and he transitioned right before his 3rd birthday. My dd has been sleeping with us since birth. We were pretty cramped for awhile, but then one day I asked ds if he wanted to sleep in his big boy bed and he said yes. I had to lay down with him for a few mths, but now he falls asleep all by himself. DD doesn't even have a bed yet, but I think around 3 we'll try for her own room. I have a feeling she won't be as willing as her brother though!
 

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DS is 7 months old and I really don't know when we'll stop cosleeping. Probably sometime before a next baby, which at the SOONEST would mean he'd be 2.
 

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Dd is 4.5, ds is 2 months, and both still sleep with us. Dd will sleep with her grandparents (my parents) when we're at their house, and she does have a bed of her own that she will occasionally sleep in, but for the most part, she's with us. I have no preconceived notions about when she'll move to her bed a majority of the time, but I suspect it will be at least another 6 months to a year.
 

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DS is 2yo and i'm due in december with #2. we haven't decided what we're going to try yet...we're considering putting a twin next to our king and moving DS over there...or putting #2 there (DS LOVES being between us, so we don't want to disturb that comfort)...we have no plans to have DS leave our bedroom, at the MOST he'll be in his own bed in our room. i can't imagine him being in another room any time soon. neither can DH. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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At six, DD now starts the vast majority of nights in her own bed and generally doesn't come in until it is almost time to wake up (sometimes she sleeps all night in our bed, sometimes she comes in in the early morning).<br><br>
We will occasionally put DS in his bed for a couple hours after he is asleep. Otherwise, he is in our bed full time. He is 3.5<br><br>
We do not have a timeline for them being in their own beds. DD has had access to her own bed since 21 months, DS since close to 2.5 but it is their choice.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My 20 year old son will sometimes come lay down with me when he comes in from work. When he does, I know something is bothering him and he wants to talk. We'll talk about what's going on, and then he'll say, "Goonight, Mom!" and leave. (So they don't co-sleep forever, haha!)</div>
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I moved back home when i was 19 after getting pg my mum had people staying with her so i slept in her bed for a while until they left, she used to laugh and say "all those people that used to say i'd never get my kids out of my bed if i let them sleep with me were right!" :LOL
 

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When my son was 1, we got a single bed and pushed it up against our queen. He had his own blanket and pillow and was tickled pink.<br>
When Nadia was born, we kept that arrangement but put him on daddy's side of the bed and the co-sleeper on my side.<br>
When he started getting closer to 3, he kept talking about having his own room. We had moved from Hawaii and didn't have his single bed anymore and were all sharing a king size bed.<br>
We bought a toddler bed and put it in his room. He kept rolling out of it and coming back to our bed. So we got a full size mattress and set him up with that. We tried putting Nadia in the toddler bed in our room but she also was falling out of it. Those things are tiny! I guess you can say that Skanda moved to his own room right after his 3rd birthday. That's also when he night weaned.<br><br>
Since Nadia doesn't often wake up to nurse at night, I started putting them to sleep in the same bed. They each have their own blanket and pillow and I lay between them and read to them until they go to sleep. Nadia is almost 3. Sometimes she wakes up around 4/5 am and comes into our bed and nurses and stays there until she wakes up for the day. I imagine Amelie will be in bed with us until at least 2. Having older siblings probably makes it more fun to not sleep with mommy and daddy.
 
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