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I'm worried that dd will notice on xmas morning all the gifts are for her, none for mommy. Should I put one or two under there for me just in case? I dont think she will care as she's not that type but I worry about her possible feelings anyway. This is our first xmas totally on our own and not waking up with family to share gifts with so it will be obvious mommy doesn't have one.
 

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I know my ds would wonder where my presents were & so I would do it.<br>
I think it's okay to just focus on your daughter if you don't think she'll be upset.<br>
It's a tough one.<br>
If I noticed, your dd is 4, so if she asks, you can explain that one person gives to another and you can explain about how giving is a gift too. In previous years, I don't think my oldest noticed much, but this year he really wanted to buy me something, so my mom took him out to the store and let him pick something.<br>
Merry Christmas, Satori!
 

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Yes, I'd probably put something for myself under the tree. Just so that you both have things to open, seems more festive to me.
 

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I'd put a few little things under the tree for me. DD is 1 so she won't notice yet, but when it comes time that she will, I'll buy a few things for myself (even if they're dollar store items), and put them under the tree.
 

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I've been a single mom of three boys for 18 years and don't have any family to celebrate with. Some years I would get special presents under the tree so I would get some new things too. One benefit is you know you will like your presents.<br><br>
We have done a variety of things so my boys could shop for me. It was very important for them to get me presents. Some stores will allow an employee to help young children shop for their parent. Sometimes friends would take them.<br><br>
My youngest is 16 and works at Subway. He has been so excited this Christmas that he could buy presents with his own money. The Subway he works at is in a WalMart and he has spent his breaks combing the store for presents.<br><br>
The father of my two older boys (now 21 and 25) has family and I would always let them go with him on Christmas at about 10 in the morning. The rest of the day would be sad for my youngest and I. When he was little he always thought of holidays as days his brothers were taken away from him. We would often go to a movie, about the only thing open on Christmas.
 

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My kids are 11, 6, and 1. This is my second Christmas without their dad.<br><br>
My older two are both in school, and they do "Santa's Secret Workshop" at school - the kids can take in money and shop for their family. I sent them each with a list and $2 to spend on each person. So I have two gifts under the tree from that. I also bought myself something I needed (a nice big heavy flashlight) and they wrapped that up for me.<br><br>
My son (the six year old) is so excited that he bought me his own gift!
 

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We don't do a gift for me for Christmas, but we have always (from dd's birth) done gifts from her to me on my b-day, Mother's Day and Father's Day (when, frankly, *I*'d feel bereft if I didn't get something! it's all about me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> ).<br><br>
For my birthday, she makes a special drawing, I add her name & year, and we mail it in to Mak-a-Plate. When the box gets mailed back (holding the new melamine plate), I wait until b-day morning to open it. I hope to continue this tradition for a long, long time; that set of plastic is worth more than China to me!<br><br>
For M's and F's Day (I'm both parents, so I get to celebrate both days) we get our photo taken together in the same pose at Picture People. (Free coupon in Parents magazine those months, or if you get on the mailing list.)<br><br>
You could do something like this for xmas, especially if your child (like mine) is too young to buy stuff (or be at the age when they prefer to buy than make). Just set up a craft table today with some special "parts" you don't usually include, and ask if she'd like to make your gift.<br><br>
I like how many of us are focusing on both encouraging generosity in our kids, and being pampered ourselves!
 

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Yes, I buy myself a present every year, sometimes wrapped under the tree, sometimes not. I figure that us single folk need lovin' too! I fully intend to continue my self-presenting Christmas tradition once there's a kiddo at home (and I love Seasons' ideas about birthdays and Mother's/Father's Days - very cool!).<br><br>
My presents from "Santa" are usually about the same $$ range as I'd spend on a good friend, and something I've wanted for awhile that I wouldn't necessarily buy myself, and probably no one else would think to buy me. It's fun, and a great way to enjoy being a single adult.
 

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Well, my fears were unfounded, dd did not care one iota that all the gifts were hers and when we got to my parents house she declared all those gifts under the tree were hers too! She got mad when she finished opening her gifts there and I was still opening mine and she tried to open mine and we wouldn't let her. Kinda makes me sad that all my dd thinks about is herself, I'm sure its normal at this age but when I was 4 I was already thinking of other peoples feelings. My kid see's another cry and looks at them like "What's your problem" and goes about her merry way<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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next year, i'm definitely going to make sure that santa brings me a present too. i think that's a wonderful tradition. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Hi! OK, it's after Christmas and oth my oder kiddos presented me with packages. I also ought myself something-afterall I know exactly what I want! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> I enjoyed hearing everyodies thoughts on this!
 
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