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I am nursing my third child. I nurse whenever and wherever we need. I always have. I come from a pro-bf family and there was never any question about it on that side. However, I had read all kinds of stories about negative reactions that I have always been prepared to stand up for it. I have NEVER received a negative comment! Once a relative suggested that I was showing too much boob. She didn't have a problem with nursing, just thought I was flashing too much skin while doing it.<br><br>
OTOH I have had many, many, many people comment on how wonderful it is to see my boys nursing at 3mos, at 18mos , at 2.5 years!<br><br>
So...how many others out there have not had any problem with other people? I am hoping that I am far from the only one and that this will be encouraging to other moms who are nervous.
 

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I can't think of a time where anyone has said something to me while nursing (other than immediate family). However, I have had people who didn't know I was (still) nursing say something to me. One situation was at a dinner party. One of the guys said something about Eva's sippy cup, and I said something witty about it being breastmilk (giving the guy a hard time, I think he asked her jokingly for a sip). Anyway, that brought up the topic of breastfeeding, and 2 of the women commented on someone who wasn't there who had "whipped it out" to feed her baby at another social function. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Not really, just odd looks. Sometimes passive aggressive jabs or stupid questions, which I combat with a smile and pretend I have no idea what they mean by their "veiled" comment <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> .
 

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Just recently I was at a gathering and my friend's family members (people I had never met) made some comments about someone else they knew EBFing her 2.5 year old and poking fun at her. I said, "Really? I still nurse Ivan and he is 21 months old" They went blank and were so embarassed. So then one of women said "Yeah. But you'd never nurse him HERE in front of everybody" And I said "Yes I most certainly would". And then I went on to say a little something about the natural age of weaning and that I thought other people's comfort level shouldn't be the indicator of what is best for my ds's nutrition and bonding.<br><br>
Cue the nervous laughter and subject changing. The women leave the table one by one and busy themselves while I continue a productive conversation with an acquaintance about EBF, who asked questions and told me that she thought what I did was great although she chose to ff her ds.<br><br>
So that was the most recent time. There have been others in the past.
 

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I've had a lot more experiences like MamaOui describes than outright negative comments. We have a regular playdate with a boy dd's age and his dad, and dd got upset about something and yelled, "I want some mommy milk!!" The dad turned a few shades of red (yeah, he's a guy, but still), asked if they should leave, and generally seemed really thrown by the whole concept. (It hadn't come up explicitly before.)
 

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It's actually kind of weird. The only person i've ever gotten negative comments from is the only person i knew around here who did/does natural parenting. She gave me a really hard time about nip. Thankfully, she has moved far far away.<br><br>
I quit nip for a long time because my confidence was totally shot. Just recently i've started nip with boo again and the only comments i've gotten are postive. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I nursed 3 kids for a total of 10+ yrs and I never got a comment, or even a look, that I noticed. I lived in a conservative area for most of that time too. I confidently nursed everywhere. Both sides of my family are supportive or at least keep their mouths shut or just don't care as long as they are getting their own needs met. I mean, my dad is so selfish, he doesn't care what my kids are eating, as long as his plate is full. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:<br><br>
I did once or twice get a "Oh, you're still nursing?" from a friend from out of town or something. One time my 3 yo ds got that comment from a 4 yo friend of his while on a playdate! hehe! (this friend had nursed til he was abt 3, and had a 2 yo brother and infant sister tandem nursing at the time.) But it was always said with just curiosity, not rudeness or judgmentalism.
 

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No negative comments directed toward me in 9 years of nursing. I wasn't pushy, but I nursed wherever I wanted to, and was very comfortable and open about it. I did at times guess that someone might be doubtful in social situations, but I never felt put out, and I think I made a few converts.
 

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Nothing negative--well, a few "oh, he's STILL nursing"--but I always say "of course he's still nursing, he'll ONLY 18 mo. old". My f-i-l feels negatively about it--but knows not to say anything to me directly <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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My FIL said something awhile back. When I started to spew facts he asked if I had been reading "that internet" again. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:<br><br>
I was like "Uuummm...no my sister is a LLL leader and I actually know her IRL."<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:
 

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Well I wish I was one of the ones that have had no Negative comments made too.<br>
I have had a few. I had a Doctor tell me how bad of a mom I was because I was still BF at 18 months. (If only he could see me know BF @ 3.7 years). He told me I was doing such a bad thing for me and my DS and I should be ashamed. I told him. I have done alot of reading and research on EBF and I know I am not hurting DS and I am lowering my risk of getting breast cancer. I told him that I was really getting tired of having to defend my rights to nurse my child to all the ignorant people out there. I told him I was there for medical reasons not to discuss my breastfeeding. Well I was suppose to go back to see him the next week. I had already decided that that would be the last time I would see him but when I got there I was told that they could no longer see me.<br>
I mean I have had a lot of positive comments about BF. And I love to see other BF mothers out there.
 

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I cannot think of any bad comments, have had a few bad looks, but that has been a while, (with my first dd) I was much more sensitive then too. Now, I am at the point where I don't really care what others opinions are, I am nursing my toddler, dammit! I may just be oblivious too, being a busy mom and needing to nurse my babe. I have had some good comments of late and am very happy to run into other moms who nurse their children for years. I get a lot of questions, like how old my dd is, but in a nice way. In fact, I was very pleasantly surprised two weeks ago, when a family came with a realtor to look at the house I am renting say to me as I was nursing my two year old, that they nursed their son to two years, and then the realtor chimed in proudly that his wife nursed their children to two years too. It makes me not believe the statistics when I see them, because of the number of strangers I have come across that have nursed toddlers. I think there may be a lot of closet nursers out there. There is hope!<br><br>
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The only comment I have had in my 2.5 years of nursing Konur is from my M and FIL who commented the last time we were there that it was time to wean him. I promptly told them the stats and the recommendations of the AAP and the WHO and they shut it. Sad, too, cause they were huge supporters when I was first breastfeeding. They both, especially my FIL, made me feel very comfortable nursing with him in the room and would even talk to me when I would go into another room to nurse. He made me feel like I didnt have to go someplace else to nurse and that helped a lot.<br><br>
My dad was not comfortable with me nursing at first, but now has gotten used to it. We sat down and had some heart to hearts about it and it really helped.
 

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Back when I was nursing DS where I did volunteer work I'd get looks or guys would leave the room or I heard some comments secondhand, but otherwise I got no flack from strangers. I even get a compliment once.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> From Family OTOH I got nothing but grief as DS got older. I finally played the "well if it's such an issue we can just refrain from visiting until he weans himself" card. And mine is a breastfeeding family!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"><br><br>
With DD I've gotten flack for NIP, but they know better than to hassle me about her age. Between our two are most of their cousins, all breastfed to a greater or lesser extent, but mostly off in other rooms. I OTOH didn't get out so much that I would willingly isolate myself just because DD had to eat.
 

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I currently have a 2.5 year old nursling and a 3.3 month old nursling. I am the oly person in my family to have ever nursed this long. My sis nursed her last baby for 9 mos and my sil nursed her last for 11 months.<br><br>
I am very upfront with where I stand on the issue, and I haven't gotten any flack at all. I know that not everyone agrees with how I do things, but they don't criticise me....at least not to my face. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shine.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="toothy"><br><br>
Aside from that, I really have never gotten a rude comment. I have received quite a few very positive comments though which always make me feel good. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
Anyway, I really don't care what other people think....I'm doing it for my kids, not for them! :bf
 
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