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when you are pondering baby names, do you talk about your choices with your friends and family?<br>
we didn't last time and aren't this time either. i really liked announcing everything at once: sex, name, weight, date of birth, etc.<br>
plus, i don't want to deal with the raised eyebrows over our outlandish name ideas.<br>
i'm even hesitant to say which names i like the most here at MDC, because i would get irked if someone else decided to use it after seeing it in one of my posts. irrational, i know.<br>
so, i was thinking some other secretive mamas might want to share the names they have RULED OUT, for whatever reason -- too weird, doesn't go with surname or sibling's name(s), too popular, whatever.<br>
here's what i have just crossed off the list:<br><br>
BOYS -- donovan, oscar, ezra, harrison, dominic, clement, amon, carlin, gardner, quinlan, indigo, lorenzo, jonas, declan, giacomo, liam, dominic and giovanni.<br><br>
GIRLS -- natalia, bianca, veronica, titania, aziza, oriana, sabine, hyacinth, adamina, zenia, marisol, giselle, felicity, luciana, jolie, and desiree.<br><br>
i started just writing down any name i came across that i liked. then i crossed off the ones that sounded weird with our last names, then the ones that didn't go with our daughter's name, then the ones that were too outlandish even for me, then the ones that were rising in popularity, and then the ones with negative interpretations using a name analyzer.<br><br>
so who else has some cool names they've cast aside?
 

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so who else has some cool names they've cast aside? [/B][/QUOTE]<br><br>
I don't think we're going to share our names before the birth, to avoid any issues with relatives. One name I LOVE but cannot use is Vivianne because DH has an aunt with that name--and she is not a favorite of his.
 

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We don't share our names, either. We shared a few with family when we were expecting our first baby, and DH's grandma told us how terrible the name was that we eventually chose. I decided it was better not to tell ahead of time after that.<br><br>
And I don't think it's paranoid to keep them secret here at MDC, I shamelessly peruse posts and name polls looking for the perfect name for this baby!!!<br><br>
Where DO you get name ideas? If you have some resources you're willing to share, that is <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
We have a few castways thus far...<br><br>
Girl: Talia, Riana, Lila and Eva<br>
Boy: Grayson, Micah and Riley
 

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I wasn't going to tell anyone, but then Dh told his parents who told everyone in in their family <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry">, so now I tell people when they ask. It made me mad, because then his mom would mail us cards with 'Asher doesn't really go with your last name, have you tried it out?'<br><br>
But now it's just getting annoying. I have this one friend in particular who always asks me 'Have you decided on a name? Are you sure about the name yet?' Finally I sent her an email saying, I think I already told you this, but no we're not really going to decide until we actually see the baby. Then she sent me this snotty email 'Actually, no, you never said that.' I still think I did tell her that, but regardless, maybe that means I'm tired of being asked.<br><br>
NAMES WE RULED OUT: ruled out for the first baby, but maybe for a later one.<br><br>
GIRLS: Nina, Eva, Mary, Jacinda, Ida, Lila<br><br>
BOYS: Gabriel, Tyler, Raphael, Alex, Jeremiah
 

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i have an arsenal of name books. i used to work for a bookstore and got a steep discount so i bought the ones i thought were cool. in our name library we have: "beyond jennifer and jason, madison and montana," "numerology for baby names," "baby, what's your sign? (astrology oriented), and "cool baby names" which is by the jennifer/jason people, but is brand new and has some really wild names!<br>
my dh really wanted to name a son "constantine augustus" and i was like, uh no. i told him we can get a cat and name him constantine.<br>
there's also a website -- <a href="http://www.kabalarians.com" target="_blank">www.kabalarians.com</a> -- that has millions of names and organizes them both alphabetically and by country of origin. i don't really know what they espouse as a philosophy, i just like perusing the lists.<br><br>
we now have it, or I have it, narrowed down to 2 top choices for each gender. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> and i've got 34 weeks to go! :LOL
 

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oh, i totally don't share -- at least when i'm pg. i might say i like some name when i'm not actually carrying somebody who might be a candidate for that name, ifywm.<br><br>
here's a name i came across recently in one of DD's Babybug magazines. the person is an author or illustrator, can't remember which, but i thought it was unusual, but spellable, but not for us, so i throw it out there to y'all in case one of you might like it. it's Ponder, as in Ponder Smith or Ponder Jones or Ponder Jaworski, or Ponder Espinoza. i dunno, i thought it was kinda cool, but not for us. seems like a girl name to me, but i guess it could work for either gender.<br><br>
i like names that have a special meaning for our family. we did a family name with dd and i imagine we might do one with this next babe, but we haven't started thinking too hard on it. i ask dh every now and then, but he just makes jokes like Methusalah or something. we'll have to really put our thinking caps on before too long...
 

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Elphaba,<br>
One of your girl discards is a name we are considering for a middle name <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> (Aziza)...<br><br>
We didn't tell last time, and aren't really discussing it so far either.<br><br>
Some names we like but have discarded so far:<br><br>
Girl: Azura, Leilani, Isadora, Marbella, Imani, Aramina<br><br>
Boy: Zylan, Skylar, Zale, Azul
 

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Apple, we recently told people about our liking the name Asher. Some people go, "Ashley for a girl?" And, I say, "Asher, it's one of Jacob's sons from the Bible." People definatly have opinions. My FIL's are the worst at the moment. Whatever I say to him I hear, "Nooooo!" He suggested Jude's name off-hand one day when we were pregnant with him. And, i think he wants to name this baby, too. And, my father thinks Javier is a great name. But, uh, there is nothing hispanic about our family. He's stuck on the name though!<br><br>
Needless to say we haven't really settled on any names. I'm not even thinking of girl names anymore. I feel like this is a boy. Right now I like Abraham and Asher. Abraham I think we'd call Bram.<br><br>
These are the names we like but don't go well with our last name (sounds like Care-Us) or one of us didn't like.<br><br>
Girls: Cadence, Olive, Ellis.<br><br>
Boys: Harrison, Ewan, Saul, Hank, Alexander (Lex).
 

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I wish we hadn't said anything about the names we were thinking of.<br><br>
We wanted a really unique name. We couldn't think of any boy names before he was born (we ended up making his up, but were considering Angus, Ezra, Malik), but we had a huge list of girl names that included Evelyn, Esmeralda, Indira, Indigo, Isadora, Aubrey, I can't even remember the others.<br><br>
Well my mom said that she thought we'd pick something 'weirder' than Evelyn.<br><br>
Then her and my family proceeded to suggest the most ordinary names. That we would NEVER use. Like, once my grandma called and left a message, and it was like she was reading names off a baby book from the 50s.. Joe, Sam, Bob, you get the picture.<br><br>
I don't understand.. did she think we didn't think of those??? :LOL<br><br>
ugh!
 

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Sparklin- The names I really like for a boy are Asher and Elijah, but for some reason, our families always say 'oh' then suggest something else. What's wrong with Asher? I told my dad I liked Asher and he also said 'Ashley?'<br><br>
Actually, the name I really liked for a boy was Frankie, but I know I'd never hear the end of it for that one. Probably because it's our cat's name. But it isn't that we want to name our baby after our cat, it's just that I think Frankie would make a really cute name for a little boy.<br><br>
*Sigh* I'm just a little bitter today, is all.
 

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I love Asher,<br>
i went to college with an Asher, great guy, and that has been the only Asher i've met in 26 years.<br><br>
i also love Ashley for a boy, fwiw, it is a boy name, girls stole it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Alright, let's all just name our sons Asher and get it over with! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> I guess that defeats the original intention of this thread. Personally though, I kind of feel like MDC population is so spread out, it's not going to change the top 10 for next year or event he top 100. I'm not territorial about names. I just don't want my kids to be in the top 10 for the decade they were born...or the top 25 for that matter. Of course, I'm a Claire and I rarely meet anyone my own age with the name. I think having some company in the name game would be nice. For the record Asher just barely broke #500 last year. I'm not too worried about it being the next Jacob.<br><br>
Apple -- get out of town, my husband likes Elijah a lot. We must be the same person. Jude is my other child's name. Do you have any other kids? I think Frankie is a great name. I think it would be a bit weird though with a cat and kid with the same name. When you called one, would they both come running? But, then it would be cute, you could say that both Frankies co-sleep. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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We ended up telling everyone her name, and now i'm afraid that it's not the "right" name for her. I mean, I still like it, but there's a little bit of pressure there when people have been calling this baby by name for months not to change it. And it's a very common name, not very unique, but we both like it a lot and it has stuck.<br><br>
Anyway, we haven't decided on a middle name, and if we do, I won't tell people until she's born. The one I'm leaning toward is Isabel Erin, her first name being Isabel, and my family does not like it and feels free to tell me. Which is fine. I could even see why...it is kind of plain...but it just came to me one day and it has stuck, just feels right, you know? But nothing definite yet. ANYWAY, my dad keeps asking if we've decided on a middle name yet and really wants me to name her something that honors my family (his side of course <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> ). I have nothing against it when people do this, but for whatever reason it annoys me that people think that my child should be their way to honor people who are important to them, kwim? Ok, enough ranting.
 

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No, this is our first child. But we do have a bunch of cats.<br><br>
I do wonder how the cat would respond to the baby having the same name. It might take a while for him to catch on. As it is, he's bad and won't respond to his name anymore anyway. He deserves to have his name taken away <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mischievous.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="mischief">.<br><br>
mamaley, we had the same problem. I was sure I wanted to name the baby Eva if it was a girl, but now I don't know and I'm leaning more towards Lydia. But everybody already thinks it's going to be Eva.
 

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No, we don't discuss names with anyone. DH likes to wait until he sees the baby so last time I came up with a few names I liked and crossed off the ones he didn't. He only liked one of mine and we didn't discuss it again until he was born and decided on it right away. We named him Leo. We got some bad reactions from family when we told them his name so I'm glad we didn't tell them in advance or we might have changed our minds. I actually told one aunt I'm close to and she swore she wouldn't tell but I found out after that she told my sister before he was born she suggested we name him Leo! This time if we do talk about it we won't tell anyone at all.<br><br>
I actually don't like the pressure of naming kids and this time I haven't even thought about it. Since I was 15 I wanted to name my girl Ava Elizabeth but wouldn't use it now because it is way to popular.
 

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We never discuss it in particular w/my mom and in-laws since we lean towards unusual names too. I don't want to hear their reactions and they have no choice after the fact, but to accept it when we say "this is ___!" My mom keeps suggesting really traditional names.<br><br>
We w/both dd and ds chose unusual names. This time, I am leaning towards a somewhat popular name (Not in the top 25 I'm sure, but I hear it more in the natural parenting world) ASSUMING I am having a boy like in my dreams! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I have always had a strong aversion to this but this time am having fits trying to think of a decent boys name! Girls are easier...at least I like a lot more fo those AND I feel that you can go more unusal w/girls. And yup, we won't be discussing it! The only person I tell is my sister.<br><br>
And by the way, SPARKLIN!! We have an Abraham. We call him "Abe" which I adore and I love calling him Abey-baby. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I Like that it has a gentle, honorable connotation...more from Abraham Lincoln than the Biblical one. I rarely have seen another Abraham...mostly in the Hispanic community.
 

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Ok, Indigo this is me right now --<br>
Asher, wait no...<br>
Abraham, wait no...<br>
Asher, wait no...<br>
Abraham, wait no...<br>
Asher, wait no...<br>
Abraham, wait no...<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">:<br><br>
I think this is the post I will come back to when I'm holding my unnamed daughter in my arms. I'll be looking at her thinking, "You were supposed to be a boy. Now, I don't know what to call you. Are you an Abe?" That would be pretty funny, I think! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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LOL!!! How bout Abra? (I just read "East of Eden" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> ) I like the meaning of Asher, though I used to work w/an Asher, who though he was fine, somehow ruined the name for me! Go figure.<br><br>
Both names are really nice. We also like Jude.....but as I said, I think we found our boys name. I checked SS and it was in the two hundreds (though rising steadily every year) for 2002.<br><br>
Good luck figuring out your names, Sparklin, and everyone else!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Oh BTW< maybe just wait til you see him?? I always waited for the final decision till I saw them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">
 

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Last time we didn't share our names with anyone and I'm so glad we didn't. We hadn't decided on a boy name so that was easy but with the girl name we just gave out several decoy names that we honestly had considered but decided against.<br><br>
This time we have decided on a boy name and a girl name for sure which really surprises me. The names just came to us and seemed 'just right' part of me feels like the baby helped pick the names.<br><br>
Here are some names I really like that didn't make the cut - most of them because DH shot them down <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Girls: Audrey, Harper, Eva, Molly<br><br>
Boys: Rogan, Harrison, Jonas<br><br>
I know I had more, especially on the boy side but I can't remember them right now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:<br><br>
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As far as "where we get name ideas". Dh and I like to walk through OLD graveyards and read the head stones. I LOVE old uncommon names, and that certainly a good place to find them!! We also peruse the credits at the end of movies!<br><br>
Before our last son was born I had Noble picked out for his name, but then after he was born it didn't fit. We had also considered Calvin which my grandma and DH's mom didn't like at all. We ended up naming him Finn, but when we called to tell the family that he'd been born, the VERY FIRST THING my grandma said was, "You didn't name him calvin did you?", I almost wanted to change it right then and there just to spite her!!! I was SO mad! Then we had to fight with everyone thinking that we named him SIN, I mean COME ON!!!<br><br>
A girls name that my friend chose was Piper, I just LOVE that!!
 
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