My 5yo DS and 2.5yo DD sleep with me. (I don't say "us" because DH works nights and sleeps during the day. So it is just me that they are sleeping with, and just me who is putting them to bed.) Every night, I lie down with them. Honestly, it is starting to make me a little nuts.
DS will sometimes fall asleep almost immediately after we read stories. When he doesn't, he asks me to rub his back, which I gladly do. Then he usually falls asleep within a couple of minutes. If all else fails, he is quite happy to lie in bed and quietly play until he falls asleep. He's always been a "good" sleeper and has never needed much help to fall asleep.
DD is an entirely different story. She drives me CRAZY! Sometimes, if she is tired beyond belief, she will fall right to sleep with very little trouble. Most often, however, she would rather roll, kick, flail, yell, stand up, jump around, and generally make a nuisance of herself.
I wouldn't mind DDs behavior, so much, if it weren't for two things. One, she wants me there while she does it. She won't let me get up and leave her to just get on with her last burst of energy before she falls asleep. So it's me
she's kicking and hitting and flailing into, and it's me she's standing on and jumping on. She pulls my hair, she asks me five million questions. And then, when she finally settles, I have to stay until she is really, truly out ... so half the time, I end up falling asleep, too. Which I can't do. I have things to do after they go to bed, not the least of which is spend time with older DS (13) and help him get to bed. Plus I run my own business from home, and I need the time after all
of them are asleep to work. I can't get up early in the morning to work, because the earlier I get up, the earlier DD gets up.
If I do try to leave before DD is asleep, it leads to crazy crying, screaming, full on meltdown. Which then disturbs DS2. Actually, that's the second thing about DD's bedtime behavior that upsets me. She often wakes him up after he's been asleep for a few minutes, or a half an hour, and then he's upset. He starts crying, is inconsolable ... but, since he's now awake, DD seems to think he should be up for playing with her, so she annoys him, and he becomes even more wound up and upset.
I don't think either of them is ready for sleeping in their own beds. Even if they were, I don't think it would help much with some of the issues -- their beds are in the same room.
Anyone have any ideas for making bedtime easier for us? I am so sleep deprived and caught up in the situation that I can't seem to see a way out of it.