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If you do most of the cleaning, do you take it personally when dp cleans a bit?<br><br>
I find that, though I definitely appreciate the help when dp cleans, I can't help but wonder if he's thinking that I should get off my butt and work harder to keep the house clean.<br>
Which is a goofy thought, because that's not my dp's style AT ALL. He helps clean because he's trying to be helpful, or because he wants to get on my good side to dtd (hehehe). Sometimes it's because something is dirty enough to bother him, but knowing my dp, he doesn't ever have the thought that it's my job and it should have been done by me.<br><br>
But still, I take it personally. Like he's insinuating that I'm lazy (I'm sure that's coming from me). And on top of that, I get all defensive in my head. Like "Well, I cook ALL the meals, and clean ALL the dishes, and what do YOU do?"
I find that, though I definitely appreciate the help when dp cleans, I can't help but wonder if he's thinking that I should get off my butt and work harder to keep the house clean.<br>
Which is a goofy thought, because that's not my dp's style AT ALL. He helps clean because he's trying to be helpful, or because he wants to get on my good side to dtd (hehehe). Sometimes it's because something is dirty enough to bother him, but knowing my dp, he doesn't ever have the thought that it's my job and it should have been done by me.<br><br>
But still, I take it personally. Like he's insinuating that I'm lazy (I'm sure that's coming from me). And on top of that, I get all defensive in my head. Like "Well, I cook ALL the meals, and clean ALL the dishes, and what do YOU do?"