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For some reason I have always been pretty silent when I nurse my DS. I just love looking down at him as he is busy nursing and staring off almost like he's lost in thought. It amost seems like if I talk, I'll be interrupting something. So I mostly just nurse silently.

Just wondering if others are like this or if people tend to engage their child in conversation while nursing?
 

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I definitely don't engage my child in conversation; I think that'd be distracting to her. But I don't stay silent. I chat with my husband or whoever's around; I check my emails; I read. I walk around. Sometimes we have these nice quiet cuddle moments, but Ari eats WAY too often (still at 11 months) for every time to be a bonding moment!


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I typically chatter away while nursing, but DD (4mo) is in a very distractible phase right now, so I try not to talk unless I really have to.
 

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If it is just the two of us, I am ususally pretty quiet. Sometimes I'll read or write a little in my journal or listen to a program on the radio. LIke you, I mostly enjoy just watching my baby. At around 4 mths, she started suddenly stopping nursing, look up at me, smile, and then go back to nursing. It was the moment/the smile to die for!

When we are with other people, I have conversation usually. If she is getting very distracted, I will tell the other person (assuming I know them well enough) that I am going to take the quiet end of the conversation for a few minutes and have them tell me their stories.
One exception is when she is tired and starting to fall asleep when nursing. I try to ensure no "big noises" then - she gets upset when startled.
 

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I talk to him, but if he gets distracted and starts popping off then I shut up.
I stroke his head and nuzzle his cheeks and tell him I love him and call him my little nursey baby. And play with his feet. Sometimes he pops off and gives me the widest grin where his tongue is poking out from between his lips. Mostly, though, he loves eating so nothing gets between him and his food, not even me talking. I'm usually nak, too.
 

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I talk to my husband and 4 yo. If I talk to her she smiles and plays.

BUT, sometimes, if I'm talking or laughing, my nursing baby will grunt at me. She even pulls off and looks up at me like, "hello, I'm eating here." Her eyebrows squint together and she clearly is not smiling up at me. It's funny, so I have to be quiet or she'll keep doing it-grunting, pulling off and giving me dirty looks. I can't help but laugh more and that upsets her. She's only 4 mos. so I really don't know where she got so much attitude already. I love it!
 

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Funny, I never thought about it until you asked the question! I guess it depends on our moods. Many times, if it's just the two of us, we are quiet. When others are around I am ususally in conversation (me=
) However, my favorite nursing sessions are the ones where I know she's just hungry or wants me and we laugh together a lot. Nothing in the whole wide world beats a smile with a nipple in it!


BTW: When I read this post, I couldn't help but comment. Although I don't mean to hijack the thread and if the poster is interested there are tons of threads in the diapering forum on EC.

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Her eyebrows squint together and she clearly is not smiling up at me. It's funny, so I have to be quiet or she'll keep doing it-grunting, pulling off and giving me dirty looks. I can't help but laugh more and that upsets her. She's only 4 mos. so I really don't know where she got so much attitude already. I love it!
This may not be true for your child, but for mine, that is a signal that she has to pee. If you are interested in EC at all, you may check her diaper before you start to nurse, and then check it again after she has been making those grunting noises. She may be trying to signal you!
Okay, OFF TOPIC discussion over... Sorry to interrupt! Continue with the thread!
 

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Most of the time, I am just quiet with ds. I like to gaze at him too. It seems like this beautiful, sacred, silent time. I think hearing silence is as important as hearing talk.

He always needed to really focus while nursing. He actually didn't make eye contact while nursing for quite some time (he actually preferred I read or watch a movie, which I did at times), and even now can't make it over long periods, because it distracted him too much...it was too "stimulating" to bond with mama while nursing. I remember asking his developmental specialist (who he sees for delays) about that, and she was very clear with me that he was letting me know what he needed and that there were other times in our day that would be great for eye contact and chatter.

I bottlenurse him because we are family through adoption.
 

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IME, if I talk to my dc, they then try to talk back while still trying to nurse. But, if I talk to my other dc or on the phone, then it's all good.


I don't really equate breastfeeding with bonding...or maybe not the word 'bonding' but engaging and learning about each other. I like talking to them when they can talk/coo/listen back...more of a two-way interaction, kwim?

IME, breastfeeding is just that, feeding my dc. Bonding with each other is more of an interaction between us that is interactive, like both of us just studying each other, looking at each other, pointing out our environment to each other, finding what we like even if it is different. Hope that makes a little more sense.
 

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I very rarely talk to dd while nursing, but we still interact a lot. She puts her hands in my mouth and up my nose, lol. And lately, she has been lifting a foot to my mouth for me to kiss and blow on (only when she's on her right side, though). It's too cute -- she actually supports it with her hand behind the knee, so she can hold it up there for a long time, lol. I sometimes make funny faces when I'm messing with her foot. I love making her smile ... like spiritmomma said, nothing beats a smile with a nipple in it!
 

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I don't usually talk to her except at the start, I just let her do her thing and I either read or sleep or talk to any other adult who might be around. I do talk to her when she does something especially cute, though.
 

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Mostly quiet, but sometimes talking. Lots of non-verbal communication like rubbing her arm or playing w/ her hair - depends on her mood.

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Mostly I am quiet, but if people are around I talk to them. Or do email or watch TV. I do watch america's funniest home videos and do laugh a lot while I am nursing him. He is used to it now, so it does not faze him anymore. (3 mo)

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it depends on when hes nursing.......if hes just woken up, im always silent, but the tvs going in the background. But any other time we talk, etc.
 

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I typically chatter away while nursing, but DD (4mo) is in a very distractible phase right now, so I try not to talk unless I really have to.
Same here. Used to I could chat it up or watch TV or read, etc. Now Guinevere gets so easily distracted all we do while nursing is nurse.
 

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I'm a talker!
Only exception is night because she is a lighter sleeper & talking WILL keep her up.
 

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I'm not allowed to talk, to her or anyone else! DD gets very irritated if I do, and she starts with this angry, annoyed "mmmm" noise. That's the warning. If I don't stop talking, she stops nursing! Luckily, she's a pretty quick nurser these days.
 

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I never thought about it before but I guess I don't really talk unless there is an adult in the room or my older DS to talk to. Sometimes I'll say "it's okay baby" or something like that if he is starting to cry at the breast. That's about it though.
 

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my son, though I can't quite remember the extent of it, as it has been a while since we nursed. I just know we didn't do anything special like turn down the lights, go in a real quiet room etc.
He was pretty much all business and just loved to nurse so I was able to chat with friends, hubby, at the dinner table even while nursing.
It was great. Of course we had many quiet moments too when I would enjoy just watching him nurse and enjoying our special time together.

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