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DD is going through a very cute little language explosion right now. She has learned about 10 words in the past week or so. This language explosion happened to coincide with our trip home to visit family. We were doing quite a bit of driving around and my mom was sitting in the back with DD and *taught* her one or two words in a matter of 30 mins or so.<br>
By *taught* her I mean this......G-Ma was trying to teach DD to say "more". G-Ma was singing a song to DD and DD wanted her to sing it again. G-Ma kept enunciating the word "more" very slowly for DD and waited for DD to attempt the word before she would sing the song again. When DD attempted the word, G-Ma praised her and sang the song. She kept repeating this until DD was saying "more" quite clearly. It took less than 30 mins. For the rest of the trip, G-Ma made DD say "more" whenever she wanted more of something from G-Ma.<br><br>
This whole exchange is something that never would have occurred to me. I figured, I talk to DD, DH talks to DD, everyone talks to DD, and eventually she will talk too. It never would have occurred to me to actually try to *teach* her words. I don't know how I feel about it.....this whole forcing her to speak....DD isn't unhappy about it, and seems proud when she gets the word out, but still.....it somehow feels wrong to me.<br>
I would love to hear opinions and experiences from others.....
 

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Well, I would say there's no harm in this, exactly, especially if it's done in a fun, bonding sort of way, which it sounds like it was. But by the same token, I don't think there's much need, either -- IMO, there's more to be learned by reading together, pointing things out, talking to each other, and reinforcing small efforts (DD says, "Glbx" while pointing to Grandma, and you say, "That's right -- that's Grandma!") than through drills of specific words.
 

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Well... a lot of people teach their kids signs. I don't know if you should just sit there and make them say words over and over, but you teach kids language by repeating it and encouraging them to use their words. In that respect I teach my child new vocabulary now that she has mastered basic language and can carry on a conversation I try and use more discriptive words or larger words to increase her vocab and grasp of language. I don't do it in a schoolish way, but we will be talking (and we do that A LOT) I will say like "oh this food is really delicious, that means I think its really yummy, is your food delicious?? How's it tasting to you today?". I try not to totally dumb down the conversation, yet make it easy for her to udnerstand.
 

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I guess I sorta do.. We read books and I point to and repeat the word puppy ect.. but I don't really focus on teaching words. It is usually just part of an activity or game or whatever we are doing. I mostly repeat..repeat.. and repeat some more<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Well, there's teaching and then there's forcing. I think those are two very different things. We do teach dd new wordss--she WANTS us to and makes that very clear by asking us what things are called. Constantly. We tell her and then we practice saying it as long as she shows interest. We do NOT force her; if anything, she forces us <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> She was a bit of a late talker, but now she is VERY interested in language and is always asking for new words. So we teach her what she wants to know <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I do! My son was getting really upset because he wanted something but didnt know how to ask for it. So he'd be reaching for the water cup SCREAMING and crying. So I calmed him down, and would say "drink. Drink. Drink." and then let him drink. Now when he wants something to eat or drink he comes over and says "bleeb" and we get it! We've also done this with "more" but thats it.
 

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I do teach my ds words. I try and teach him a new word or two every day. I didn't when he was younger but now that he is close to 2 years old and really absorbing and imitating so much language I feel like it is helpful for me to take the time to do that. I can see frustration in his eyes when he does not have the ability to express himself to me and I want to remove as many roadblocks as possible. I feel like, if I were in a foreign country it would be so much easier for someone to teach me the words than to talk around me and expect me to pick up on it.<br><br>
Yesterday it was raining so the words we worked on were "thundering" and "lightning" and "windy." We watched out the window and I emphasized things like, "Oh, hear the noise? It is THUNDERING outside, THUNDERING. The THUNDER is so loud it goes ka-boom when it THUNDERS." I say the word we are learning slowly and repeat that over and over until he makes the connection. When he attempts it himself or uses it correctly we get excited and repeat what he said nodding our heads so he knows we understood him. I think he really enjoys it and he gets really excited when he is able to describe things to us and have us understand what he is saying. He likes to use his new words.
 

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I don't. I think it's kind of fun to see what words are important to him. He's only 15 months old and at 11 months he really surprised us with the word he chose as a first word.<br>
Perhaps as he gets older I can see myself teaching more actively. Right now we just talk. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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I think the teaching just seems to happen naturally. My dss tend to just repeat what I say while we talk and go about our daily stuff. I did start incorporating signs when they were 6 mo and they've just kinda picked it up on their own. The only time I "forced" (not really forced, more like encourage) them to speak or sign is when they do this really annoying whine/grunt for 'more' food. They've been using the proper sign for 'more' for months so I know they know the right way to ask for more, please. I don't want them to get in the habit of shouting at me for food, kwim?
 

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I mostly try to pick up on any new words DS is trying to pronounce and I say it back at him to sort of reasure him that I understood what he said. But I don't really "teach" him words and try to get him to say them back at me.
 

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Your figuring was right. Just by talking to her, responding to her attempts to speak and modelling good language she'll learn.<br><br>
That's why TV watching kids are language delayed but know their alphabet - the TV isn't interactive. Think how much they learn by pointing and grunting and you saying "would you like the ball? The doll? The book? The duck?" and picking each on up in turn. That's four words they've just learnt, in addition to you showing them that this BAH noise means something to you and they can communicate with you by using it.<br><br>
Just think - if you had to spend 30 minutes teaching every word, when she's learning 20 a day you'd be VERY busy!<br><br>
There was a really cool recent study which showed they start working on EVERYTHING from birth, and the reason it looks like words come in a trickle, then a rush, then a trickle is simply because there are relatively few really simple words, TONS fo middling difficulty words and relatively few hard ones. But she's actually already working on bilateral and diaphamous at the same time as Mama and more and ball. The big ones just take longer to get, and you use them less.
 

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Yes. Whenever we look at things I tell him what it is and repeat it many times and annunciate it.
 

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When my ds points to something, I'll tell him what it is. However, I decided just yesterday to stop saying to my son, "say (blank)". I was always going around saying a word and then asking him to say it. I think it's sort of annoying so I decided to stop. He'll say it if he wants to.<br><br>
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Yesterday I taught DD (28 months) the word esophagus. This is not a word she would normally hear frequently but it came up in conversation and I told her the word and asked her to repeat it. It took a couple of tries but she got it down.<br><br>
How did it come up in conversation you ask?<br><br>
DD: Cheerios in my mouth?<br>
me: Yes, the Cheerios are in your mouth.<br>
DD: (shaking her head at me and smiling) nnnoooooooo.<br>
me: Where are the Cheerios?<br>
DD: (being deliberately vague) Cheerios fell down.<br>
me: The Cheerios fell down, did they fall on the floor? (thinking she spit them out)<br>
DD: (shaking her head at me and smiling): nnnooooooooo. Cheerios fell in my tummy.<br>
me: The Cheerios went down your esophagus into your tummy...
 

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When she was younger, I would repeat things over and over and tell her to say what I said. But now I don't have to--she repeats everything on her own and eventually learns what they mean. I think the part you object to is insisting that a toddler say something before she can get some desirable thing. I have witnessed relatives doing this with Alex (e.g. "Say please and I'll give you some more food") and it bugs me. I'm not sure why it bothers me--it just seems heavy handed and not my style. And I usually want to give her what she wants immediately instead of putting conditions upon things. But I'm sure people can do stuff like this in a playful fun way.
 

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No.<br><br>
Neither of my kids were particularly 'early' for language (ironic, as that's what I study for a living!), and both have amazing vocabularies now. I did teach a few signs, but it wasn't something I tried hard at. Really for most kids, they hear, they learn and they try it out.<br><br>
Making repeating a song contingent upon a child saying 'more' is conditioning. Ala Behaviorism. And it's not how we learn language. Language is not stimulus-response. It's a SOCIAL interaction (with some good old fashioned hard-wiring thrown in).<br><br>
The only time I would do this is if there was something the child really wanted and couldn't get the word out for some reason, or if the child needed speech therapy for some sort of language delay.
 

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I don't "teach" words. I consider language to be organic; part of the fabric of human existence. If you grow up without other humans, you may also be incapable of comprehending or learning language. But my baby isn't growing up in a vacuum - she's here with us. We interact, we talk, and when she seems to "get" a word, for sure I encourage her, but I don't put any time or effort into "teaching" her words. I tell her what things are, sure, or ask "Would you like a banana?" and she usually shakes her head, ignores me, or says "hereyougo" (hereyougo meaning yes, give it to me).<br><br>
Other people keep trying to teach her things - behaviors, words, what's "wrong" etc. - and I'm really not fond of it. My MIL has this annoying habit of going "EH EH EH EH" in a cross tone every time dd drops her bottle or food over the edge of the high chair tray. Of course it's done nothing to discourage the behavior. Before you know it, dd'll be saying "EH EH EH EH" to me every 5 seconds. She's only 18 mos (not quite) and I'd really like her to develop language as it comes to her from her environment, at her own pace. I'm sure my family and dh's would be more impressed if she had a larger vocabulary, though. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes"><br><br>
Bottom line, do what feels right to you with your toddler. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I do, but I don't spend half an hour per word!<br><br>
We'll be walking around and I'll say "ooh, ds, look at those pretty flowers. Can you say flower? Flower. Flow-wer." And either he'll attempt it, and we'll try a couple more times or he won't be able to say it, so we'll move on.<br><br>
Things like please and thank you are a bit more enforced than other words, because I love good manners. He says please easily, but 'thank you' is a bit of a jumble right now.
 

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No, I don't sit and teach her words. She learns from listening and interacting with others. I did teach her signs when she was younger but would just say the word and sign it at the same time. Now, at close to three, she still signs (and says ) more, milk and please as just part of habit.
 

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My 25 month old is about 3 months behind in her speech. I don't teach her words per se but I do make a habit of slowly repeating a new word she hasn't heard before so that it sinks in. I can tell she wants me to do that. My DD has a great vocabulary according to her EI therapist. What she needs aren't new words since she knows 130+ words. We just work on getting her to combine the words she already knows. By work, I don't mean that I force her to say things. I gently encourage her or I model a short phrase for her.
 
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