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Do you tickle your bab?

  • Yes, all the time. We both love it

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  • only sometimes, though I know I shouldn't

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i tickle dd all the time, I just can't help myself, she's so darn cute!! I wonder if this is really a good idea though.... she seems to like it, but maybe she really doesn't? (I don't like to be tickled)
 

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Here excessive tickling is now considered a form of abuse<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: . When I was told this it was explained that reactions to tickling is much like a reflex that is involentary, and although they laugh and smile it can actually be very unpleasent to children when done excessively and for long periods of time. I was also told that there are cases where parents thought their DC loved to be tickled as babies so they did and once the children were older they would flinch, or instictively curl up to protect themselves in fear and terror.<br>
I myself do tickle DD but very breifly and only occasionally when playing. I don't see harm in that, but even if after a little tickling your baby is laughing and trying to squirm away, it's time to stop. Tickling is supposed to be a treat that is enjoyed, not an action that traps and takes over their body.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:
 

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What a great thread. i just love hearing ds laugh and giggle, its such a laugh from the gut. but i hate being tickled, and yet i laugh when my husband does it...it must be involuntary, but why do we laugh at something we don't like. i do tickle ds all the time, but think maybe i shouldn't. i can't help myself...this thread has got me stoping it...i can get him to laugh in so many other ways, but he does seem so happy when i dig my chin in his chest (kissing his face simutaneously). <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> i don't want to stop! i'll be interested to see what others think.
 

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I don't tickle my dc at all. I hate to be tickled yet I laugh anyway so I don't know if they really like it or are just laughing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">
 

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As a kid I used to love it--as long as my parents listened when I said it was enough. I tickle DD, but very briefly, and make a production out of the suspense. You know, "I'm going to tickle you! I'm going to get you!" Usually she starts laughing before I even touch her. That tells me she enjoys it and it's a fun game. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Only sometimes, and not for very long. More like a "quick" tickle.<br>
My youngest doesn't like to be tickled, sure he'll giggle but his giggle is forced, and he squirms away.<br>
My 10 year old on the other hand, I just can't resist. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">As a kid I used to love it--as long as my parents listened when I said it was enough. I tickle DD, but very briefly, and make a production out of the suspense. You know, "I'm going to tickle you! I'm going to get you!" Usually she starts laughing before I even touch her. That tells me she enjoys it and it's a fun game. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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that's a great point. they do seem to like the anticipation. thanks for that! i do tickle, but not for a long period of time.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">As a kid I used to love it--as long as my parents listened when I said it was enough. I tickle DD, but very briefly, and make a production out of the suspense. You know, "I'm going to tickle you! I'm going to get you!" Usually she starts laughing before I even touch her. That tells me she enjoys it and it's a fun game. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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I enjoyed being tickled as a child but my parents were very strict that if the person being tickled said "Stop!" the person doing the tickling was to stop immediately. And also, no tickling each other's feet. I think that helps make tickling fun because it can never go to far and the person being tickled never has to worry that they will be out of control.<br><br>
I think ds enjoys being tickled but I tickle him very briefly and always back off and give him time to breathe. Since he can't say "NO" or "Stop" I give him time to anticipate the tickle by wiggling my fingers and saying, "Here comes the Mommy Tickle Monster, the Mommy Tickle Monster!!!" and if he gets excited, I tickle him.
 

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I HATED being tickled as a child (and still do hate it). So much so that I have had nightmares about it. I do tickle my children, but only in a very brief, gentle, almost fake-tickling way, where it's more about silly faces and voices and little rhymes than actualy tickling. I won't let anyone else tickle them more than that, either.
 

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my dd loves to be tickled she will laugh and ask me "get the tickle monster out please" (she's two) but when she was a babe she would sign "tickle"
 

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I didn't like it as a child, but it was b/c people (whoever was tickling) would never stop when I asked unless I threatened to pee <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
I play with DS lots of ways, and will sometimes tickle. He cracks up and asks for MORE MORE MORE until he's done, at which point we do something else. He ALWAYS asks for more, though, and it is so cute <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Sometimes he hasn't even caught his breath from laughing so hard before he's asking for more <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I do what another poster called "fake tickling" I guess. I just kind of wiggle my fingers at her belly. She laughs because I am saying bizarre things or pulling a face. I HATE real tickling. I don't even like a little bit of it. It's aggravating to have that involuntary laugh reaction to something that is just uncomfortable.
 

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I didn't vote b/c non of the answeres really fit.<br><br>
DS isn't all that ticklish he never giggles at all if you do his feet. He laughs when I tickle his sides but it may be b/c I make silly faces while doing it. I try to keep any stimulation to levels where DS is happy and not gasping for air.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">As a kid I used to love it--as long as my parents listened when I said it was enough. I tickle DD, but very briefly, and make a production out of the suspense. You know, "I'm going to tickle you! I'm going to get you!" Usually she starts laughing before I even touch her. That tells me she enjoys it and it's a fun game. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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We're big ticklers around here!! My 15 month old LOOOOVES to be tickled. I have a little song I start singing before I tickle him and he starts laughing like a maniac, and I start singing the song faster and faster as I tickle him. He has the most infectious laugh you've ever heard!!! He lets you know if he doesn't want to be tickled, usually by a short whine. I never tickle him if he doesn't want it. I don't tickle my 3 month old yet. He's very sensitive to things and I don't think he would enjoy it.
 

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yes I do, in very brief spurts, so I let the so called involuntary laughing end before I start again, but she usually starts laughing before I even touch her if she knows I'm going to do it. Plus, I just know my kid well enough to know if she likes something. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
I liked it as a kid even for prolonged periods of time, as an adult I hate it but I don't really laugh if someone does it to me, more like squirming away and shrieking. there's a diff between shrieking uncomfortable tickle laughter and the way dd laughs while being tickled which is she thinks it's hilarious. and will lean towards me for me to do it again.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I do, DS asks to be tickled and loves it. I stop when he tells me to stop.</div>
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same here. I'll tickle ds for a few seconds, then wait. Now that he's older, I wait for him to specifically tell me to do it "again". When he was younger, I'd watch his reaction, and if it seemed to me, even in the tiniest way, that he'd like me to stop, I wouldn't do it again.<br><br>
I'd never tickle for more than a few seconds without stopping and gauging how ds feels about it.
 

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DD grabs my hand and puts in to her neck and shouts "More tickles" but we didn't do it much when she was a little baby, only when she was older and making it really clear what she did and didn't like, and like the pp said we kept each tickle very short, one or two seconds with a few seconds gap so she could let us know to do it again or not.
 
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