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Do you use teenage babysitters?

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It seems like AP parents, in general, are less likely to use teenage babysitters, and more likely to either never leave their kids at all, or only leave them with family/other mama friends. So I'm just curious.. do you use teenage babysitters? (your own teenage kids don't count!)
 

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Yes, we've used teenage babysitters. We don't leave our kids until they are over 2, but then we like to go out and since we don't have any family near we take what we can get. We've had great babysitters and we've had ones that like to just park the kids in front of a movie. Usually the younger ones (on military bases kids go through a class at 13 to become a certified babysitter) play with the kids a little more and our kids like them better.
 

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I voted mother's helper only, but have left them with my teenage niece, but she is like another child to me, has lived with us on and off. We don't have family nearby and occasionally use a college-aged babysitter or an adult.
 

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we don't currently use them, but that is only because i don't personally know many teenagers... let alone ones i would trust my children too... all of my friends have kids the same age as my kids... i feel like i would have to know the teen... (as i would have to know any person who would watch my kids)... i really wish i had a few really good teenagers that i could call on. i was a teenage babysitter once, and enjoyed it very much... and it ultimately led me to a career in ECE.
 

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We don't have any family nearby, and my friends all have kids of their own.<br><br>
We use high school juniors and seniors who have experience with babies, but I think that on the whole younger teens make better sitters because they're more conscientious and more likely to play with kids. As my kids get older we'll probably shift to younger teens.
 

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Some people seriously don't ever leave their children? I would go bananas without the occasional date with my DH or solo time!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
We have three sitters that we use with varying frequency. THey are all in their 20's and 2 of the 3 are ECE degreed college grads. My kids are 2.5 and 1.5 and due in May, so at this point in their life I would not feel comfortable with a teen watching them. I could totally see that changing when they are a lot older.
 

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I'm a never leave mine mama. I homeschool my 7yo who I've spent maybe 100 hours away from his whole life (and he was with family) and I've never left my two girls, one of whom is almost three. My mother lives in an apartment in our house and sometimes my 2yo will visit her without me but I will not allow my younger two to go anywhere in a car without me nor will I go anywhere in a car without them. I can't stand the thought of my nursling needing me and me not being able to run to them, after they wean I might feel differently though, as I <i>have</i> left my son and let family members take him places.
 

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My DD is 4 years old and we've never left her except once with my mom for 1 hour while we went out for anniversary dinner.<br><br>
That's not so much a thing about "we're AP and we don't do that" but more like "we like DD and like going places with her" and "we're boring and hardly go anywhere."<br><br>
But if we do ever make the effort to arrange a babysitter, I don't have anything against teens at all. I mean, teen or adult, I have to trust the babysitter, but I could see myself trusting a teen just fine. I was babysat by a teen when I was young; she was great. I don't see how teens are inherently less AP than adults. Yup, I know there are terrible teen babysitters out there - but terrible adult ones too. So it's about getting one that will pay attention to your kid and make sound decisions, not about an age.
 

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i dont have the $$$s to hire one regularly.<br><br>
i started using them when dd was 6 years old. as a child she has loooooooooooooved teenagers. if i had had acess to the kind of teenagers when dd was young, yes i would have left her with them. when i visited my mom, the teenagers in her building would come borrow my 9 month old. my dd would look forward to their visit and the moment she saw them she would point to the door as if to say lets go.<br><br>
but totally i would choose teenagers over adults anyday.
 

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I was a teenage babysitter! And even though I was not a terrible babysitter, I can't believe those parents let me alone with those children. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
I don't think I would leave my babe alone with a teenage babysitter, maybe when he's older -- like 7 or 8, but not for a young child. I would consider a mother's helper, and often think of calling one in sometimes now, but haven't got around to it yet, and also I think my babe is still too young (14 mos) and requires too much minute-to-minute supervision.<br><br>
But to put my comments in perspective, we have never had a babysitter besides my mom at all yet. So I guess we're babysitter wimps. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hide.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hide">
 

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We have no family nearby, and started using our babysitter as a mother's helper when she was 13yo. She has since taken the red cross safe sitters class and we've started leaving dd with her (well- twice-- we're pretty serious homebodies) Our dd is 4yo, and I'm not as worried about choking and other safety issues as I would have been when she was, say, 2yo. The girl is a neighbor, and only watches dd when her own mom is home (3 houses away) as a back-up. Dd LOVES her- and I think she's pretty great, too. She young enough that she's not into boyfriends, etc.- and I feel comfortable that she's actually playing with dd and not calling boys on the phone, etc. while we're gone- she takes it very seriously. I feel really lucky that we have her-- as a matter of fact, this thread has me thinking that maybe dh and I ought to plan an evening out here soon!
 

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Yes, my boys were left with teenage babysitters a few times when they were younger.<br><br>
And, believe it or not, it's not because we don't like our children. We homeschool....we're with our kids a lot. We just occasionally like to spend time doing things together, without kids. Like seeing a grown-up movie, or watching live music in a pub.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My DD is 4 years old and we've never left her except once with my mom for 1 hour while we went out for anniversary dinner.<br><br>
That's not so much a thing about "we're AP and we don't do that" but more like "we like DD and like going places with her" and "we're boring and hardly go anywhere."<br><br>
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LOL, I quite like mine too, I just occasionally like going out past 7 pm when my two go to bed <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I also quite like going golfing or to restaurants that are not necessarily child friendly, to R rated movies, dancing, or going to parties for friends or even *gasp* going away for the weekend or an anniversary with my husband. I have left my (still nursing 21 month old) for two different long weekends so far in her life, pumping and leaving milk for her, and it was great. I never quite understand the idea that people who believe that letting their child get accustomed to the care of others who are trustworthy and who love them is somehow an inference that they don't like their children/spending time with their children or aren't somehow "attached". And in all fairness, that may not be at all what you are saying (and if not I apologize in advance<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">) , but it is an idea that I have seen at times on here. Literally ~ cataloging how many hours you have been away from your child in their entire life? Never ever being in a car without your children? Wow. That is great if that works for you, but that is a choice that would never ever work for our family or for my relationship with either my husband or my friends. I chose to be a SAHM with DH who WAH so that I could spend my time and their childhoods with my children, but with that did not come the idea that I must die as both an individual and as an adult. I feel it is a gift I am giving my child in terms of helping them be adaptable and trusting in other worthy adults/caregivers. They also learn that Mommy and Daddy come back.<br><br>
I think that it is also very different with just one child and more children ~ I am sure that things will adjust yet again when I give birth to our third this May.<br><br>
To the person who said that you were a teen babysitter ~ great point! I was one too, and was a pretty decent one <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> In rethinking this, I will absolutely leave my children with teen babysitters once they are just a bit older.
 

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I can't afford to do it very often, but yes, we do use teenage babysitters when we can. The girls we've used so far have been really great, and my boys both love babysitter nights. They've all been girls that we either know very well, or whom I've hired as a mother's helper as a younger teen (14ish), then started using as a babysitter.
 

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I have, and I would again if needed.<br><br>
My mom usually watches the kids if we have plans, but I have asked a teenage friend before (he was 15 at the time) and also would ask the girls who live next door (15 and 18). The older one works at the local grocery store child care, so she sometimes ends up watching my kids there, anyway!<br><br>
ETA: Also asked the girl who lifeguards at our pool, but it didn't work out schedule-wise. She's great with the kids.
 

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Sorry, when I said "I like my kid and like spending time with her" I wasn't thinking about or meaning the opposite, that "those who use babysitters don't like their kids."<br><br>
Of course you like your kids and want to spend time with them. I guess DH and I just don't ever go anywhere, and don't really have the urge to do anything without DD.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">It seems like AP parents, in general, are less likely to use teenage babysitters, and more likely to either never leave their kids at all, or only leave them with family/other mama friends. So I'm just curious.. do you use teenage babysitters? (your own teenage kids don't count!)</div>
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OK, so I have to ask why you think this? Do most of your friends not use teen babysitters?<br><br>
We don't have any family members around here and you know, for some reason, I can't find any adults who want to spend their Friday evening babysitting my kids! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> So yes, we always use teen babysitters. On rare occasions, my retired neighbor will watch them. But only during the day and maybe for an hour max. Like if I have a doctor's appointment or something. I would never ask her to come over so DH and I could go to a movie or whatever.
 

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I said no but i might in the future - i have one DD and a babe due in June. DD's father and i split up when she was 8 weeks old. I left him 2 months later and since then she has had one overnight a week at his house. Because of that i never feel the need to have an "extra" night off. I have also left her with my dad, a female friend and my DH (her step-daddy) but never for more than a few minutes or hours. Mostly for us it is lack of need, but also because i think that being babysat whn you're ready for it is a really positive thing, whereas being babysat when you just want your mama tends to make you feel rubbish and i'd want to know where and with whom i was leaving my kids was something they were happy with. I think you can get to that by 2 or 3 (depending on how verbal a kid is).<br><br>
I was a teen babysitter, and i would use a teen babysitter, but TBH i'm more likely to leave my babe with one of my (many) nursing friends with littlies, because then they can be BF and cared for by someone who loves them, that they love, but once they are bigger then yeah, some heroic teen they can play with and look up to would be great <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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