[kblackstone444]

Anyone else out there want another child but their Husband does not?

 

[risala]

I'm with you, sister!

 

[Nunny]

I'm on the fence. I would love to be pg and labor/del again but, two seems good mosst times.

 

[3for_me]

I would like one more but DH isn't so sure. I am still working on him and see that he is just starting to crack

 

[CaraNicole]

i want another 9 babes but DH just wants DS b/c he can't share his love...right

 

[mommato5]

I'm in!! I want a few more!! Dh said no, then said 1 more in a few years, then said he didn't mean it, then says he would rather adopt. I would like to have another child biologically then open our home to either an african american or biracial sibling set since they are harder to place.

 

[kblackstone444]

Wow. I'm sure glad I'm not alone here. Sometimes I just need someone to talk to about my wanting another baby and my Hubby not, but I've got no one to "complain" about it to. It's especially rough lately because my sister is 3 months pregnant and, they're not financially ready, relationship ready or ready for another, as far as parenting goes. I know it sounds petty and unfair, but I "know" I could and would do a much better job a pregnancy and parenting. She's already got her daughter, and now her and her live-in boyfriend are trying for a son, with the attitude of, "well, if it's another girl, we'll just try again in a year or so", and it's driving me crazy. I've been working on my Hubbyfor several years not, but it's never financially the "right time", as far as he's concerned. I suspect he's just letting me down easily. It's not that I'm not happy I have my son and my stepdaughter, but I'm not "done". All I ever wanted was to be a Mommy. Any suggestions on talking him into it? My son is going to his Gramma's for a week next week and my stepdaughter will be with her Mother. I plan on bringing it up again next week without the kids as distractions, but I don't have much hope it'll turn out the way I want it to. It's not that he doesn't like children or even that he doesn't want more, I think it's that he's found a spot he's "comfortable" in and he's afraid to take the extra risk of adding another.

 

[wfuteach]

I was searching for this thread...glad I found it, and hope some of you ladies are still around and in this boat.

Am I the only want ready for another, with a DH who isn't yet? I realize there are logistical concerns, and I would NEVER want for him to have a baby he didn't want, but it's so hard some days to want this and feel really alone in it, and like what I want doesn't matter, kwim?

Please say there are more of us out there...

 

[User101]

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[CheapPearls]

We were the other way around. Dh wanted to try for a 3rd and I didn't. After a lot of talking, he went and had a vasectomy but we stopped BC too early and looks like DH got his way. Haha.

 

[mamazee]

My husband didn't even want a first child. But he's wrapped around her little finger now. I've talked him into TTC again and he's at least enough into it to be calling me with baby names every so often. But he isn't one who would say, "Hey! I know! Let's have a baby!" I have to talk him into it for sure.

 

[[email protected]]

I thought I wanted a third and tried to talk dh into it, but he wouldn't give in. I gave up when I realized that what I wanted was another baby, not necessarily another child. Now that my youngest is 4.5 I think we were right to stop at 2. If dh suddenly decided he wanted another or if it just happened I'd be thrilled however

 

[mwright]

I'm in!! dd is 14mo now and I am so craving to be pregnant and expecting another wonderful blessing. DH doesn't like to talk about it and when I make a comment about having another baby, he says we aren't having anymore..I know he is kidding in a way though. I just think he wants to wait a couple more years. Also, I want like 5 kids and he say's he's done. so sad

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[GranoLLLy-girl]

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Originally Posted by harleyhalfmoon Wow. I'm sure glad I'm not alone here. Sometimes I just need someone to talk to about my wanting another baby and my Hubby not, but I've got no one to "complain" about it to. It's especially rough lately because my sister is 3 months pregnant and, they're not financially ready, relationship ready or ready for another, as far as parenting goes. I know it sounds petty and unfair, but I "know" I could and would do a much better job a pregnancy and parenting. She's already got her daughter, and now her and her live-in boyfriend are trying for a son, with the attitude of, "well, if it's another girl, we'll just try again in a year or so", and it's driving me crazy. I've been working on my Hubbyfor several years not, but it's never financially the "right time", as far as he's concerned. I suspect he's just letting me down easily. It's not that I'm not happy I have my son and my stepdaughter, but I'm not "done". All I ever wanted was to be a Mommy. Any suggestions on talking him into it? My son is going to his Gramma's for a week next week and my stepdaughter will be with her Mother. I plan on bringing it up again next week without the kids as distractions, but I don't have much hope it'll turn out the way I want it to. It's not that he doesn't like children or even that he doesn't want more, I think it's that he's found a spot he's "comfortable" in and he's afraid to take the extra risk of adding another.

I could have written part of this post! Especially the part about family--my bro and his wife (SIL) are having their third. Bro has kids from other marriages. And they aren't great parents...especially him. I really wanted three but dh said no way and got the snip shortly after ds was born. Part of me was happy ONLY because I could not bear another c-section and both of my babies were nine plus pounds. Both pregnancies were sheer torture for me from day one...and my dd has special needs. However, I do understand that those ten months of torture would lead to a life of joy. I'm also much older--and now it really is too late.
I do think it about it all the time--funny how you instinctually just 'know' whether you are or are not 'done'. I would have loved three or four children.

 

[bellymama]

yes, but we are having one more at least and i don't really give a damn what he thinks

. i have always wanted AT LEAST 2 kids...maybe 3...and thats whats happening. i told him that if he wasn't down with that then we weren't meant to be married. he complied

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[hermionesmum]

We'd both love more than our two. DH is much better at remembering that we couldn't realistically afford it. I'd be reckless given half a chance

 

[2Sweeties1Angel]

DH is the one who wants another baby. This baby factory is CLOSED!

 

[jillmamma]

I am still hoping to convince DH that a third one is a good idea. I know we both are not quite ready yet, but maybe in a year or so? He has never wanted to officially try, but maybe I can convince him to "not prevent"?

 

[woobysma]

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Originally Posted by [email protected] I thought I wanted a third and tried to talk dh into it, but he wouldn't give in. I gave up when I realized that what I wanted was another baby, not necessarily another child. Now that my youngest is 4.5 I think we were right to stop at 2. If dh suddenly decided he wanted another or if it just happened I'd be thrilled however

This is me, too. I really want to be 4-6 months pregnant and do the baby stage, but it doesn't work that way

I guess I'll just get my baby fix with my sisters' kids someday.
DP and I have 3 between the two of us, but no bio-children together. I love our family, but sometimes I really wish I could carry DP's child. It would mean a lot to me

We'd also really like to have a daughter (we have three boys). DP really doesn't want to "start over", but would love to have a child DS2's age. So, we're in a tough spot - I want to just be pregnant & DP wants to magically have a pre-schooler

 

[4C-mom]

this is my first post here, and in quite the appropriate thread. I have 4 kids, the youngest being less than a week old, and I would love to have more, more, more.

My DH didn't want the 4th, at first. We had 3, he was okay with 3, our car fit 3 kids. It happened. He was NOT HAPPY at all. He came around, fairly quickly, and now is happy with 4. Of course, #4 is fairly low maintenance at the moment-boob/diaper/hold, and can't participate in the mess making, screaming, fighting fun yet!

They also go to private school, and he's worried we wont be able to afford private school for more kids.

I had my baby and the next day was missing being pregnant and wanting more. My OB was asking about my birth control plans before I left the hospital and I wanted to cry, b/c its a decision I have to make, what to do.
If i do nothing, he might entertain the thought of getting a V, which I dont know what I'd do if he did.

We are young with many years of fertility ahead. I couldn't do anything permanent even if i did know i was done. which i'm NOT.

I am okay for now, though, b/c I have my newest little nursling. I just think "i hope he's not the last!"