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We have two babes under age two, one old crotchety cat, and now a stray puppy who has been hanging around since Monday. My 19 mo son is absolutely loving this dog. When he wakes up in the morning, he asks for "Guk cup" (which means milk cup) and the very next thing is "where my goggie?"<br><br>
I really did not want another responsibility right now. Dh and I just really don't have much free time, but dh wants to keep the dog. And the dog (Scooter) is really such a sweet thing...*sigh*<br><br>
Anyhow, was wondering, if you have a dog, how worried are you about your kids and dog germs? Does your dog stay in or out or both? Would you ever trust a dog alone with your kid (definitely not for a while since this dog is new to us)? Where does doggo sleep? How is your dog w/ your baby? (dd is 5 mo)<br><br>
Help! I haven't had a dog since i was 7!
 

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we have two dogs. they rock. i don't worry about dog germs getting on my kids. maybe sometimes i worry about kid germs getting on the dogs, though....<br><br>
we have had our older dog for about 7 years, and our younger dog since she was a puppy. we know them and they love the kids to death. they are alone in rooms with the kids all the time. right now everyone is in the living room and i am in the bedroom. our dogs are inside dogs but go outside to play with us. they sleep on the floor next to the bed or in the bed when dh is out of town...<br><br>
anyways. i think its great to have dogs. i think it helps teach kids about them, how to treat them, etc. our dogs are part of the family...
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">We have two babes under age two, one old crotchety cat, and now a stray puppy who has been hanging around since Monday. My 19 mo son is absolutely loving this dog. When he wakes up in the morning, he asks for "Guk cup" (which means milk cup) and the very next thing is "where my goggie?"<br><br>
I really did not want another responsibility right now. Dh and I just really don't have much free time, but dh wants to keep the dog. And the dog (Scooter) is really such a sweet thing...*sigh*<br><br>
Anyhow, was wondering, if you have a dog, how worried are you about your kids and dog germs? Does your dog stay in or out or both? Would you ever trust a dog alone with your kid (definitely not for a while since this dog is new to us)? Where does doggo sleep? How is your dog w/ your baby? (dd is 5 mo)<br><br>
Help! I haven't had a dog since i was 7!</div>
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We got our dog about 9 months before ds1 was born.<br>
I am not at all worried about my kids and dog germs. In fact, my dog helps keep my kids clean. LOL<br>
My dog is an inside dog.<br>
I have trusted my dog alone wiht all three of my toddlers since birth.<br>
To him they are his pack. He used to watch ds1 when he was a neborn sleeping in his cosleeper. The dog on my bed staring at the baby and he would come get me the second teh baby moved or made a peep.<br>
He loves them .<br>
My dog sleeps on my bedroom floor. (often on a pile of dirty laundry)<br><br>
My dd has always been great with the kids. As infants he loved to lick their hands. They would reach out and sometimes their entire arm would be in his mouth. (he is a full sized german shepherd mix, so not a small dog)<br>
My dd2 really loved this.<br>
He let them climb on him. Play with is chew toys.<br>
I think he was a little confused when ds1 learned to walk and Zeus learned that he wasnt really a puppy.<br>
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We have always had a dog. We started off with a rescued Weimaraner, who we had before children. I tormented her before our first child was born. I would pull her fur, ears, tail, and praise her and made it a good thing...usually she thought it was a massage and fell asleep. But, she was AMAZING with our dc, she reminded me of Nana from Peter Pan. Unfortunately she had horrid seperation anxiety, the vet even said she was "literally insane" so I found a perfect home for her with a family of 6 homeschooled children who live on a farm. She is doing well. After we got rid of her, we got a little Rat Terrier. She adores the dc, and knows what is expected of her. The dc know they are not allowed to do things that could hurt the dog...at adult size she will be 8lbs. Whenever I have a new dog, I tie their leash to my belt, so they are with me all the time. That way I can see any behavior they may have that I dont want them to have. I wouldnt trust a new dog with dc. We did a test run with another Rat Terrier...he was fine at first, but then when he was comfortable with us, it was obvious he did not like children. I dont worry about germs much, my dog is tested for worms, she is an indoor dog, and gets weekly baths. I dont let the children let her lick them on the mouth or anything.
 

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Our dog is a 9yo black lab mix. I never worry about dog germs, but I'm not all that concerned with germs in general. Our dog would never hurt the kids, she's very protective of them-- likes to sleep on the floor near the baby. The kids love teaching the dog tricks (they taught her to play dead when you point your finger like a gun and say "bang"), taking her for walks, giving her a bath with the hose in the Summer. She's a part of our family.
 

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Well, you can tell by my MDC name that I'm a pretty big dog fanatic!<br><br>
I was raised with dogs from birth, and they were like siblings to me since my nearest sibling is 9 years younger than I am. The only time I didn't have a dog was away at college, and I was really sad not to have one. I really need a furry presence in my life <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Until this summer, when one of our dogs died of cancer, we had two dogs. They were very different with DS. Our lab (the one who recently died) liked DS, but would possibly snap at him if he hurt her. Our german shepherd loves, loves, loves DS, and I don't think he would hurt DS no matter what. I love dogs and want my kids to grow up with dogs. I think it's very, very good for kids to become connected to non-human animals and learn to love and respect them. Our dog is a family member and sleeps in our bedroom.<br><br>
However, despite all of that, I have some words of caution about dogs and kids, based on our experience. First, kids can easily hurt dogs, so I would not leave dogs and kids alone together until you know that *neither one* will hurt the other. After years of telling and showing DS how to be gentle with our dogs, I am finally ok with him being along with our german shepherd. Second, some dogs can become overprotective of their pack, especially of children. Our german shepherd has become very overprotective and so we can never have playgroups at our house, and have to be very careful if relatives or friends come over to visit. In the future, I will make sure to get dogs that are reliabily friendly with everyone - labs and golden-retrievers are wonderful this way. Many mutts are wonderful too, but you have to test them out to see how they behave with kids. Also, make sure you consistently expose your dog to positive experiences with non-pack-members, so they don't become too paranoid.<br><br>
Oh, and I don't worry about DS being exposed to dog terms. According to his pediatrician, there is very little that dogs can pass onto kids, as long as the dog is wormed and healthy.
 

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We have an 8yo and recently adopted a 1yo <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> Our kids have both grown up with dogs around so they have never known different. All of our family members discouraged us (to put it mildly) from getting dogs and remain a bit unfriendly to them but dh and I agree it has been absolutely fantastic for our 4.5yo (and will be for his baby sis) He has grown up with our older dog and they are best pals. We fenced our yard in 2yrs ago and it made a world of difference for everyone. DS runs around with the dogs outside. They wouldn't hurt a fly and ds has learned how to treat animals - something extremely important to me.<br><br>
It really is like having 4 kids - two human and two dogs. Keep that in mind. It's work but it's so worth it.
 

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yup, i have two puppies(yes i really mean puppies, both under a year) and I'm past due with my first child. I've always grown up with animals of all kinds and I've always been very healthy despite the "germs" they carry. Most animals germs are not transferable to people and their mouths are actually cleaner than ours. I have no concerns about my puppies and the new baby, they are both quite hyper but very very gentle, we never even had to teach them "no teeth" they understood from the get go that it is not acceptable to bite humans. My friend had her 3 year old over at our house a few days ago and the dogs had a blast with her! She'd run up to them and then run away quickly and hide in a corner and scream when they got close. The dogs loved the game and chased her every time, but they never attacked her, even though she was a running screaming child. I highly reccomend animals with kids, it's taught me soo much about life and responsibility growing up. I couldn't imagine my life without them and I want my children to experience the same love only an animal can give.
 

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We got a puppy in August and I sold her last week. The funny thing was DD was perfectly OK with it.<br><br>
I was TIRED of chewing - the dog chewed up my shoe, the leg of my barstool, a plant in the backyard is destroyed, the hose and countless toys. TIRED of poop - OK, granted I am pregnant and every time I had to clean it I almost puked. DD was too rough with the dog and no matter what I did she would not stop. I was constantly nagging her to let go of the dog, or yelling at the dog to "drop it". Plus we live in a hot climate where the dog had to be in all day and night and as a result my carpet is disgusting (I have a cleaner coming next week).<br><br>
PLUS I got a dog that was high maintenance - she had to be groomed every month.<br><br>
Having a dog - especially a puppy - is like having another child. I could not handle this dog on top of my already spirited DD and one on the way. I know dogs chew when they are bored and we just did not have enough time to spend with her.<br><br>
We always had dogs growing up but now I know why they were NEVER allowed in the house. Plus we had a HUGE yard growing up and here we are in suburb hell.<br><br>
We have a cat too - have had her for 8 years and you know what? I have discovered that I am a cat person. LOL. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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We have a dog. I got her 8 years ago. She is my first baby. I have never woried about germs, as animals are known to boost up your kids immunity, and decrese the risk of allergies. Keep the dog, it will be your dc's best friend<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/Rainbow.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rainbow peace"><br>
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ITA! You have to really want dogs - they are a lot of work but really worth it for many people <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I agree with a prev poster that a fenced yard makes having kids and dogs a lot easier. As much of a dog person as I am, I might prefer to have cats if I was going to be living without a fenced yard for a long time. We were in an apartment for 3 months before we moved this summer, and it was really difficult with two big hyper dogs and a toddler. Plus, dogs can be expensive - vet bills can be really high and if you travel a lot, boarding really adds up. I'm not trying to discourage anyone from having a dog, but it's important to know that it's a huge (but amazingly rewarding!) commitment and be ready for that (just like human parenthood).
 

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We had 2 dogs until this past June when we had to put our Rottie down. He was old and very sick. Our mix breed is fabulous with our children. I never worry about her with them. She and our dd are bestest buds. Our Rottie was a different story. He was old and sick the last few years so he was never, ever, ever alone with dd. His temperament just wasn't suited to children. He slept in the living room after dd was born and in our room before that. Our girl dog can sleep wherever she wants. Usually that's on the couch. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes"> Occasionally that's on the floor next to our bed.<br><br>
Any way, I think kids and dogs are great together but it depends on the dog. Plus, you need to want a dog because they're a ton of work.
 

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haha my puppies chewed a hole in the middle of our wall early on! How they did it i have NO idea, but since then I've called them my little beavers. They're really good now though and have learned that bones are the only accpetable place to chew. Puppies are work, but they make it so you can never stay mad at them for long. Hmm.. kinda like a kid <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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we've got a 9 year old retired racing greyhound who was here a few years before dd showed up <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> they lead a relatively peaceful coexistence if not a love affair (which i really thought it would be.... sigh) it was really tough early on in her mobility & he's very ungainly with little sense of self in space. she got her first black eye from him in a total freak accident (he jumped up & turned & actually punched her in the face!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> )<br><br>
dog germs aren't too much of a concern for us. the work involved for us can be a little overwhelming (he has to be walked, not just "let out") and they truly don't love each other. it's hard to say if we'd ever get another dog if and when Indie goes on his way, but we're leaning towards "no" right now.<br><br>
Sorry, i'm waaay too in the middle/on the fence to be of much help! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">:
 

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I did not have time to read all of the posts so if I am repeating forgive me. I thought I would mention that was a study done some time ago showing that young children who lived with pets had less incidents of asthma and allergies. I suppose because they build up immunity. Also growing up around animals is such a great thing. I think teaching kids that there is something(pet) that requires care and is mostly dependent upon their owners is very valuable. Lastly theymake such wonderful friends, they always love you and are sooo loyal.
 

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We have 4 geriatric dogs <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
The oldest is 17 and the youngest is 9. They were our dogs before dh and I met eachother (one I got the month before we met).<br><br>
Because they are old, we are extra vigilant with the kids around them, which we would be no matter what. It is also important to always be around with a puppy because they can get nippy.<br><br>
Other than that, I think it is wonderful to have dogs around kids! It teaches them a lot of great things1<br><br>
cheers!
 

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We have a lab mix, who is the same age as Ds(almost a yr). It wasn't my idea to get a dog now, but I have to admit, I kinda like having him. Even with all the extra work. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
I grew up with alot of various pets and it would just seem empty not to have some kind of pet around.<br>
I don't really worry about the germs. Mostly our dog is inside. It took awhile before I trusted the dog alone with the kids, but that was just cause he was new to us. He sleeps on a doggie bed next to ours at night. During the day he naps where ever we are. He doesn't like being alone. He is great with Ds, we got the dog when they(Ds and the dog) were both about 6 months old. We have never had a problem with him and the baby, he is a very patient gentle dog. Now my 3 yr old Dd and the dog are a totally different story <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> , I am constantly telling Dd to leave that poor dog alone.
 

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Thanks for all your replies!<br><br>
Well, according to the vet, this stray is in excellent health, is about 5 months old, and is a lab-mix that is almost all lab. The vet says he is a definite keeper, but what vet would tell you to get rid of a dog?<br><br>
My dh bought a tag & collar at the vet's office, so I guess scooter is staying. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Now, for my next question...<b>how long was it before you knew that your dog was house-broken?</b> We bought one of those training cages for him to sleep in and put him in it last night to sleep in (we let him go in it and sniff around and lay and play all evening, then when he went in there after the kids went to bed, we closed the door). Boy he did not like it. <b>Is it possible for him to have separation anxiety when he has only known us since Monday?</b> I don't think it was the cage, because if we go in another room and close the door, he barks and cries. He barked for about 7 or 8 minutes, but our house is pretty small and he managed to wake up ds and dd, and then we had to spend another hour getting them to calm down after he quit barking. It was not fun. I think he would be okay if he could roam around or come in our room where we are, but I have enough toddler and baby poop and pee to clean up and don't want him pooping on the furniture or the carpet. Was wondering how long it usually takes to train a dog because we can't have him waking up the kids every night. My ds was so upset and kept saying "My goggie sad, my goggie hurt?" It was pitiful, plus I felt really bad for the dog.<br><br>
But he finally settled and slept or chewed on his bone until about 5:30 when he barked again and woke ds up again. Just wondering how long it takes a dog to get used to something new.
 

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Every dog is different for how long it will take to house break them. I would reccomend keeping him locked up at night for at least a few months. Slowly you can increase the time he's alone outside of the cage. For example, the first time you leave him alone in the house should be for a quick trip to the store, then mabye a grocery shopping trip, just slowly work up the time he's out of his cage alone until you can leave him for several hours to visit a freind or whatever. If the dog has an accident during one of these time alone tests, go back to the last ammount of time he was ok alone. As for the cage and speration anxiety, he will get used to the cage pretty quickly, it'll be rough the first few nights til he learns how to sleep on his own. You can also try putting in an old peice of clothing that is unwashed so it has your scent into the cage. The scent of you will help sooth him a bit so the cage won't be as traumatic to him. Also a bone or toy or something to chew on may distract him a bit. Where is the cage now? Is it in a seperate room from where you sleep? It may help to put the cage in your bedroom so he still feels close to you. If he keeps you up all night though, it might not be a good idea. Basically what you are doing is correct, just keep at it, letting the dog out to go the bathroom often and praise like crazy when he goes outside. If you ever aren't there to watch him he should be in the cage (until you feel comfortable with testing him for ammount of time left alone). Good luck!<br><br>
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if you don't catch your dog IN THE ACT of having an accident in the house, don't punish him. They can't make the connection of the poop on the floor and you being upset with him, he'll act guilty because he knows you're mad but he has no clue why. If you do catch him right in the middle of having an accident, firmly say "NO!" (in the best deep male voice you can, the lower pitched your voice is the more the dog understands it as you not being happy) and pick him up and put him outside and praise when he finishes outside. Quick to correct and quick to praise is the golden rule of training animals. You have to have the same memory of things he's done wrong as he has (which is all of 2 seconds <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> )
 
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