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The older my kids get, the more they annoy me. I feel horrible even saying that <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> But, it's true - especially with my youngest. The sweet times seem so few and far between. It seems like all day it's non stop mess making, fighting, arguing, whining "she touched me" "She got more" "it's not fair!!".<br><br>
Just today my 5 yo cried and cried because when we pulled into the drive way, I asked my 6 yo to get the paper. Generally I get it first thing in the morning but I just forgot this morning. It's not like getting the paper is a big deal or something they look forward to - it was just an off handed request to my 6yo because the paper was on her side and my 5 yo lost it. Sobbing that she NEVER gets to do anything....... Which is not true. I'm very aware of her need to be helpful so, I give her daily things to do ie... she loves to be responsible for the keys when we're out and about so, that's her job..<br><br>
It's all day. She whined and cried becasue she asked if she could go out to dinner tonight. Ummm, no.... we rarely go out to dinner so why she would even ask is beyond me. I told her no, we had food at home and that sent her on a whine fest.<br><br>
I want to love on her, cuddle her, spend time with her and we do but inevitably, she ends up ruining it by whining and complaining and it makes me not want to be around her <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I try to meet her on her terms - she loves to read, play "Meeting" (I'm secretary on my HOA board and she sees me in meetings taking notes) where we take notes and make lists of our favorite things etc..., we do workbooks together etc.... but, within minutes something sets her off and off we go in to the land of whinese.<br><br>
I feel sad that I don't enjoy the majority of my time with her <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> These days are flying by so fast. I want to spend time with her, to just be with her and talk to her and play with her but, it's just not pleasant <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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My four year old and I have days like that. I find if everyone gets enough sleep and eats regularly there is less whining. Of course what is most interesting about that is when *I* get enough sleep and don't let *my* blood sugar drop he is less annoying. hmmmm <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I hope it is just the age. DD whines a lot. I enjoy a lot of my time with her though. Her biggest problem is she wants me to play with her or she is "bored".
 

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DS only annoys me when he's bored which means he's whiny/clingy. Sometimes when he starts annoying me I realize I haven't been giving him much attention because I've been working etc. (I work from home).
 

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I've felt this way sometimes too. I think I just prefer the younger set. There is something about older kids that I don't get.
 

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Don't feel bad, I feel the same way sometimes. I only have one child too, so that makes me feel even more guilty for thinking this way.<br>
My almost 6 year old ds's behavior is very similar to your dd's. I love him so much, but it's hard to be around them all day, every day!
 

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I know what you mean about them getting more annoying as they get older. Maybe it's just because I have the two to compare, but my eight year old is much more irritating then my five year old. My five year old at least still hugs on me and tells me he loves me. My eight year old is just full of this attitude. It drives me nuts. I'm hoping that by nine or ten it'll get a little better. I think for him he's in this weird in between stage, trying to have independence, but still needing me. It is cool that he's getting old enough to appreciate alot of the same stuff that I like, though.
 

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My 4.5 year old is chronically annoying. It's just who she is and I'm on the path to acceptance.<br><br>
My kids are very annoying in the car with their fussing and whining. I'm trying to be at peace with it.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
I'm having to change my own attitude about the whole thing and it's a journey.
 

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I can relate too. I love my kiddos, but the whining and arguing are enough to drive me up the wall. As soon as the whiny voices (esp. w/my 5.5 y.o.) come out it is like I can't hear what they are saying and I just get irritated.<br><br>
I think that as my ds1 gets older and he is less physically affectionate and not as "cute" it is easier for me to get annoyed w/his behavior bc he seems like such a big kid. When they are all little and squishy and cute, it seems less annoying. To me anyway.<br><br>
Don't feel bad though, I think we all feel it sometimes.
 

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I am to the point where when someone asks me a question . . . . and I know the answer is going to be contrary to what they were hoping . . . I brace myself for the whine or all out hysterical crying fit. It. Drives. Me. Nuts. The other day the triplets were whining about having the wrong "placemat" of the pink, blue, green and yellow bunny placemats. I shuffled them all. They calmed down - and then older DS freaked out because he didn't want the blue placemat. AHHHHHHH!<br><br>
DS #1 picks up a free community magazine at the grocery store and leaves it in the van. One of the triplets sees it on a subsequent trip and picks it up and brings it in the house. DS#1 sees triplet with it and snatches it out of his hand. A fight ensues. Both crying and ripping at the free community magazine? Hysterical.<br><br>
These are just two of hundreds of these scenarios daily that I find very. very. very. annoying . . . . .
 

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I need to add to this post my theory of "Treats Only Bring Pain".<br><br>
I know people do things like go out for ice cream "as a treat" or have a movie night "as a treat" or go to the carousel in the park "as a treat".<br><br>
In my house my experience has been "No good treat goes unpunished". If I take them for ice cream - the next 5 days straight I have to listen to begging escalating to crying for ice cream every single night. DH gets coffee for him and me every morning - and started occasionally bringing back a pastry for the kids. Now - every morning - we are rewarded with crying throw on the floor fits on the days he doesn't bring a treat (which is most days) . . .<br><br>
Once again - "Treats Only Bring Pain" . . . . . and THAT is annoying . . .
 

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Oh yes, yes, yes! My three fight, complain and trash the house. My DD 5 drives me nuts. She constantly talks, makes noises, rushes me and needs nonstop entertainment. I've come to the realization that my biggest problem is that I feel like I'm competing to be "me". She copies everything I do or say and tries to be the Mom or talk about grown up issues. I had to tell my DH that he is not allowed to talk to her anymore about President Bush. LOL. She wants to be in charge and be involved in everything. It totally annoys me. My DH finds it funny because she is a carbon copy of me. I didn't know that I annoyed myself so much. LOL!
 

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What??!! No way!! Not my angels...<br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/ROTFLMAO.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rotflmao"><br>
At some point...every. single. day.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I need to add to this post my theory of "Treats Only Bring Pain".<br><br>
I know people do things like go out for ice cream "as a treat" or have a movie night "as a treat" or go to the carousel in the park "as a treat".<br><br>
In my house my experience has been "No good treat goes unpunished". If I take them for ice cream - the next 5 days straight I have to listen to begging escalating to crying for ice cream every single night. DH gets coffee for him and me every morning - and started occasionally bringing back a pastry for the kids. Now - every morning - we are rewarded with crying throw on the floor fits on the days he doesn't bring a treat (which is most days) . . .<br><br>
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Oh, I so feel you. My dd constantly wants a special treat and throws fits. I'm teaching her that she has to be happy with what she has first. Even when we go and do really fun things that aren't a usual thing she still wants a special treat once we get home.
 

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Yes, sometimes my kids annoy me, especially my 4.5 yr old. There have been days that he was really really annoying, and other days that were great. But you know what, I'm sure I annoy him too sometimes.<br><br>
Special treats - he'll ask for a special treat sometimes, even when he knows I will not say yes. For example, first thing in the morning, he asks for ice cream and chocolate chips. Um, no. We just try to be consistent and offer an explanation, like that he has to eat breakfast and lunch first and then for an afternoon snack we'll all have ice cream together. Why? Brief explanation about how our bodies need healthy foods to keep us healthy. He sometimes argues about it, sometimes not.<br><br>
Mostly, I really try to treasure the great moments and be there for him when I can and help him figure out how to deal with the unprectabilities of life.
 

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I think a lot of it is age. My oldest DD is seven now, and she went through a period from around 5 through 6 that was just awful! Just drove me insane!! Every little thing would throw her into a fit. She HAD to have silly things her own way, and HAD to wear certain clothes, and HAD to have her hair done just so, and HAD to pick which book to read/movie to watch/game to play, etc etc.<br><br>
Now she is getting to an age where she talks back some, but has thankfully grown out of most of the above.<br><br>
I hope it will stay this way but I'm no dummy... I know she will be a teenager before I know it. [shudder]
 

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All. the. fricking. time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> She's at this stage where she rambles. Forever. About her imaginary animals. And she makes up words. And she keeps talking even when I turn up the radio to drown her out. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck"> It's ok. She's funny. I think I'll keep her. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Hmm.<br><br>
Yes, they do have their moments. I know a good portion of it is simly their ages. One is 4 and the other is 7. The bickering and whining can be very taxing to me..to say the least.<br><br>
The begininng of summer was very difficult for me. My husband took a week off and that and school getting out and my job coming to an end for the year all led to instant chaos.<br><br>
I'd like to say that we've recovered, but that would be a lie. We are struggling through, and I am trying desperatly to get them back into some sort of routine or SOMETHING along the lines of structure, because that really, really helps a LOT !
 

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Yes, in the summer. I go all Spring chomping at the bit and then spend at least one hour a day thinking "go away kid!"<br><br>
I know, this makes me awful, but to be fair, they are mighty annoying at 6 and 4 when they are together 24 hours a day.
 

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Ah, yes. DD is nearly 4, DS is 2 1/2 and, boy, do they love to fight! They annoy me probably less, though, than any other two people I might spend 12 hours a day with, 7 days a week. I love my DH, but if he and I had that quantity of time together, I might just throw him off a bridge. So the kids aren't quite so bad, I guess.
 
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