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I often feel overwhelmed by my kid's needs, though I love and cherish them so much.<br><br>
I am due with #3 at the end of May, and really wonder how I will do it all on a day to day basis. I already often feel on edge with the two I have.<br><br>
My daughter is lovely, but likes to talk and be in your face and interact ALL DAY, and just needs lots of attention. She also gets wild and crazy often, and you have to reign her in and get her to calm down.<br><br>
My son is so sweet, but non-verbal (22 months) and often I don't know WHAT he wants, except he is whining for "mo" (more) something or other, and crying when I don't get it.<br><br>
Put them together with the day to day challenges, fights over toys, clean-up and chaos, and I don't know how I will be able to cope with three. Sometimes I get so frustrated and snappy with them, like what ELSE do you WANT NOW!!!! and just want to send them to the moon.<br><br>
I am worried that I won't be able to be a good mom to three and won't have the patience. I often feel so guilty about not always being a loving, patient mom and really obsess about it and have awful thoughts like "what if they got hit by a car or died in an accident, and you were awful to them, or yelled, or didn't enjoy them every minute?"<br><br>
Does anyone else feel overwhelmed by the kids, and have any good ideas? I don't want baby #3 to send me over the edge completely so I really lose it. I want to be loving, gentle, kind and patient, not snappy, impatient and overwhelmed.
 

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yes.<br>
i get overwhelmed all the time.<br>
right now i am on two meds- etc.....<br>
i want to be a better mom.
 

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I had PPD, and it was horrible. I thought it had all gone away but I still feel overwhelmed often with my preteens. I just had a long talk with my kids about this very thing, and the most important thing is being able to admit you need help. So many women beat themselves up for this and it's not your fault if your hormones go out of whack. Obviously mine isn't PPD now, but I'm sure it's hormonal, so it's kinda related.<br><br>
Tell your doctor right away, and don't let anyone tell you to 'just snap out of it,' because it really isn't that simple.<br><br>
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I am pretty overwhelmed... I have a 2.5 year old and a 2 month old. I'm a SAHM. DH is gone at least 10 hours each day, he has a long commute. It's really hard! My DS is really an energetic kid and his normal two-ness has really been pissing us all off lately... DD is starting to have more good nights but still has enough bad nights to keep us sleep deprived... I feel more overwhelmed and impatient when I'm short on sleep - it feels like I will never feel rested again! Ugh! I think long term sleep deprivation can mimic PPD... I have often wondered if I have PPD but my symptoms go away as soon as I can get some decent sleep. But it is hard, and I do feel very overwhelmed with the kids on a regular basis. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 
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