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I'm stressing over the thought. I've avoided it for so long, but I don't think I can anymore. My oldest has lots of "imaginary friends"...well beyond the scope of normal. We see the psychiatrist on Wednesday. She will probably get "rule out psychosis nos" attached to her list of stuff. There is the possibility of schizophrenia, but I think they will want to wait and see on that one. She already is PDD and SID. Life is really stressful here for everyone in the house. I'm willing to give meds a try even though I hate the thought. Have any of you gone the medication route. Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated.
 

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Please forgive me if this has been mentioned a million times to you before but have you tried any of the elimination diets? (I can almost hear you wanting to throw something at your computer screen as I'm sure this has been mentioned a bazillion times but just wanted to double check)<br><br>
I am not opposed to medication. I would definitely consider it as "my" last option for my children. We have pretty severe depression in my family (bi polar, i'm pretty sure). My son also has SID as well as some other things.<br>
It's hard to think our bodies are irrepairable and unable to balance themselves out but at the same time, once you've tried everything and nothing has worked, what do you do? I'm sorry I'm not much help....I guess the bottom line is, as the mother, you have to do what your instincts tell you. If you reach a point where you feel medication is the way to go, then research it, look at all sides and go with your gut. (I would also contact a naturopath or herbalist before pursuing medication....) Good luck, mama!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Yep, we do meds. I have precisely zero regrets about it and it has made life much easier for my kids. My kids are not zombies and if anything, I see their true selves more clearly when things are not muddied by extreme anxiety and aggression.<br><br>
The way my paed approaches it is that the meds damp down enough of the drama so that you can start to work the issues which need working on.<br><br>
And TBH I feel like we lost years chasing chimeras of diet, naturopathy, play therapy, homeopathy... Now some of those things work but back in the bad old days, they didn't.<br><br>
We started out very crunchy and no child of ours was ever going to take meds but life had other plans.
 

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Recently I've been learning about how diet effects things like depression. Right now, I use as much organics as I can and do my best to keep sugars and dyes out of the house. Well really the only diet I've looked into is in regards to yeast, which effects a whole lot including depression. A friend of mine did a gluten free diet for a while and it didn't help much with her son so I'm not real eager to attempt that.<br><br>
I can't afford to see a naturopath, but I've been in the health food store quite a bit. The recommended the fish oil and flax seed, but my dd is unwilling to take them. I honestly have no idea how I'm going to get her to take the meds that the psychiatrist provides.<br><br>
I've done a lot of work as far as therapy goes. The SID diagnosis is new, so the various things to do about that I'm putting into place now.<br><br>
Right now I don't see an option. I have to try the meds. Yestarday Jackie shoved Kaitlin into the wall pretty forcefully, so there is an issue of safety.
 

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We don't do meds yet, but we haven't seen a need to yet. My son is still pretty young, but there may come a time that he'll need something to help his anxiety of new situations/changes to routine. So far he's doing okay. Good luck in your decision.
 

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Yes, my son is on medication. However, I'm neither crunchy nor anti-establishment, so there really wasn't an issue to me. My son had issues which could not be reliably treated with biomedical remedies, and there are prescriptions that DO work, so we took them. Without a regret.
 

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We did try meds with our son but they did not help him and in some ways made things worse. However, that is just his particular chemistry. He is autistic but because he is HFA his problems mimic many others and so meds were tried. However, he doesn't have those other things (BP, ADHD, etc) so the meds were not effective and detrimental to him.<br><br>
However, I don't regret trying them. For us it was a last resort as well and now at least we have ruled out all those other things and know what we are dealing with. Diet and natural remedies have been very helpful for him.<br><br>
On the other hand, my 12yo dd is on medication for a seizure disorder. Her seizures caused a TON of mood issues and behavioral stuff as well. The seizure med she is on is also a mood stabilizer and has been a wonderful thing for her.<br><br>
I think it is a matter of proper diagnosis and how meds interact with the individual child.<br><br>
Oh and I am a mostly crunchy mama myself but sometimes we need to make tough decisions with our precious little ones. I am not a fan of meds and prefer natural but I know it has really helped dd and is part of what she needs.
 

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We do meds for my daughters bladder. She is on Ditropan 2x a day. Also on antibiotics for another UTI. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Hello,<br>
I am wondering what meds your children are on? I have thought and re-thought about this issue as well for my middle daughter (she is 10 now and has SID and many learning disabilities, and her moods and behaviors are very outside of the normal spectrum). So far we have not tried anything, because I am very cautious with meds by nature--but lately there have been times were I am am ready to get help for her.<br><br>
Names of medications and dosage? How long has your child been on, and did you try more than one?<br><br>
Thanks for any help you may provide.<br>
Lisa
 

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No meds here. We just haven't needed any. If it did come down to it, I would try everything else first. I am not anti-anything. It's just that the chemistry of the brian is a delicate thing. Before being comfortable with meds, I would need to know it was a last resort and truly the only thing that would help my chld function in a reasonable way, be able to deal with everyday life.<br><br>
Disclaimer: In my heart of hearts, I am sure any normal parent gives much thought and research into medications for their dc. We are all trying to do our best and imo, we know our individual child best.
 

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My son takes Trileptal and Topamax for seizures...it's been nothing but good for him thus far...
 

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I think that if meds will help...why not try it? In our situation my dd is on many meds because she had a liver transplant. She has to be on them to live. They help her. However, if they help your child to live a better life...a life where he/she is able to focus and enjoy life. I say go for it.
 

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My son is on Focalin and it helps his impulse control and keeps him able to focus. I never wanted to go this route, but if its the difference between being able to function somewhat normally or going insane, we will take it. He is also on Lamictal for his seizures.
 

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My son takes .3mg of Risperdal at dinnertime. It has been a God-send in terms of helping him to sleep; before he started taking it, he would be awake for 2-3 hours in the middle of every night. Not only was this affecting Gabriel, it was also really affecting dh and I. The Risperdal also has helped him to be more focused, to be more interested in people, and to stim a bit less.<br><br>
I rarely give my kids any meds, be they antibiotics, Tylenol, etc. The decision to put our then-7-yr old on an anti-psychotic was a difficult one. We consulted with a pedi psychiatrist, who took a very in-depth background on Gabe, and watched him over the course of our 2-hr appointment, and it became clear that this was really what would be best for Gabe. While I wish Gabe didn't need this med, I don't regret going this route.<br><br>
We are all unique, but I figure Gabriel is a bit extra-unique. If the wiring in his brain is such that a med like Risperdal can calm him, help him get rejuvenating sleep, and help him interact with his world, then I'll give it to him.<br><br>
Joni <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: and kids, incl. Gabriel, 8, Down syn and autism
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Please forgive me if this has been mentioned a million times to you before but have you tried any of the elimination diets? (I can almost hear you wanting to throw something at your computer screen as I'm sure this has been mentioned a bazillion times but just wanted to double check)<br><br>
I am not opposed to medication. I would definitely consider it as "my" last option for my children. We have pretty severe depression in my family (bi polar, i'm pretty sure). My son also has SID as well as some other things.<br>
It's hard to think our bodies are irrepairable and unable to balance themselves out but at the same time, once you've tried everything and nothing has worked, what do you do? I'm sorry I'm not much help....I guess the bottom line is, as the mother, you have to do what your instincts tell you. If you reach a point where you feel medication is the way to go, then research it, look at all sides and go with your gut. (I would also contact a naturopath or herbalist before pursuing medication....) Good luck, mama!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"></div>
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Hi,<br><br>
My son taked meds for his Reflux, constipation and sleep. He has a feeding disorder and is tube fed so that he gets constipated. He has never slept a night in his life.<br><br>
We tried all kinds of herbal supplements, etc before we went to sleep meds. I think you have to do what is best for the child and your family.<br><br>
I am not here to judge and I think that noone should feel bad if their child needs meds to help them. I also do not think that others should judge those who chose this because they miht not be in the situation that you are in.<br><br>
Best wishes to you and your daughter.
 

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I just spent a whole 5 minutes reading there LOL. I've bookmarked the site. It does look interesting. I have been working on converting our diet to a healthier one for the last year or two. It's been a slow transition, but we are heading in that direction.
 

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"Yep, we do meds. I have precisely zero regrets about it and it has made life much easier for my kids. ... I see their true selves more clearly when things are not muddied by extreme anxiety and aggression."<br><br>
us too. My DS currently is taking the smallest dose of Adderall plus fish oil. We also tried Concerta (30 days at lowest dose, 10 days at next dose up). Those are ADHD meds but he's not primarily an ADHD kid. He's an aspergers, anxiety, obsessive kid with neurological hearing issues and lots of self-injurious behaviors.<br><br>
But our pediatrician isn't an expert in that, and while we wait for the expert, we're willing to try anything that might make him happier. The theory is that is he's not battling his hyperactivity in addition to all the above, maybe he can relax and be himself a bit while we work on those other things in non-medical ways. And you know, it doesn't help him much, but there is a clear difference.<br>
He can sit down and play with playdough or legos for the first time in his life- quietly using them, on his own, for decent stretches of time. It's amazing! I can see his body is calm and his mind is finally learning!
 

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I've experienced the before and after effect of meds and mental illness. It changed my life so much for the better that I can't even describe it. If I could go into the past and medicate the little me, I'd do it in a second. Just make sure you have a great psychiatrist and the strength to bear the hunt for the right medication and dosage. Sometimes it can take a while, but for me it was a miracle.
 
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