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My DH just isnt getting CDing!!! I personaly love prefolds and covers but he would freak out if he had to put one on her! he told me he will do AIOs and thats it but he rather go for a sposie. so now ive got 2 pails, one for sposies and one for cloth ugh.... did it take alot of getting used to for all of your DHs??
 

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hmmm, get him a couple aios and hide the sposies!! my dh was slow to come around but now he does fine. he can even use a snappi and knows not to put wool into the pail. i have heard of ladies who just stop buying disposables and make their dh's go out and buy them if they want to use them. not sure how that fits into your relationship. i never tried it, but i did make the cloth easy for dh and the disposables not so easy. the disposables were in the closet and the cloth was right there waiting with the easy to use aios in the front. hope he comes around eventually!
 

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I think my husband has changed a total of 2 diapers. If I remember correctly both of them almost fell off my dd. He generally tells my oldest dd to change the baby. He just can't figure them out. I even bought fitted diapers for his benifit, but he thinks they are too difficult to use. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shake.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shake"> I guess this should not surprise me, he didn't change many diapers when we were using sposie with dd #2.<br><br>
As far as the sposies go. We don't have any. Dd #3 is 5 months old and she has not worn one since the hospital put her in one when she was born. If you don't have any in the house, the your dh will just have to learn to use the cloth diapers. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> good luck<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">My DH just isnt getting CDing!!! I personaly love prefolds and covers but he would freak out if he had to put one on her! he told me he will do AIOs and thats it but he rather go for a sposie. so now ive got 2 pails, one for sposies and one for cloth ugh.... did it take alot of getting used to for all of your DHs??</div>
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I just flat out told my DH before the baby was born that we would use cloth and DD would be rarly used. Sinse I was the one doing all the changing I felt it was mostly my decession. I promised to see about getting some "easy diapers" but made no promises. I decided on fitted with covers and taught him how to tri fold a prefold.<br>
Today, he changes cloth without blinking, he even snappid a diaper on our DD once, he's shocked when I saw put a paper sposie on her. He's even started to sunk <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> He has ben trained well.<br><br>
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My hubby is the same... always goes for the 'sposie. I bought a few prorap AIO's(which I don't like because they leave marks on my baby's back) and a BabyLove AIO(which I do like because it's trim, but not a little harder to get a good fit everytime), still he wines...We've only been doing this for 2 months and I've tried to tell him that it took me a little while to get used to it too, so maybe it'll just take some time to adjust.<br>
Have you asked your hubby if he sees the point in cd'ing? And if he does maybe he can just realize that in time he'll get use to it.<br><br>
I feel your pain though...<br>
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hang in there mama, and keep working on him (and hide/pitch the sposies-he will have no choice)! I have read some really great stories on here about dh's that start off slow-but end up being great advocates (and actually change diapers too).<br>
Shan<br><br>
edited to add: if men can put on a condom (and they should all know how) then they can learn to change a diaper-you just have to make sure they know that they HAVE to (just like with condoms-they do it because WE make them more often than not LOL).
 

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Mine is totally supportive of cd'ing and has shut his silly mother up with a rundown on why disposables are bad. He will change her if Im not around and will do his best, but sometimes he does get it wrong, and now all our Happy Heinys are gone Im going to have to teach him how to use our new stuff.<br><br>
He's put a wool cover in the nappy pail before, but luckily I put on the rubber gloves and take everything out item by item, since I have a front loader.<br><br>
He totally doesnt get the hyena thing though. To his way of thinking, you buy a system, you use it and you buy the next size if its outgrown.
 

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I just don't understand why I'll have an angelwrap, that goes on JUST like a sposie, with a fresh liner in it, and my DH will grab the sposies that we have for overnight!
 

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I agree, hide the sposies or throw them away. I fyou use them for overnight, then hide them. IMO honeyboys are the most DH friendly diaper out there. There is no liner or snaps or stuffer, these are the things that make our poor DHs tuck tail and head for the woods.<br>
Mine does not change diapers, and you know what I am glad. He did for a while and all he used were honeyboys. He likes them and I am sure if he HAD to change the baby that is what he would use. There are no josh sized sposies in the house.<br>
Men will take the path of least resistance, so to them options are confusing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="laugh">:
 

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It was a gradual thing for my DH. He used sposies for a bit, then tried AIO's then pockets. Now he can used fitteds, covers and wool like a pro! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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my husband loves that I cloth diaper Ava - that being said, he changes one diaper every 3 months or something like that. He does a great job with a fuzzibunz though.<br><br>
I actually get to sleep in every Sunday morning and the night before I set out a FB and some cloth wipes for him and he must do ok because when I wake up the diaper is on well and she's not leaky.<br><br>
I'd definitely go with a simple to use for daddies dipe like pockets or AIOs<br><br>
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mine was hesitant at first, now on the third baby he can snappi down a bikini twisted prefold and cover it with wool. He knows how to rinse wool off when its pooped on, knows a fitted needs a cover, etc.. Prefolds made him very nervous until he met Mr. Snappi. We only have one AIO right now so it's easy for him to remember which that dipe that is.
 

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My ds is 15mo and my dh has only changed about three diapers so far. I use cpf's and fitteds w/wraps or wool, mostly. I tried buying him a few special pocket dipes and have them stuffed and ready-still nothing so far. I even tried buying him neat "daddy prints," good thing he's always with Mommy! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
At least I'm not the only one.
 

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My dh was unsure of the idea at first but once he saw it was just try folding and laying the prefolds in the cover he was pretty fond of it exspecially when we didnt have to go to the store for diapers anymore. Now he will sometimes even check out sites with me, or ask about things etc,,, he likes it and when we got pregnant with our third he was the first to mention we will need newborn clothys since we havnt cd'd a new born yet <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
ETA LOL funny thing now when we go through the sposie isle in the store , I use to be then one to take a deep breath and say ""ahhh smell the chemicals"" now he beats me to it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> lol
 

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I got both a golf dipe and a Spongebob Squarepants --- nothing' <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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well, on baby #1, dh was sort of trying to go along with me, but he would have happily reverted to disposables. but now, by baby #4, he actually washes them without being asked <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> and he and my obgyn even had a conversation in the delivery room -- doctor says, oh! his is a honey boy! we had some of these. bob--yea, i really like aio's a lot better, but joyce likes diapers & covers. at that point, my mil was looking at me and rolling her eyes. but my point here is, yes, they are educable. i've certainly saved a lot of money and dh has never had to make a midnight run to the drugstore for diapers <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
hide the disposables, and remember that men seem to do better with some uniformity than we do. the only time dh gets bummed out is when he can't tell if it's an aio or a diaper. i've seen some funny combos -- like a very absorbant luke's drawers aio with a dancing bears fleece cover over it. lol. poor baby. but at least he was one dry little guy.
 

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I feel your pain. My DH always reaches for sposies. I refuse to buy them and thought that would stop things but it didn't, he went and bought a case of the icky things! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: I won't hide them because knowing him he will just go out and buy more!<br><br>
I must say though every once in awhile he will try cloth so I'm praying that over time I can convert him. I told him that with the next baby I don't want to use ANY sposies by him or anyone else (grandparents also want to only use sposies) and he didn't argue so that's something. I will be a full time SAHM by that point - where right now I work 3 days a week while he stays with DS (at least I hope so - if all goes well with selling our home and downsizing!) so I will be more in control.
 

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I was afraid to ask DH what he thought about us using cloth but he thought it was a great idea. But he will not use a prefold. He is afraid of them. When she was a newborn he did good with a fitted and a cover, then when she moved into smalls I had got some fuzzi bunz and that is all he will use now. He did have to figure out a MEOS one day and did pretty good with that and was happy to know he could use those now too if he needed to. I just try to make sure there is always a Fuzzi Bunz for him. He actually had a hard time figuring out sposies when she started daycare. She woke up while I was in the shower and decided to change her and I left the sposie out for him and he had no clue. He was waiting for me to get out of the shower with her naky on the changing table. I think he is afraid of sposies too.
 

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Thank you for all your posts!! Im glad to hear Im not the only one
 
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