[mamadelbosque]

I mean, seriously. I must get that from every frigging person I see/talk to, every single day multiple times. First thing out of my dads mouth when he sees me (along with a critical look, as if I've been sick for the past month or something!), "are you feeling OK?", not "hi", not "how was your day", no, "Are you feeling OK??". I havent' been sick *at all* this pregnancy. At ALL. My only problem is I can't generally stomach meat (though I can at least eat sushi

), but aside from that I'm totally, completely, 100% peachy fine and normal!! And its just... frigging abnoxious. I just want to scream at people when they ask at this point "I'm pregnant, not f'ing dieing!!"

So... umm... am I crazy??

 

[JD5351]

Nope, you're not crazy at all.

I, myself am miserabable. I'm stiff and achy and pukey. And I don't need anyone to bring it to my attention like, "Wow, you look sore! Poor thing!" Yeah, if you notice so much, then give me a backrub or something..lol

 

[trauerweidchen]

I'm having a relatively easy pregnancy, so I'm getting tired of people asking how I'm feeling, but I'm trying really hard to be a good sport about it and answer politely. I figure they mean well and just don't know what else to ask.

 

[queen b]

for the first three months, when i was puking five times a day, it was nice to be asked because then i could bitch and get pity from everyone! now i feel fine and i am sooooo sick of that question. i usually don't really spend anytime on the answer. just an, "i'm great! how are you feeling/doing?"

people think pregnancy is some sort of debilitating disease. it's bonkers!

 

[Norasmomma]

With DD I got this so much from my SIL's mom every. single. time. I saw her, I think she just wanted me to be miserable when pg like she was. I just would say, "I feel great!!" Finally the last time she asked me that it was literally 105 on July 3rd and I saw her and she asked how I was and I told her great, again. She finally was like "you are the happiest pregnant woman I have ever seen, you really are happy and doing great." Uh, duh...I said that like 100x's before that. She had hard pregnancies, with GD and hates the heat and all her kids are born in August. No wonder it was so unbelievable.

 

[aricha]

Yeah, it drives me nuts, too... as do a lot of things people say ("wow, you've really popped out" is my absolute least favorite comment). I try very hard to remember that they want to say/ask something about the baby and just don't know what to say, and I try to keep my sarcastic retorts to myself. I'm not sure why "how's it going?" doesn't just cover it?

 

[Talula Fairie]

YES!!!

I was also getting sick of the "are you going to find out if it's a boy or a girl/when is your ultrasound/do you know yet" seriously I was getting those daily.

 

[MangoMommy]

LOL I get asked this daily too. I just say "tired" when they ask.

 

[darcytrue]

Sometimes, but not really.

I like the attention at times and sometimes I don't, just depends on how I am feeling.

 

[darcytrue]

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Originally Posted by Talula Fairie I was also getting sick of the "are you going to find out if it's a boy or a girl/when is your ultrasound/do you know yet" seriously I was getting those daily.

that's the question I keep getting from family members.

And when I first found out I was pregnant I got the "did you plan it?" a lot from everyone I know.

That's a rude question, even though no we didn't plan this baby, I still would rather not discuss how it happened. It seems personal to me.

 

[cinnamongrl]

I don't really get tired of them asking... I do get tired of not having a new response for them. I get tired of saying "pukey, tired" etc....

 

[brinalicious]

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Originally Posted by darcytrue And when I first found out I was pregnant I got the "did you plan it?" a lot from everyone I know. That's a rude question, even though no we didn't plan this baby, I still would rather not discuss how it happened. It seems personal to me.

We just started telling people about our pregnancy, and I can't believe how many people--really nice, well-intentioned people that I genuinely like--are asking if this was a "surprise." It really is a totally inappropriate question that only your sarcastic best girlfriend has the right to ask, and she wouldn't because she would know if you were TTC. Anyway, I have tried to be a good sport about it. The truth is that this is our third child and the only one we actually planned, which I usually say in a bit of a sarcastic tone. It really is like asking, "So, how well do you know how to use birth control?" No one would really ask that, so why do they think it's OK to ask if it was planned????

 

[Full Heart]

I hate the question. I never know why people are asking. Are they nosey? Do they care - really? Is it just a comment like when you pass someone on the street, "How ya doin." Which I think has replaced "Hi". Do they really want to know my pelvis hurts and my vv is throbbing and I am up to pee every hour and having panic attacks thinking about labor? I didn't think so. So I always say "fine".

 

[Gnatty]

I did with my 1st pregnancy because it is socially awkward to respond with "I feel like throwing up."

This time I've felt great, but it still gets kind of old.

I know that people see me and this pregnant tummy and they instantly are thinking about me being pregnant, but even their well meaning questions are hard to take.

I complained to my DH recently, "Nobody can just say "Good morning! How are you?" anymore!?"

 

[cristeen]

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Originally Posted by mamadelbosque I just want to scream at people when they ask at this point "I'm pregnant, not f'ing dieing!!"

Maybe you should.

:

At least it'd give them something else to talk about.

 

[songbird45]

this question doesn't bother me... it's easy to rehearse the answer in advance.

The thing that really irritates me is everyone thinking I can't do things. I was at the temple the other day, and I was sitting on the floor along with everyone else, and someone came up to me and asked me if I needed a chair! People, I'm not 60!

 

[heart-n-bones]

Quote:

Originally Posted by darcytrue And when I first found out I was pregnant I got the "did you plan it?" a lot from everyone I know. That's a rude question, even though no we didn't plan this baby, I still would rather not discuss how it happened. It seems personal to me.

I got this question. But my partner's a woman! Of course we planned it. It's not like it was going to happen by accident!

 

[pearl2]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Full Heart I hate the question. I never know why people are asking. Are they nosey? Do they care - really? Is it just a comment like when you pass someone on the street, "How ya doin." Which I think has replaced "Hi". Do they really want to know my pelvis hurts and my vv is throbbing and I am up to pee every hour and having panic attacks thinking about labor? I didn't think so. So I always say "fine".

EXACTLY. I don't want to say my business, especially to coworkers who I really don't talk to normally except a passing "hello."

 

[vegasgrl]

I just told everyone and it's getting old.

The other thing I can't STAND is people telling me what I should and shouldn't do, both now and after the baby is here. It's really just uncalled for; everyone's experience is so different and unsolicited advice is getting old FAST.

 

[KirstenMary]

Those don't bother me, but the, "OMG, you're still here" comments are starting to bug me just a bit.