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How do you deal? My oldest has always been this way, and truthfully it drives me insane and it really worries me.<br><br>
He gets on one thing, and LIVES that particular topic until he gets onto something else. Now, I know some degree of this is normal with children but his is really bad. When he was little it was airplanes, and that was cute since he got that from his Daddy. But then it was guns/army, and now its a particular computer game that also uses weapons (bows and such, no guns). When he's not playing the game on the computer, he's acting the game out around the house, or drawing pictures of the game, or talking about the game. If we take the game away and have him not play it, it'll be just like this about something else. I could use some help/advice, but please be kind.
 

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I don't know how to change the behavior, but maybe you could surround him with things that would be healthier to obsess about than guns and fighting? Try gradually exposing him to things like bugs- those are plenty gross and boyish!- or dinosaurs or sports, if you are into that?<br><br>
Just an idea.<br><br>
I was wondering if my 4yo was becoming OCD lately because she will say the same word a couple times in a row- like she needs to get the sound just right before moving on. Not sure if it is just a phase or something I should worry about.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I don't know how to change the behavior, but maybe you could surround him with things that would be healthier to obsess about than guns and fighting? Try gradually exposing him to things like bugs- those are plenty gross and boyish!- or dinosaurs or sports, if you are into that?<br><br>
Just an idea.<br><br>
I was wondering if my 4yo was becoming OCD lately because she will say the same word a couple times in a row- like she needs to get the sound just right before moving on. Not sure if it is just a phase or something I should worry about.</div>
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Thank you for responding. He has recently started soccer and seems to enjoy that, and this summer he will be playing T-ball. In the past he has done many other activites (music class, gymnastics, art class, story time, etc) and has enjoyed them all but he hasn't developed a strong intrest in any of them. We are always trying to expose him to a variety of things, taking him to the zoo, science museum, children's museums, farms, etc, etc. When he was younger I tried getting him onto dinosaurs and space stuff but they didn't "take".<br><br>
He also is constantly repeating things (words/sentances or noises) over and over.
 

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Sounds like you are doing what you can. Have you contacted your health care provider about it? I've been watching dd because if I think it is a problem, I'd rather get it treated and nip it in the bud now before it becomes any stronger. I'll try an ND first, though because they won't just prescribe some drug!
 

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I don't know if his Dr. would be the right person to talk to about it, but perhaps his school counciller would have some advice.
 

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My ds (9) obsesses. From ages 2-6 he was all about Thomas the Tank Engine. He had other interests but he loved Thomas and loved to play with his trains and talk about it. Ages 6-8.5 -cars. Loved cars. He could identify every car we passed on the road. Now he is 9 and it is Star Wars. All Star Wars all the time. It does not really worry me because we can tell him when we no longer want to hear about it and to move on. If his friends don't want to play star wars he will play something else. He is aware of his obsession and that not everyone shares it.
 

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My ds almost 4 is completely obsessed with firetrucks. This has been going on since he was a year and a half when he first watched Elmo visits the Fire Station. So for 21/2 years straight, every other word is firetruck. He had a firetruck party last year and tomorrow for his birthday party, guess what will be on his cake? A firetruck.<br><br>
He also has to have things in a very particular way all the time, very organized. I just think that's who he is. My dd 12 was nothing like this. She still cannot focus on one thing for very long.<br><br>
I think children who obsess on certain things and do things in a certain way a very focused and that's not a bad thing. I wish I was more like that.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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my ds is like this. I actually just posted about it. Like you said, it's fairly common. My DS obsessed too but I do think there's something that no one has mentioned. Looking at what he choses might prove to shed some light on things. Like my ds became obsessed w/superheros approx. when youngest dc was born. Pretty simple, I guess. Power issues. normal by day, powerful by night.<br><br>
I thought it was interesting and did what I could to make him feel powerful even just in play. You, as mom, will best know what it means. Could be so many things, anger, dealing with death, who knows?<br><br>
HTH.
 

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Thank you all for your responses. At least I know he is not the only one.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I thought it was interesting and did what I could to make him feel powerful even just in play. You, as mom, will best know what it means. Could be so many things, anger, dealing with death, who knows?<br><br>
HTH.</div>
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Thanks for your insight. Well, actually all of these things have come from my DH... as in DS obesses about whatever DH is intrested in at the moment. I'm not really sure what it could mean on the deeper sense, other than him wanting to be like DH and get more attention from him. DH doesn't see any of this as a problem, and is impossible to have a rational conversation with so that doesn't really help me any.
 

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Yeah, I've got one too. Ds is currently obsessed by: fire trucks and bus schedules. (One of his friends at school rides the bus every day and brings ds a bus schedule.) Before that it was a 3 year jaunt into garbage trucks, supplemented some times by trains/light rail (thank heavens we've got a good public transportation system here!)<br><br>
Usually, I just go with the flow. If I'm tired of playing a game, I'll let ds know. He's got just enough interests/ability to focus on other things that I'm not completely worried. I do worry at times about Asperberger syndrome (he's got some sensory issues as well), but until I get more evidence that his obsessions are a PROBLEM for his interactions with kids or other adults, I'm inclined just to let it go.<br><br>
and hey, it makes it VERY easy to buy gifts for him. Ds turns 6 on Monday, and it was a snap to make a list for him. Dd turns 3 in a month, and I still have NO idea what to suggest for her.
 
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