Does anyone else not even have a bed for their child?

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roseselene

Discussion Starter · Mar 31, 2006

Hi! We cosleep with both DD and DS. DD is 3 y.o. and DS is 18 months. There is a bedroom that is "their room" if they actually need such a thing. They actually refer to it as the diaper room.

Anyway, we don't even own a bed for them. Is that bad? Should I get a bed for them, so that they have one? Just to say that we have one? there is no way on the earth that DD is ready to sleep in her own bed. She is just way too attached, its just not a possibility right now. But then I start with this little inner dialogue with myself, "maybe we should by a bed" "its weird that we don't have a bed for the kids" etc etc......
Am I crazy? Should I turn that inner voice off and just continue doing what we're doing? Or waste the money and go out and by a new bed so that cats have a new place to sleep?
Amy

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mrmsmommy

· #2 · Mar 31, 2006

You already got the most important bed, the family bed, what more could a child want? How lucky and blessed are they!!!
But if you want to start them in a bed of their own, why not just buy like a twin size matress and set it next to your bed. This way their still near you, but they are on their side of the bed?

I wish my room was big enough to do this. LOL

Our 3 yr old sleeps in the middle, in between me and my hubby, I always wake up to a toe in my nose, or a head on my head. LOL

roseselene

Discussion Starter · #3 · Mar 31, 2006

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Well, we already have a twin bed in the room right up against our bed. We have a king and a twin squished together in one big bed. Might I also add that our great dane thinks he is part of the family bed, so the family bed includes one 165 pound dog

It's DH..then DD in between us, then me, the DS over on the twin side. DD is far too separation anxiety prone to go over to the twin. I think she'll be sleeping with us when she's 18.

She actually has to be touching us to sleep, so I don't really think she's ready to move over. I think DS will be ready to move to his own bed before she is.
Amy

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thismama

· #4 · Mar 31, 2006

I just got a bed for my 2.5 yr old the other week. Well, someone gave me a mattress and boxspring, and my friend found a frame in the garbage.. Eureka! Toddler bed.

She had been kind of playing during the day with being in her "own bed" with her doll. We set up the bed with cool sheets, and she was really excited. She likes to sit in it during the day and read, or pretend to be sleeping.

But at night, she goes to sleep in my bed. She has no desire to sleep alone.

mrmsmommy

· #5 · Mar 31, 2006

I just love hearing all these wonderful stories of families sharing a bed, its a beautiful thing.

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mamaGjr

· #6 · Mar 31, 2006

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Originally Posted by roseselene
Hi! We cosleep with both DD and DS. DD is 3 y.o. and DS is 18 months. There is a bedroom that is "their room" if they actually need such a thing. They actually refer to it as the diaper room.

Anyway, we don't even own a bed for them. Is that bad? Should I get a bed for them, so that they have one? Just to say that we have one? there is no way on the earth that DD is ready to sleep in her own bed. She is just way too attached, its just not a possibility right now. But then I start with this little inner dialogue with myself, "maybe we should by a bed" "its weird that we don't have a bed for the kids" etc etc......
Am I crazy? Should I turn that inner voice off and just continue doing what we're doing? Or waste the money and go out and by a new bed so that cats have a new place to sleep?
Amy

the only reason to buy a bed for that room is if you need it for company...ya know , overnight guests!

ds 3.5 has always had his own "diaper " room

his clothes , toys but the "bed " has always been that extra piece of furniture we keep for guests ...it was a futon, a twin bed..and now it is a double bed (we get all my sister's old furniture)
My parents sleep in ds's "room" when they visit...it is great....he sleeps with us still

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boheime

· #7 · Mar 31, 2006

We have "the bedroom." The master bedrrom is one of the reasons we purchased this house. It is big enough for our king/queen combo along with our big furniture (dresser, chest of drawers, and two nightstands). If we ever needed to, we could add a twin with plenty of space still. Ds is 3 1/3 yrs. old and dd is 18 months. The bedroom down the hall is "the playroom." Toys, books, a fish tank....Someday we will buy them their own beds, but as of now they have no interest in it. Dd nurses to sleep and through the night and ds still wants snuggle sto go to sleep and if he wakes up during the night.

ericswifey27

· #8 · Mar 31, 2006

My son does have his own bed but like the crib, it doesn't get a lot of use

Sometimes for naps we will lay him down on his bed but at night time it's in between mama and daddy

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frenchie

· #9 · Mar 31, 2006

Don't fix something that's not broken!! When y'all are ready for a seperate bed, that will be the right time.

DreamsInDigital

· #10 · Mar 31, 2006

DS age 2 didn't have a bed until we moved and he wanted to share a room with his big brother. Baby DS doesn't have a bed and probably won't until he decides he wants his own space.

CrazyCatLady

· #11 · Mar 31, 2006

Dd is 19 months now and we've never owned a crib, kid bed, or anything like it.

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Emmi&theKids

· #12 · Mar 31, 2006

I never had a crib or cot when mine were babies, and didn't have another bed in the house til my ds was 5 - he has just moved into his own bed this week at age 8 - I got a bed for my dd's "room" when she was 5 and, at 6, she's currently experimenting with sleeping there sometimes if she's feeling like it. If you're happy as things are then why waste the money, you may as well wait til your dd is showing signs of wanting her own space.

DebraBaker

· #13 · Mar 31, 2006

When our children were little, we didn't have a bed for them because they didn't sleep alone.

Funny, when we moved into our new house, I showed my Uncle Fred through the house. Finally, we went to the master bedroom and he looked confused and asked where the baby's crib was. I told him we don't use a crib. It seemed completely foreign to him. At that time, we had the baby in bed with us, and two preschoolers on mats on the floor and the older three had their own bedrooms.

DB

roseselene

Discussion Starter · #14 · Mar 31, 2006

Ok, glad i'm not the only one who hasn't gone out and bought a bed yet.
Amy

Lazyhead

· #15 · Mar 31, 2006

my dd is 2 and we've never used a separate bed for her. my cousin insisted on loaning me a crib when my dd was born and it has sat in garage since the day she brought it. i love sleeping all cuddled up with my girl!

JamesMama

· #16 · Mar 31, 2006

My dad bought me a beautiful crib when I was pg with James. It has never been used except to contain him for a minute so I could get the mail or whatever else.

We recently tore the crib down for more space, but are considering turning the 'spare room' into James' room so at least it's THERE, he can keep his toys in there. We will get rid of the spare full size bed (as much as I'd like to move James into a full size bed when he's out of our bed, the bed takes up too much of his room, I want him to have space to play) by putting it in storage and we are saving our pennies right now for a twin size captians bed.

ETA, but right now we do not have a seperate bed for James. There has never been a need. He sleeps best with us and I have no plans to make him leave the family bed anytime soon. Our night time cuddle time is very precious to us.

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s_kristina

· #17 · Mar 31, 2006

We got dd her first bed at 2.5 years old when she asked for it. I think she was asking because her cousin had just gotten a new twin bed. We still often end up with her in our bed at 4 years old so just because we got her a bed didn't mean we were kicking her out. We plan to do the same thing for ds and get him his own bed when he asks for one.

georgia

· #18 · Mar 31, 2006

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nurseminako

· #19 · Mar 31, 2006

My 3 year old does sleep in his own bed, but we did not set up a bed for our now 10 month old. Well, there's a co-sleeper by the bed & a pack & play downstairs which are never used, but other than that...

Nancy

Ruthla

· #20 · Mar 31, 2006

I used to actually have a bed for each family member, regardless of where we actually slept. Now, my 4yo is in my bed full time, my 11yo is in my room full time (in the bed that's "supposed to be" for the 4yo) and the 9yo has her own room (with 2 beds in it, one of which is "supposed to be" for the 11yo.) We just made this change becuase the 11yo and 9yo couldn't share a room peacefully and the 11yo volunteered to move out. We're still not sure if this is a permenant setup or not- I may move the queen bed into the smaller bedroom, put both girls back together but in the larger bedroom and put up curtains to partition the room.

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I had a crib set up in my bedroom when DS was an infant- it was mostly used as a changing table but it was also nice to have a safe place to put him down if i needed to shower or something.

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